One of the guys living in my apartment, named Jack, shares his room with another guy. His girlfirend, Tabitha, comes over every weekend and they camp out in the living room of our apartment and take it over like its their own room. The worst part is that Jack moves his bed into the living room, and they sleep out there, and do god know what else. It makes me uncomfortable and I don't think its fair. Am I being unreasonable, or is my roommate (Jack) acting inappropriate?
2006-12-03 05:40:47 · 9 answers · asked by soccer_guy017 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You have the right to express your feelings to Jack.
He's not being respectful of his other roommates.
Let him know it makes you uncomfpotable every damn weekend!
Let him know the livingroom is a shared room in the house.
Why can't they go to his gf's house?
Put your foot down. Make sure you do it with Tabathia there too, so she get's the idea about being alittle more respectful of YOUR living quarters too.
2006-12-03 05:46:25 · answer #1 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the situation. Some people are okay with random people camping out in the living room.
Personally it seems rather inconsiderate for Jack to be having his girlfriend stay over on the weekend and stay in the living room, especially if it's the shared space. What are the other two people supposed to do? Did you guys set up any rules about having guests over? It may be time to remind Jack of them.
If you did not establish rules, it might be a good idea to talk to Jack when he's not with his girlfriend, sometime during the week. Does the other roommate feel uncomfortable? Maybe he's just glad to have his own room for the weekend. It might be good for all three of you to sit down, calmly, and discuss rules for when everyone (don't point fingers, it'll get ugly) can have guests and where they can stay.
Roommates can be a pain, but if you talk it out, hopefully things will get better. And if it seems like Jack doesn't care or thinks he owns the place, it might be time to find a new place to live.
2006-12-03 13:51:14 · answer #2 · answered by Bookworm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having roommates are the worst! Instead of Jack moving his bed in the living room, can you ask the other guy Jack is sharing his room with to camp on the couch so Jack and Tabitha can sleep in the bedroom? Or you can get your own place. I find that was my best decision.
2006-12-03 13:45:55 · answer #3 · answered by JAD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is absolutely "inappropriate" and "inconsiderate". You have every right to think it's "unfair", you are not being "unreasonable".
It's would be one thing for him to have his girlfriend over if they spent time in his room, but it's an entirely different matter for him to move his bed into the "common" area and use it as his "bedroom"!
Jack has changed the "rules", you and your other roommate need to have a serious discussion with him. It sounds like it's time for Jack and his girlfriend to get their "own" apartment. He is the one who is being "unreasonable" and yes, "inappropriate"!
Good luck. Tell Jack it's time to move out!
2006-12-03 13:49:47 · answer #4 · answered by Mugsy's Place 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is unfair, unreasonable and inappropriate
everyone pays rent for their room but no one pays for the living room meaning it's everyones.
you need to tell him that it's not right. Next time he wants to do that, just stay in the living room watching tv or whatever and when he starts to bring his bed out say "hey man not happening, Im having some friends over and we're using the living room"
or just be straight up, tell him it's not happening since the living room is everyones and he's disrespecting everyone else in the house by doing that...
be rude about it...you have every right....
2006-12-03 13:48:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Living with other people is definitely a challenge, especially when you're sharing rooms! You should have a house meeting and discuss openly what's going on with the current girl friend staying over every weekend situation.
2006-12-03 13:48:50 · answer #6 · answered by tashatactics 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jack needs to go and "pay" for a hotel room for him and his girlfriend, if I were you I would tell my landlord on him and her, cause its your apt too and jack sounds like he is dead broke, probably why he has a girlfriend cause girls these days love to mess with losers who cannot even afford to take them on a date but who wants their "cut" in the bedroom...so no Jack is dead wrong for that one.
2006-12-03 13:44:46 · answer #7 · answered by odaat_1218 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that the living room, is a space for ALL of you, so it is not appropriate to just move his bed to the living room, if he wants to spend time with his gb, then its fine IN HIS BEDROOM !!
2006-12-03 13:44:50 · answer #8 · answered by butterfly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is taking liberties.
2006-12-03 13:52:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋