My best friend Mark is in a really bad situation right now and I'm worried for him. Him and his girlfriend Sarah were deeply in love. They were going to be engaged after being together for four years. However, Sarah suffered from clinical depression and often threatened to commit suicide from problems with her family life. The other thing that kept her going was Mark.
Last month, she finally did it. She hung herself at home and her parents found her later. Like most suicides, she had written a death note. On the part that was addressed to Mark, it said something along the lines of "I promised you that I could handle this thing called life, but I couldn't. I love you Mark, and if you truly love me like you said you do, I know I'll see you on the otherside soon."
Sarah had asked Mark to commit suicide as well. I've been comforting him, but I don't know how much longer I can do it. He's currently seeking professional help. If you were Mark, what would you do? What can I do to help him?
2006-12-03 05:56:56 · 10 answers · asked by DSpite 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
That is very sad, and i am truly sorry. Support Mark and keep a close eye on him. If I was Mark, I would continue seeing my therapist. Good luck and best wishes.
2006-12-03 06:02:25 · answer #1 · answered by Flutie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Right now, Mark needs all the support he can get. I'm glad he's getting help.
It sounds like Sarah was more than just clinically depressed, she may have had a personality disorder, or something deeper. The final note to him was very manipulative, and written by a very sick person. It will haunt him forever. She didn't understand real love, and it's really sad, but really true.
Keep being a good friend to him like you are, and stay in touch with him often. Listen to him when he needs to be listened to, and leave him alone when he needs to be alone. Take him out when he needs to be cheered up. It's a terrible situation, and the only thing that will help him is knowing how much he's loved by others, and how important his own life is.
2006-12-03 06:03:38 · answer #2 · answered by lovebluenfluff 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Mark needs to luv her enough to let her go. He know what she did was wrong, it solved nothing and is causing more harm and pain. Mark is wise to talk with pychatrist to help him deal with the guilt feelings that the immediate family have. She was ill, maniac depression is a real, chemical illness in the brain. Mark would do more good to honor his girlfriend life by sharing with groups of teens who are sudicial and depressed. He can help by sharing their story. Giving those kids hopes and insight to not do this to their friends nor families. It's going to take alot of time to endure the pain she dealt all of them. He will be in my thoughts and prayers.
2006-12-03 06:23:35 · answer #3 · answered by Staci 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get this guy into that help immediately. Hold his hand and lead him if you have to. Make every effort to be there for him. Thatt's really all you can do.
This woman was crazy if she thought their love meant self-destruction for him. Tell him so. A woman who really loved him would want his happiness, not his death.
Good luck with this. What a damn world we live in....
2006-12-03 06:03:36 · answer #4 · answered by lmcbuilder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a really hard situation because he loved her and she meant a lot to him. i think i wouldn't kill myself too because if she loved him like she did then she would want him to live and be happy rememberin the good times she had with him instead of askin him to join her in the otherside. all you can do is show him that he's loved and that its not the correct thing to do and just basically keep bein there for him. but its really up to him and his choice will be chosen based on his feelings for her!!!
2006-12-03 06:02:17 · answer #5 · answered by GigglesGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI!
Tell him that if someone really loves you they would not commit suicide. That is an easy out. He should continue in getting help and realize that she was not the one and live life to the fullest!!!
2006-12-03 06:00:04 · answer #6 · answered by -------- 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She is dead and there's no other side for him to join her. There's a hope of resurrection for her. Be his emotional support.
Where are the dead?
Gen. 3:19: “In the sweat of your face you will eat bread until you return to the ground, for out of it you were taken. For dust you are and to dust you will return.”
Eccl. 9:10: “All that your hand finds to do, do with your very power, for there is no work nor devising nor knowledge nor wisdom in Sheol [“the grave,” KJ, Kx; “the world of the dead,” TEV], the place to which you are going.”
What is the condition of the dead?
Eccl. 9:5: “The living are conscious that they will die; but as for the dead, they are conscious of nothing at all.”
Ps. 146:4: “His spirit goes out, he goes back to his ground; in that day his thoughts [“thoughts,” KJ, 145:4 in Dy; “all his thinking,” NE; “plans,” RS, NAB] do perish.”
John 11:11-14: “‘Lazarus our friend has gone to rest, but I am journeying there to awaken him from sleep.’ . . . Jesus said to them outspokenly: ‘Lazarus has died.’” (Also Psalm 13:3)
Is there some part of man that lives on when the body dies?
Ezek. 18:4: “The soul [“soul,” RS, NE, KJ, Dy, Kx; “man,” JB; “person,” TEV] that is sinning—it itself will die.”
Isa. 53:12: “He poured out his soul [“soul,” RS, KJ, Dy; “life,” TEV; “himself,” JB, Kx, NAB] to the very death.” (Compare Matthew 26:38.)
See also the main headings “Soul” and “Spirit.”
Are the dead in any way able to help or to harm the living?
Eccl. 9:6: “Their love and their hate and their jealousy have already perished, and they have no portion anymore to time indefinite in anything that has to be done under the sun.”
Isa. 26:14: “They are dead; they will not live. Impotent in death, they will not rise up.”
2006-12-03 06:00:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
a good therapist, because that chick was twisted,,,,and we all know the only sin god wont forgive is suicide,
2006-12-03 06:01:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. No offense, but she has no right to ask him to kill himself to be with her! Seriously.
2006-12-03 05:59:44 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you got some weird friends, , , but if they like it, i love it. hard to get a chicken to change its spots.
2006-12-03 06:04:39 · answer #10 · answered by mejicojohn 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋