i have the best friend ever named jess. well this other girl who did alot of mean stuff to me last year like wrote a letter to me sayin how fake bitchy and how much of a "man" i was. i forgave her and we became really good friends again. now she is mad at me because i put the my best friend jess before her. (this isn't even our first fight its about our 50th prolly more) i have known jess longer and she has never done anything bad to me and is like my sister. this other chick keeps starting drama with me and i keep forgiving her. i don't know if i should give her one more chance or just let our friendship go? what should i do
2006-12-03 05:24:13 · 21 answers · asked by bballxbaby147 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Ask yourself truthfully what you are getting out of the relationship with this girl? If the answers are more negative than not, then it is time to break away from her. You need to surround yourself with people that respect you and your feelings and who always have your best interests at heart.
Life is far too short to waste on people that are not worthy of your time. Your other friend Jess sounds like the person you should be spending your time with - don't forget it's not the amount of friends you have that matters but the quality of the friendship. I'd rather have one true friend than a dozen others that just undermine my self confidence and self esteem.
Appreciate the friendship you have with Jess, she sounds like one in a million and great friends are hard to find - hang onto her!
2006-12-03 05:34:44 · answer #1 · answered by Witchywoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop the drama queen. Sounds like she is immature and a pain in the rear. If you are fighting that should tell you something about your friendship. Ask yourself is she really worth all the drama and pain she brings to you? Sounds like she is jealous of Jess. Get friends that repect you and can play nice.
2006-12-03 05:31:41 · answer #2 · answered by Rosa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider that there is something missing in your communication. You two clearly dont see eye to eye, yet you have come through so many fights and yet still talk to each other. What would it take from you to be the cause of the quality of your relationship with her? If you were exceptionally understanding or loving or compassionate ect, what would make a massive different to your relationship. I know from experience by the way, my girlfriend and I hated eachother and wanted to kill eachother before we got together. Now we are inseperable. I am clear this was due to a shift in my communication and understanding with her. try it! you may be amazed at the results!
2006-12-03 05:38:12 · answer #3 · answered by Darren S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go. Everybody has got enough drama in there life that they don't need people in that do it just cause they can. Tell her she needs to grow up, and that Jess has always been a true friend and you would not trade her for a thing. True friends are rare.
2006-12-03 05:33:32 · answer #4 · answered by a h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I would say, tell her that she does not treat you like you deserve to be treated. then leave with a goodbye.
This other girl jess, seems like a gem. its rare that you come accross people like this in this day and age. I would say ditch the drama queen. you might feel awkward but you will realise later that you did the right thing.
2006-12-03 05:33:15 · answer #5 · answered by ashez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like to treat my friends the same way I would treat a boyfriend in regards to whether or not you would keep them.
Translate this into a relationship: If your boyfriend was treating you like this, would you still be with him?
Keep in mind that there's nowhere that says you *Have* to be her friend. You can just let her go and the world won't end. That's one of the greatest things I learned in college.
2006-12-03 05:30:13 · answer #6 · answered by e-rain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her go................she just showed u how much ur friendship means to her.........u dont need her drama, plus u already got a good friend & thats jess, stick with jess & lose the other chick, know u see whos ur real friend.......
2006-12-03 05:28:17 · answer #7 · answered by ~i love my boys~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently you like the drama and the feeling of power it gives you to keep taking her back and forgiving her. You sound like you deserve each other.
2006-12-03 05:26:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would probably just tell h er exactly how you are feeling. If she doesnt seem to care then she wasnt even a true friend, so just let her go!
2006-12-03 05:26:18 · answer #9 · answered by ashley m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut her loose! You'll be better off and happier in the end. Many friends will come and go in your lifetime and few of them will be TRUE friends.
2006-12-03 05:29:12 · answer #10 · answered by TTerrell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋