my fiance left me and the 2 kids 4 weeks ago to move in with a 19 year old coworker. I am 22, he is 24. he says he made a big mistake and that he loves me, misses me so much, and he'll never leave again. He also said he cannot move on unless he tries one more time. Well he came home today, but he said he can't quit his job yet, which scares me but I won't push it, how should I proceed to make this relationship work? I believe he is very sincere, but I am still scared that he will leave and I don't want him to know that. What should I do to make this work
2006-12-03 06:41:30 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I fell for ya. I have been in that situation. Trust is a hard thing. And unfortunately, two years after the fact, I still hadn't forgiven him. 8 years later....I'm not totally sure I have yet. I gotta hand it to ya for giving him a 2nd chance. No it doesn't mean you have low self esteem like someone said on here, just means your very in love. Knowing what I know now. I would have never even tried again. That addage "If he cheated once and got away with it, he'll do it again." is so true. But I do wish you luck. Just be patient, maybe go to couples therapy.
2006-12-03 07:20:57 · answer #1 · answered by ♥N,K,E&DJ'§ Mommy♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, he wants to bed hop with a 19 year old, she cuts him off, and he runs back to you. What is there to think about? If your self esteem is so low that you would actually take him back, you get everything you deserve when he craps on you again. Pick your head up, kick him out, and move on with your life. This guy is to immature for a relationship with you.
2006-12-03 15:01:51 · answer #2 · answered by spag 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only say that by communicating, prayer and rebuilding trust....It is hard, I know, I am at that point with my hubby.....Constant prayer.....All you have to do is have faith that your marriage will work.....Its your hubby immaturity of age....Take things slow....don't nag him or bring up the past as you will help push him back out there.....
All I can say is that you will notice if your hubby is back out there because men always tell on themselves...Men patterns change(start doing things differently)...
In time all hurt and pain will heel but stay wise and keep yourself alert and take it easy.....Stay strong for the little ones as they need you....
Good Luck
2006-12-03 16:19:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! This is a hard one...
At first I was thinking- RUN, GIRL,RUN...but I understand your feelings 100%.
The only thing I can tell you is to give it a go but keep your eyes and ears open. It's a sucky way to live but you'll never know what's going on for sure if you don't keep an eye on things!
2006-12-03 14:52:18 · answer #4 · answered by preciouspinkla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it day by day...he shouldnt quit his job unless he has another to back it up...your also very young to already have 2 kids...make sure u make it perfectly clear to him this will be his last time and he will not get another chance after this...so if he is serious he will make this work...good luck
2006-12-03 14:50:41 · answer #5 · answered by Michele 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋