I've been dating THE girl for about ten months now. Our relationship has moved somewhat sluggishly for the first three months and I was in no hurry but then it all escalated. We have this love for eachother that I never thought I'd feel in a lifetime. Well, come to find out she's cheated on me on two occasions. She's not the same girl I fell in love with in the least. Basically I'm not good enough for her....but when I found out all of a sudden I'm all she needs and she doesn't see why she never realized it in the first place. I never broke up with her. I loved her and I still love her more than anything in the world, but she's not giving me what I need even though in a way I know she'll die without me. There are a number of other girls (life-long friends) in my life now that have openly told me that they loved me. I love the girl that cheated on me. But now, I just don't know. Wat do I do? Email mathik11@yahoo.com for more info so I can get a better answer...it takes more to type.
2006-12-03 06:41:42 · 7 answers · asked by Derek S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hon, cheaters never stop cheating, I'm sorry to say.
You would be best to break it off, and move on. Find a girl who will love you, because this one doesn't---or she would NOT have cheated!
Even tho she feels like the one, she clearly isn't, since she hurt you so much.
The RIGHT one is still looking for you!
2006-12-03 06:49:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not sure how old you are or she is,but sometimes immaturity is what causes all this mess. She might have not given you the value ,but it is not good to cheat on you. If she really loved you , She should have spoken to you about what she didnt like,so that you had the opportunity on the first place to fix it.if she didnt,she was very selfish . as you said, it is difficult for us to give you a straight answer when we do not know all ALL the details,but just with this info,you are the only one that know if she is worthed to get a second chance. and about the other girls, again,it depends on how much compatbility you think you might have with them.,
good luck !!
2006-12-03 07:42:46 · answer #2 · answered by confuse06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk away. You will love again and be loved by someone that respects you. Don't wait until you are married with children and she decides she just isn't "in love" with you anymore. I have been married for 11 years w/five children and my husband cheated for the last year with my best friend and now I am stuck. If he loved me could he do this? I don't want to rip my family apart...but the last year of our life is a lie and I don't want to have that be the future. I deserve more. You need to consider your whole future with this girl. Really evaluate what kind of person she is. Good luck and remember to love yourself. She didn't cheat because you aren't good enough, she cheated for her own selfish reasons.
2006-12-03 06:50:35 · answer #3 · answered by otowndmbfan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she never was this girl u fell in love with, maybe u saw only what u wanted to see. if she has cheated on u, not once but twice, than it's kind of turning into a pattern of behavior. she sees u are a wonderful man who forgives easily, and loves unconditionally, so she would be a fool to let u go. but you know what if u keep her, u will have a lifetime of hurt and pain, of forgiving. maybe u need to give one of these other girls a chance with u. won't help u in life to love the cheater, unless u are really into having a constant brokenheart.
2006-12-03 11:51:20 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boo Boo...Wake up!!!!She knows you are a good man and she wants her cake and eat it too...She wants to see other people but she does not want to let you go..You seem like a good man and you can do better..The way you know that the right woman has come is when you getting this feeling that is different from any other woman that you have dated...That person will make you feel like no one else could make you feel....When you find that woman, you will know....She is not it because she is not yet settled and ready to love....She needs more time as you two are on two different levels...It seems as if you are settled and she wants to continue to explore...Don't waist your time, just relax and continue to live your life and the right woman will find you...Don't go looking, some way she will find you...
2006-12-03 08:10:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
remember the love you have for her, remember the hurt she caused you, and move on. you already know there are other people out there, and she isn't worth your time. just remember how you feel because if you ever get in this situation again, you are going to feel this same pain. whatever consequencs she has caused herself by not being with you is her fault, not yours. if she loved you, she wouldn't have cheated, plain and simple. move on. you don't need this.
2006-12-03 06:59:19 · answer #6 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont need to hear anymore, you are unhappy and holding on to something that doesnt exsist anymore
2006-12-03 06:53:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋