please ladies help me out!I feel my wife of 14 yrs may be going through a pre mid life chrises.she is having an affiar with some younger guy ,we are 32 and 33 yrs old and she is loosing weight like its going out of style.she says she feels better like that.and defefnds her 25 yr old fling.dam I dont feel like living anymore, the woman I've been married to for 14 yrs is trying to leave me in the dirt for some younger guy wholives with mommy and says he understands her .she married with 2 kids for gods sake and this assh-le.doesnt give a dam all he sees is booty I think.I love and am in love with my wife ,why the hell is she doing this to me after I've dedicated my life to her and only her.these days shes making up any excuse just to justify why she is doing what shes doing.shes got deppression problems and sorry to say but now its me whos depressed.Icant take it no more.are there any ladies out there who have gone through this?
2006-12-03 05:02:18 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ok I hope you are being honest...I have been there. Did not go through with the affair but felt like my man,,in this case that would be YOU, did not appreciate me so when someone else did I noticed. I have been married 27 years, when this happened we had been married 24 yrs. I love my husband VERY much but the attention I received was more than I could understand. You have two choices, love her as much as you can DO NOT let her get by with the affair, or walk away. If she is anything like me, she need someone to stand up to her and say THIS IS NOT RIGHT, she can choose you or get out. I chose my husband, I hope she does the same with you. God Bless and my thoughts are with you, no one wants to go through this...and believe it or not, SHE IS HURTING ALSO...he will dump her....I TRULY BELIEVE IN..............WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND. Take Care.
2006-12-03 05:05:25 · answer #1 · answered by ஐAldaஐ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's 32 and has been married for 14 years.... she got married WAY too young and maybe feels she's missed out on experiences she wishes she'd had when she was in her 20's. She went from being a kid to a wife with no time in between... I've known women who have done the same... they either find whatever it is they thought they missed,.... or they realize that they never really missed anything at all and pull their head out of there asses and get back to life.
How you choose to handle it on your part is totally up to you and depends on how much you love her. But she may just run right back to you with more appreciation than she ever had before.
2006-12-03 05:13:15 · answer #2 · answered by just_me3575 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think this is a pre mid life crisis.
I never had the urge to sleep around, or find someone new or go out on my husband. Yes, I'll admit I had bouts of depression where I cried for no apparent reason or walked off in a huff. Little things I was use to would make me upset or disoriented. My male companion these last 4 years had a wife that was like yours. Seems she has 2 boys 10 and 12 at the time she decided she would use the mid life crisis as her excuse to whore around so she got on line and met her a young stud that promised to make her rich and take care of her. For the next 4 years she made my companions life a living hell, sleeping with her young stud, sending her boys out of the house so they couldn't tell their father what was really going on, leaving him (moving out) and coming back home when he went after her 3 different times and when she moved out the last time the boys were 14 and 16 and she never contacted them for a year. The youngest boy blames himself for her behavior, not only was he sent to a reform school until he turned 18, but he is into drugs and alcohol today at 21. The oldest boy at 23 has liver damage due to alcohol abuse. Since their Dad and I have been together she calls constantly telling them he is abusive and a wife beater and that everything him and I have is theirs. She is still seeing this younger man, which is and has always been married (him and his wife have children together and even since she has been sleeping with him and his wife has had another child), she is not rich but totaly the opposite she is dependant on him for everything, from food in her stomach to the roof over her head, she has no car and even her phone is in his name. The boys are not allowed to stay with her and he monitors their visit when they do see her, making a simple birthday cake for them is done in secrecy. My companion will tell you that what your wife is going through is not a mid life crisis it is no more than sex. Since I was not privy to their private life all I can tell you from my heart is he is a good man and has taken the best care of his boys that he possibly could and hold down a job. Yes, he needed help and the kids paid the price for it. In the 4 years since we have lived together he has proven over and over that she lies about their life together. This man went through a mental depression not only because of his son's needing proper care but his own self-esteem and worth, added to his Ex covering her own sexual appitite by claiming he abusive in the relationship
2006-12-03 05:57:45 · answer #3 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your wife had a full time job and then had to come home and take care of the house and kids she would not have time for an affair. You should have gotten into marriage therapy long be fore now cause she is long gone and you just need to boot the bi*tch out the door. Keep the kids and let her lover pay for her ass for awhile and see how he likes it.
2006-12-03 05:07:51 · answer #4 · answered by picture 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is wrong to look for solutions outside the marriage. She probably feels unappreciated by you, and she doesn't know how to ask for what she needs. She probab;y needs to know that she still is desirable to men. Maybe you don't listen to her? That still does not justify her actions. Ask her, how would she explain her actions to your children? Hold her accountable. Ask for a divorce. Drop her stuff off at her man's mom's house. Soon the new man will get sick of her and dump her for a newer model. he has already seen her true colors, so he knows she is not trustworthy in a relationship.
2006-12-03 05:19:05 · answer #5 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You bore her... it happens. Yall have been together for a while and married young. She probably feels like she missed out on something because of it. He is obviously giving her something that you arent. If you want to save this marriage you need to re-examine how you treat her sexually and nonsexually. Dont be so mundane and passive. Thats more than likely whats driving her away. And dont be so pissed at the guy, hes not the one married to you.... she is.
2006-12-03 05:10:34 · answer #6 · answered by bobndew 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-29 20:18:06 · answer #7 · answered by chatterton 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I watched my mother ,I was 19 and she left my dad got a facelift looked 30 and dated a bunch a guys and her breasts done too! Yeah my dad was like what the h** is goin on! It happens alot Im sorry I feel for you ,my dad never loved another till he died.Go forward u are young and will find love again!
2006-12-03 05:08:41 · answer #8 · answered by jessy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋