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I do not think punishment is the answer.a lot of times when
a pupil does poorly in school you can not always say it is
all their fault.
The kid could need some tutoring or he/she may have
a learning disability.As you being a parent you need to
investigate why your kid is doing poorly.Most of the time
punishment does not work.

2006-12-03 05:20:32 · 11 answers · asked by doulasc 2 in Education & Reference Special Education

11 answers

I am a parent of two children with learning disabilities and a teacher of students with learning disabilities.
My children and I disagree a lot when doing homework, and it's ok. They get frequent breaks, when they make mistakes I try to help them find a paragraph to read or help them look for key words. WHen they have a test coming, we make note cards, dances, chants, pictures, whatever they need to get the information in their head. (even when i know the information is not going to be used in the future) When we work hard this hard on the homework, and they don't get a passing grade, we look at the test together to find out where they made their mistakes and we go back and if the teacher didn't correct it with them, we do it again together to help. ( So they can feel successful)
My homework regime is hard, and time consuming, but students with learning difficulties, or learning disabilities have to find ways to make it in a "hard world".
NOW... do i punish for a bad grade? There have been two times when i have felt a need to punish. My son got a bad grade because he talked to another student in the middle of a test.... (THis behavior is wrong... and there should be a consequence)

The other time, was when my son could have used his notes on a test, and I told him to put his notes that we had worked on in his backpack and he got distracted. I really didn't punish hard...because the natural consequence... having to bring home the test and see the look of disappointment on Dad's face was enough.

BUT... we celebrate good grades and good choices all the time. Any positive recognition the children get at school, we celebrate at home. Extra ice-cream, computer time, when they were little we hold hands and jump up and down and give each other pats on the back.

I think you are right about punishing because of grades for the most part... however... if the child defied instructions... there should a consequence. If the reason for poor grades is the child not turning in assignments, not finishing assignments, not trying to do well, not reading information and just writing down answers to be finished, neglecting homework...then the child should be punished... this is not a learning difficulty.

BY the way... it has been my experience... (as a parent and a teacher) that when a child demonstrates that they want to succeed... staying after school, asking for help, doing extra credit... then teachers often make sure the child passes the class.
Work ethic is often more important than retaining uselss information...

2006-12-03 22:10:13 · answer #1 · answered by Mckayla M 4 · 1 0

My answer is no, because i feel as parent we need to provide more of our time and finding out what the problem could be to why our kids are doing poorly in school. If we has parent will take out 30 minute of our time to go over our kids homework or what ever the case may be. It will help the situation alot better. So time the kids can not understand what the teacher want, and if this is the case. I think we as parents need to make that know to the teacher so she can approach him/her differently.

2006-12-07 04:59:09 · answer #2 · answered by Nicole S 2 · 0 0

Punishment, needs to be defined.

If a child is not doing well in school, definitely looking at all the factors that could be contributing is essential. So is creating solutions to those factors.

If punishment is expecting that all homework be done after school, limiting the number of extra curricular activities, thus making the student prioritize his/her extra curricular activities, including hanging with friends, then I say punish.


If punishment is yelling, threatening, cursing, comparing to others, belittling, then I say no punish.

2006-12-05 15:39:15 · answer #3 · answered by SpecEdTchr 2 · 0 0

I sat that punishment is good and bad, it's just the way you do it and the time you do. Like if he /she gets an d or an f on their report card, explain to them why it shouldn't be there and take something small away like a toy or the game for like a week or longer. But if they do better, reward them with something start off small then later as they grades get higher their reward gets bigger.

2006-12-03 08:06:57 · answer #4 · answered by Karren C 1 · 0 0

Punishment is only needed for disobedience, not inability.

Get help through the school's counsellor, and try to determine if the child is obstinate and rebellious, (then punish if needed) or if the child is lacking in mental skills and abilities.

Good luck

2006-12-03 05:24:14 · answer #5 · answered by thisbrit 7 · 0 0

Take it from me do not punish. My mom used to pound the table, turn beet red and yell and scream. I used to go to bed saying the "hate" word to myself over and over again. The best way if yr child does not have a learning disability is to calmly help him/her with the homework until he/she understands. Screaming and yelling didn't do a thing for me in a positive direction.

2006-12-03 09:53:18 · answer #6 · answered by regwoman123 4 · 0 0

No Never punish... encourage.......Punishment never works.Even when the child is naughty it is far better to talk then to smack. i have found from experience to talk in an adult way to the child and the rewards are fantastic.

2006-12-03 05:29:46 · answer #7 · answered by chris w. 7 · 0 0

I agree, and maybe just maybe it could be the Teacher. Or like you said maybe your kid needs a little extra help.

2006-12-03 06:25:35 · answer #8 · answered by queendebadow 5 · 0 1

A lot of kids have adhd

2006-12-03 15:24:57 · answer #9 · answered by tom b 1 · 0 0

Mckayhla M has the best answer. I totally agree!!

2006-12-04 08:17:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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