my husband put a receipt from a motel in his vehicle so he knew I could find it, why did he let me find out he was cheating on me?
2006-12-03 05:03:46 · 33 answers · asked by may s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
seriously, he wants for you to start the confrontation, then a fight, and a break up so he can lay the blame on you for starting it even he was wrong in the first place.
my husband advice, keep the receipt as a proof, but never mentioned anything to him, act as it never happened. act nice and sweet, go out and make sure you put your make up and dress lovely even you are going to the mall or be with friends. let him wonder and turn it the other way around (without doing the same thing he have done) let him be the one to suffer, worry and feel your pain.
remember kindness kills. cause if you start a fight, that will not solve anything, you want him to accept his guilt without you acting up. by doing something about it, let him taste his own medicine.
that will be a showdown, i wanted to be one special fly on your wall..
2006-12-03 05:32:50 · answer #1 · answered by salome 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he wants a divorce, however, is so much of a coward he is unwilling or unable to ask. Divorce him, why would you care why he wanted you to find out. Why bothering analyzing his motives he is a cheater and a liar. Move on and get a divorce and find someone with like ideas and values in a marital relationship. Good luck and God bless****
2006-12-03 05:07:08 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesn't have the balls to tell u face-to-face...
it may be a 'wake up' call to u...why? because he may expect u to display signs of jealousy; 'rant and rave' at him and in general confront him about it; or he may expect u to actually file for divorce. an affair is just symptom of problem(s) in the marriage.
whatever, it seems ur faced w/ the decision of dealing w/ the problem(s) and symptoms directly.
do u love him and want to save ur marriage? -- if yes, don't do the expected i.e. act on ur emotions alone (u may say or do something u can't take back) get counseling for both of u if think ur marriage is worth saving.
2006-12-03 05:20:46 · answer #3 · answered by AILENE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you didn't give us any more details, it seems you baited this question in a way that everyone here would tell you what you already thought; you wanted us to confirm what you were thinking, and everyone here did. You need to hash this out with your husband, not come to this forum looking for artillery in your fight.
Outside opinions can only make your head spin faster in this situation; take it up with him.
2006-12-03 05:19:50 · answer #4 · answered by Ade 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He wants you to look like the bad person so he can whine to any and all who will listen that YOU kicked HIM out. So, when you do, make it a grand gesture. Have all his stuff on the lawn, change the locks, and keep evidence of his cheating so you can get everything you are entitled to.
2006-12-03 05:13:56 · answer #5 · answered by momof3cuties 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes not happy in your relationship but he doesnt have the balls to say it to your face. Tell him if he wants out, then theres the door. Why bother being in a relationship if no ones happy. Get rid of him now before it gets out of hand and you get hurt even more than what you already are.
2006-12-03 05:09:37 · answer #6 · answered by PfcsBaby 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because he wants to be punished. Make sure he was cheating with a woman and not a man.
2006-12-03 05:06:14 · answer #7 · answered by S K 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dang thts rude! I hate men that do that! Hope its wasnt something u had to pay for! He isnt hideing anything so whats he want?Out?Give him the door! and dont let it hit him too hard on the way out!
2006-12-03 05:13:27 · answer #8 · answered by jessy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because he wants you to know, but wasn't man enough to tell you himself.
I hope you don't have kids, because you are in for a bumby ride if you do.
If you don't leave while you still can.... you don't need him to do it again, which he will.
God bless and good luck!
2006-12-03 05:07:32 · answer #9 · answered by my-kids-mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants a divorce but doesnt want to look like the bad guy in the marriage...he wants u to file...or maybe he is just stupid and accidentaly left it laying where u could find it
2006-12-03 05:08:32 · answer #10 · answered by Michele 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋