and have a little fun? My husband caught me talking to a man online about sexual stuff. We did go into graphic detail and were showing each other on webcam . We also started talking about meeting,but he was over 1000miles from me.my husband said I was cheating and that my friend was disrupting our marriage. Did he have the right to make me stop talking to him. Idon't see where there was a problem,since no physical contact was made. Should we consider our relationship over.
2006-12-03 05:20:16 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, your husband had every right to make you break it off..
You were going too far with it...
2006-12-03 05:23:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
You're wrong on this one! You are "cheating" on him even though you didn't actually engage in a "physical" act with someone else (and that was only because this person is 1,000 miles away).
Marriage is based on love and respect, you are showing neither to your husband. Turning "outside" your marriage for any reason is wrong and it never solves anything. If there is something "lacking" in your relationship, talk to your husband and fix it or, get divorced. Your husband deserves better.
If you don't see "what the problem is", then you are either too immature or too selfish to comprehend the damage you are causing. The fact that you "talk about sexual stuff" (in graphic detail) and "showed each other" stuff through your webcam, only proves how little respect you have for yourself.
To show a total stranger (who could be anyone) such "intimate" pictures is extremely stupid and dangerous. Your "pictures" could be all over the internet by now!
I think your husband should kick your butt to the curb!
2006-12-03 06:01:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES, your husband had the right to ask you to stop, because this man you were talking with on-line isn't your husband and you shouldn't be sharing your sex life with someone like that, even if you may never meet in person. Because what you did could be the start of other things. It only takes 1 thing like that to get the ball rolling. You vowed to forsake ALL others when you married your husband, and that includes anyone on-line. Also showing yourself to this other man, on your webcam, if you were showing your naked body to him was VERY wrong, your husband is the only man who should see you naked, unless your seeing your doctor about something, but your husband is the only man who should have ANY sexual contact with you. You betrayed his trust, and I think you and your husband should go to marriage counceling because this is a serious issue that NEEDS to be resolved, before you take things like this a step further and end up cheating on your husband.
If you love your husband, why would you talk with another man about sex, and show him your body?
Yes you cheated on your husband, even though there was no physical contact, you commited adultery against your husband in your mind, because you lusted after another man.
2006-12-03 06:43:52 · answer #3 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you were wrong. Would this have been acceptable to you if your husband were doing this with another woman?
You didn't have a physical relationship, but you share intimate behavior with someone who wasn't your husband. You betrayed your husband's trust. If you weren't doing anything wrong or didn't have anything to hide, then you wouldn't have been "caught."
Yes, you were cheating.
It wasn't your friend that was disrupting your marriage, it was you allowing this contact that disrupted your marriage. You disrespected him as your husband.
Yes, he had the right to make you stop talking to him.
There was a problem because you engaged in behavior that is only appropriate between committed partners, or when both partners have agreed upon an open marriage.
Your relationship is over only if you don't consider your marriage worth saving and aren't willing to do what it takes to set things straight.
2006-12-03 05:36:34 · answer #4 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I meet my husband online and I know how those online late converstaions can get... Personally, I think that you were in the wrong for going there with this friend. Even though that person was 1000's of miles away you are married and that's a no, no!
Why would you talk about meeting if you are married and this person know's it! That's not a friend that's a divorce waiting to happen.. In my opinion... you should consider your relationship over... how would you feel if your husband did that to you...
So you have to look at it from his side also.. I'm glad nothing came of this because I truely believe that it could have been a bad situation.
I hope it works out!
2006-12-03 05:27:18 · answer #5 · answered by danxtsupamodel 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is wrong! Your married. Even though this guy is 1000 miles away it's still wrong. Sure no contact physically happend but I think it's still a form of cheating because your talking about intimate details that you should be enjoying with your husband not another man. Who's to say that this would eventually get you in thinking of meeting someone locally. If your talking to another man then maybe there is something missing in your marriage.
2006-12-03 05:25:16 · answer #6 · answered by Christina 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 14:33:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What may be okay for you is obviously a problem for your husband. I think youneed to sitown with your husband and set some rules as to what is and isnt acceptable behaviour online. I talk to lots of guys online. Sometimes it's about sexual stuff but mostly it isn't but I don't keep this from my boyfriend which doesn't make it cheating. And i certainly don't expose myself on web cam, do you not respect your husband at all!!!!!
If you clearly put you 'friend' before your huband you need to rethink your priorities. If you are keeping secrets about your 'friend' from your husband then I'd say yes you are cheating!!
2006-12-03 05:27:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Is IS cheating. Would you do it with your hubby right there? You should be directing that energy into fixing what;s wrong with your marriage. Write your hubby naughty emails and stories. Never finish them, just close with "your turn" so he can add something on and send it back to you, closing with "your turn" so you can add to it. You will get to know each other better and deepen your level of sexual and emotional intimacy.
So what if no physical contact was made. You were cheating and your ubby called you out on it. Beg for his forgiveness and direct those thoughts to your hubby.
From now on, don't chat with others unless your huby is a part of it. Best bet, don't do it at all. And if you feel the need to hide something, it IS cheating.
2006-12-03 05:25:55 · answer #9 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
yes, u were in the wrong. ur a married woman and should be devoted to only one man...UR HUSBAND. no one else should see what u have to offer. u might not have had physical contact, but u were trying to make that contact. be thankful that ur husband stepped in and kept u from makin a mistake u would have regretted. yes i think u should stop talkin to this other guy on here, especially if he knows ur married and is still tryin to get u in the sack...tsk tsk....that right there should be a turn off and run in the other direction. just remember, u can have fun on here and make friends, but ur married and ur marriage should come before all else! God bless.
2006-12-03 05:43:10 · answer #10 · answered by curiousme 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes doing anything sexual online even if they are 1000 miles away can damage your marriage. Consider the relationship over unless your ready for your husband to file for divorce.
2006-12-03 05:23:35 · answer #11 · answered by melly 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋