2006-12-03 06:05:18 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
leave them alone and dont offer the unwanted help,you can lead a horse to water but cant make it drink
2006-12-03 06:07:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your question does not give enough details. Perhaps you could re-ask it.
However, it sounds as though you must deal with this person, so prior answers telling you to 'walk away' etc. are not necessarily what you're looking for.
Sometimes a difficult person is being that way because he/she is in trouble, or cripple or ill. Sometimes the person is newly in need of help and don't want to accept it...too proud, or stubborn, or just plain mad at the World.
Try asking the difficult person to help you cope with the matter at hand. As a last resort, leave the person alone until he/she can face the problem personally and realize he/she needs help. Say a prayer for yourself and that person. God's lead is always the best.
2006-12-03 06:25:36 · answer #2 · answered by TexasStar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I deal with this every day...not just in my home but in my job
I am a service agent for an insurance company, I only know about a problem when a client informs me of one, when I go see them or some I just have to call and I'm told..."I don't need your help" Duh??? why call me?
At home, same thing, why, why, why? when I tell them why they don't want to know...then why ask?
I look at it like this...I give the facts, take them or leave them folks...if you just want a shoulder to cry on or someone to listen for a minute my shoulders are broad and my ears were not put on my head for ornaments. I can handle difficult...rude is another problem, for those people I have no time for
2006-12-03 06:19:21 · answer #3 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does a friend need some money and won't take a loan?
If this is the case, and there are no kids going to go hungry or naked, or without medicine.You got to leave it be honey, they have pride and it is going to choke them.
but if they do come to you later and say please help..... help them with out the I told you so's. They are not really helpful and they make people feel really inadequate.
If it is about an abusive situation, then you must help. Especially if there are children or spousal abuse happening, or parental abuse to children, or children abusing their parents.
If it is a friend, then back way off. and let the chips fall around them. They are the ones that will learn, and you can help then.
remember though..... no I told you so's.
2006-12-03 15:12:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are tlaking about friends or family, imposing your advice on them is the last thing you should do. It is disrespectful, condescending, overbearing, and it undermines their competence or capability. No one micromanages your life, do they? How do you feel when others impose their help on you?
If you are talking about your children, that's different. Let them try, then be there to help them when they fail.
And NEVER say I told you so. It makes you look condescending and self-righteous.
2006-12-03 06:13:43 · answer #5 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really depends on the situation.
if it has to do with friends. you have to find out if they are being deficult because they want attention or because they really don't want people to feel sry for them. if thats the case if its cause they want attention, when they bring up just be like that sucks and blow it off. but if its for the other reason then don't press them to much, but if you think that maybe you can get them to let there feelings out go for it
but if its any other situation like an adult, just the meaner they are to you, the nicer you should be. cause eventually they will relize they can't be mean to you when you arn't doing anything. it just takes time
good luck :]
2006-12-03 06:30:32 · answer #6 · answered by bballxbaby147 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Back off. Let them make their own mistakes, and if they need you they will ask.
That's the funny thing about help...if someone doesn't want what you offer then you are merely wasting your efforts. Let them know you are there for them, but no more. If they come to you later you can offer your assistance....
2006-12-03 06:08:16 · answer #7 · answered by dancing_in_the_hail 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The best way to deal with them is not to deal with them at all.
If they don't want your help, then why stress yourself out over their drama?
2006-12-03 06:10:43 · answer #8 · answered by Kailey 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
justlet yhando it on there own you can asnwer than againg when is the vright time people dont like a lot help you tell i am will to help you with an thing you wantb me to do
2006-12-03 06:12:20 · answer #9 · answered by DIANE E 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
For what situation?
Leave them alone and give them a gift or help annonymously.
2006-12-03 06:07:10 · answer #10 · answered by Nikki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋