Should i tell her we are dating or just keep it on the down low?This could be strange?I dont want things to get akward?I am really compatibal personality wise and emotionally with her brother and feel he might be the guy i end up with possibly marrying. Problem is they dont get along.We are all in college but we commute to school and their bedrooms are next too each other.
2006-12-03 06:07:47 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I have been casually dating him for 3 months but he says he does not want her to throw a fit!
2006-12-03 06:08:35 · update #1
He thinks she will try and medle which she has a bad habit of doing.
2006-12-03 06:14:41 · update #2
You should def tell her... she is going to be pissed either way b/c you lied.. you should have told her b4 so much time has gone by. It makes it harder to stay in your relationship if you have a bunch of secrets.. and if the sister starts hating on you.
Tell her by yourself.. without anyone around... tell her you didnt want to say anything until you and your man were really serious b/c you guys didnt want to be embarassed or something... anything that makes her look LESS stupid.
2006-12-03 06:11:11 · answer #1 · answered by yo mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't keep this secret! And you better wonder why hasn't your boyfriend told his sister who is YOUR friend about the relationship?? Seems that you may wind up in the family feud. Air this all out together as adults! Perhaps it will end this sibling immaturity as well! Brothers and Sisters need each other! Time will prove this out. Good luck. Just read "he does not want her to throw a fit" I think rather, that he is unsure of himself and so he does not want her to find out until he is sure of his own intentions! Watch out! Don't be used by him! Maybe he does not want her to warn you off of him! Pull the covers on this now!
2006-12-03 14:13:05 · answer #2 · answered by Faerie loue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her ASAP. She might be jealous at first, because she will think all your time will be dedicated for him. Make sure she knows no man will ever come between you two, and that you are sincere in your relationship with him.
It might take her some time. Give her the space she needs, and as she sees you two are happy, im sure she'll warm up to the idea. And i would love to have my best friend as an in-law, but her brother is too young, and just too...erik. Ew. Now i need to go take a hot shower...
But hey...good luck!!
2006-12-03 14:14:25 · answer #3 · answered by kissamoose217 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello! You state that you are really compatible with this man to the extent that you could see yourself marrying him but you are worried about what you best friend might think? Geez - grow up, girl! You need to sit your best friend down and let her know that you are seeing her brother, that you and he are becoming serious about your relationship. You need to let her know that you love and appreciate her as your best friend but that her brother is extremely important in your life. If she does not understand that, then she is not your best friend no matter how close you "think" the two of you are. Best friends do not put that kind of demands on their best friend.
If you do not tell her, first of all you're a wimp and second of all you face certain disaster of mistrust when she finds out accidentally - and she will find out.
Honesty is one of the most important components of friendship.
2006-12-03 14:15:02 · answer #4 · answered by LABL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her because if you wait any longer you might just lose you relationship with you best friend.And if you wait until you and her brother get married you are really going to be stuck in the middle of a problem for the rest of your life!You should always be real with you best friend no matter how difficult it is!
The other guestion is was she always real to you!If she was then think about how she would feel about you being not real and she was always real to you! I Think you should tell her!Good Luck! If you need someone to talk to or need to talk to me again then E-mail me at Jasmine_cooper0@yahoo.com.Good Luck!!!
2006-12-03 14:22:42 · answer #5 · answered by jasmine_cooper0 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a sister and me and her never got along together but i would do anything for my sister and she would for me eventually when we grew up we have a better understanding of each other............so they might not get along but will always be there for each other so dont worry about that part.........the tuff part is telling your best friend your in love with her brother because if it dont work out between you two then it could end your twos freindship depends on how the sistuation is handled but if your in love then i say talk to them both at the same time or get their opions for a one on one stand put.............
2006-12-03 14:13:28 · answer #6 · answered by googleh20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you HAVE to tell her. friends come before bf, but more importantly she will find out from someone else and it will get even worse. the sooner you tell her the better. If shes a good friend she will want to see you happy and be fine with it. if she has a problem with it shes kinda selfish cause friends are supposed to keep each other happy not keep them from they love of their life
good luck :]
2006-12-03 14:45:40 · answer #7 · answered by bballxbaby147 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her if you have been going out for three months already she most likely already does know and if she doen't she deserves to. i am sure that if you tellher how much you like him she will be happy for you. after all if you think you are gonna marry this guy she is going to have to find out sooner or later. Good Luck!!
2006-12-03 14:28:44 · answer #8 · answered by Marcella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two are best friends, she should understand. And if you love this guy enough to think that you might marry him, you should be comfortable enough to tell the sister; and if she tries to mettle, you should be able to hold your own and stay together. It`s all about how strong these relationships are.
2006-12-03 14:26:13 · answer #9 · answered by SRAWRRR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is going to find out sometime.
Would you rather her find out the day before you get married?
My advice: Tell her now so that it doesn't cause any other problems.
Also, let your BF know how you feel about the situation.
2006-12-03 14:10:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋