I am 16 and pregnant. I am due in 1 month how do i grow up?

Question

i always worry about my 25 year old boyfriend. He does not acknowledge me at all. He tells me to worry about myself but i cant figure out how. I am due in 1 month and i am a good kid and want to be my true self. I cannot be real and grow up. I want to change help!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

When your baby gets here look him/her in the eyes and tell her how much you love her. Hold her close to you listen to her heart beat look at how geourgeous she is and you will fall in love with this child. Make this child your priority and yourself too. I was a drug addicted alchoholic when i found out I was pregnant, and Ive been sober ever since.....I love my babies sometimes the ammount of love for them overwhelming...and remember it's never too late to go to college....u don't want to earn minimum wage and you can't count on him to always be there. DO NOT LISTEN TO THESE HEARTLESS CRUEL ANSWERS IN HERE some of these people amaze me at their level of insensitivity. Good luck everything sweetie I really hope the best for you, and I believe you can do it.

Answer 2

Get a job and raise your baby and what the hell you doing with a 25 year old in the first place? That doesn't matter. You have a child on the way and yes dear you are going to have to grow up and take care of your baby whether you really want to or not. As for your "boyfriend" he doesn't seem to care about you otherwise he would not have had sex with you in the first place and seems to just have used you. He knows he could be labeled as a sex offender for having sex with a 16 year old right? That is why he wants nothing to do with you or your baby. Because he knows his life will be ruined should you (and I strongly rec commend this) press charges of statutory rape against him. If you choose not to then that is your choice. You could take him to court and see if he can pay you child support for the next 18 years though. Good luck raising your baby.

Answer 3

You should seriously consider giving your baby up for adoption. And you should cut ties with your boyfriend who clearly isn't very interested in you or the baby. (Caveat, work on getting child support money from him if you keep the baby.)

Not that you can't do it, but it is going ot be extremely hard to properly raise your baby and take care of yourself/grow up as well. It will help if you have a lot of support from your parents and family, who can watch the baby while you finish school, etc. If you don't have that support, or money to hire someone good to do so, and don't have any money coming in from the father...you're in a very tough bind, and starting your child's life off in a difficult way.

If you did decide to go the adoption route, you could buckle down and focus on school, gaining skills to help you for the rest of your life. You should definitely not date anyone that much older than you again. That was a terrible idea, as you can see.

I'm sure there are some local services who can help you. See if you can find a hotline or something in you yellow pages, someone with whom you can start talking and making some decisions.

Best of luck to you.

Answer 4

Well, sounds like this guy isnt going to be around for very long.
Can I ask what you're doing with such an older guy...if you are so young?
It cant be because you are "mature for your age" because if that was the case you wouldnt be asking this question.

Once you give birth, as a mother you instantly have instincts! We learn within seconds how to bond, cope and nurture a child. Its instant. Yes, there are times we just dont know what to do, but being a parent is a learning experience.
I am 25 and I have two children. My husband and I learn something new everyday with being parents. You just have to put your child FIRST. you have to understand that YOU are the only thing that the child has in this world. If you dont take care of them. No one will.
We are all they have!!!!! Newborn babies need a special bond with their parents. They can feel our emotions and attitudes, they can sense our angers and frustrations.
Just be patient. Take one day at a time and enjoy the miracle of giving birth.
Put this child first!!!!!

Answer 5

I was 16 when I had my first baby, (remember, that you are extra fertile right after you have a baby!) I've had a lot of bumps, hills, mountains, and regrets along the way. Just keep in mind your child is going to grow up based on the life you decided for her/him. However you raise it everyday will come back to you good or bad! especially when they're teenagers! That might seem like a long ways a way for you now, but you have no choice it will come!! How you maintain yourself around that baby will be a big part of your child's character, Remember that. And that guy, how will effect your baby? You might want the best for your baby, will he be good for it?

Answer 6

Adoption!


And why, 'grow up?' -this experience will be your transition from being a kid to being an adult. Have the baby, (props to you for carrying it this long!) and get a couple who cant have a lil' one. There are so many like that out there.

And my goodness! Get yourself away from that 25 year old guy! That will help you change and keep you from becoming a mum again.



much luv!

you're in my prayers :)

Answer 7

Some of these answers are pretty heartless :(. Call Planned Parenthood or the maternity ward of a local hospital and ask them for a referral to an agency that deals with teenage, unwed mothers. Such a group can give you the support you need. Or, ask your ob/gyn. Hopefully you're getting much-needed prenatal care.

I'm gathering your parents are no help at all at this point.

Also check with your state social services agency about pinning down your 25-year old boyfriend for child support. He could also go to jail for having sex with a minor.

You will need alot of support but you can grow up quickly and become a good parent.

Answer 8

You have a ton of problems. Your BF is a creep and should be charged with statutory rape. You are not legally able to consent to sex at your age and he is a pervert for having sex with a child. It sounds very unlikely that he will be there to support you or the baby so you need to file for support as soon as you deliver. If you don't have strong family support, I urge you to put the baby up for adoption. There are couple who are desperate for a child who can give him love, a wonderful home, an education, etc.
You need to do some serious thinking. Your childhood is over.

Answer 9

Oh baby dear, you are going to have to do it right now. You can put the child up for adoption and give it a caring and loving family. You are on the Internet now so you can do a simple google to find the info you need. I hope your parents know, if not right now is a good time to tell them. If your parents are not involved in your life, you can go to a teacher perhaps, or a friend's parents? I also hope you have been seeing a doctor regularly. If not now is a good time. Let them know your situation and they too can offer advance. Good luck dear, I pray for you today.

Answer 10

1. forget about the boyfriend now! he used you only for sex and doesnt care about you anymore~ please!!! leave him alone and get on with your life
2. Find a clinic or program that has supports groups for young mothers
3. As for growing up... you need to do that now. You have somebody else's life to be in charge of now. I suggest getting your's together first before you ruin there's.
4. Finish school, get a GOOD job, be there for your child. the last thing you want to do is to treat your child like your "boyfriend" treated you.

What the hell were you doing with a 25 yr. old anyway?! That's statutory rape! He is disgusting! You need to have him locked up for that and you need counseling for not knowing better.