We have a 7 month old baby and now another girl is 5 months pregnant with his baby. whenever i ask him what his feelings are he tells me that he doesnt love her but they have contact and everything. Im sure i want to move on but i dont know how to forget him. Im now living alone with my baby and its not easy cuz im a student and i have no family in this country to help me im completely alone. Have no money to do somethings which will distract me from my husband. Please help me what should i do???
2006-12-03 05:00:53 · 10 answers · asked by natty t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get a divorce. Get some child support. Go see a student counsellor and see if there is any help (financial or otherwise) that you may be entitled to. Throw yourself into your studies and looking after your child. See if there are any online support groups for people in your situation, that way you'll always have somewhere to vent your feelings and frustrations amongst people that understand what you are going through.
2006-12-03 05:11:26 · answer #1 · answered by Witchywoo 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are still married to this guy and are living on your own? First of all you should have never moved out, you should have simply moved out of his bedroom, stayed in the house, have him continue to pay the bills, babysit when you needed it and no sex. (Any time the thought catches your mind you just picture where that thing has been ... that should be enough to turn you off) You shouldn't have moved out until he divorced you/ you were done with school. You could have taken care of the house/laundry and meals in payment for living there. That is what you should have done, instead of removing yourself from the frying pan into the fire. Can you go home? Do you have a friend in a similar mess that you could hook with and support each other? As a spouse I don't see how he can refuse you going back into your own house.
2006-12-03 05:11:33 · answer #2 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to divorce this cheater and make him pay child support on the child that you have together. You also need to go to a department of human services in your area and they will put you on food stamps for now until you can get on your feet. Sad to say but you might have to find a job some where to help you support you and the baby even though he is going to pay the support for the child. DHS will still help you out even though you are working as long as you don't make to much money.
2006-12-03 06:01:41 · answer #3 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cant even imagine going through this myself. I would be angry and hurt it definetly wouldnt make it any easier knowing the one he cheated on me with was pregnant with his baby. You have to decide for yourself is this something you can both get through if not then you need to find away to move on. You just brought in a life into this world that the 2 of you created what was he thinking?
2006-12-03 05:19:38 · answer #4 · answered by 2wild4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly, i don't have plenty to declare to you which would be of any use. I basically ask however, do you no longer have any family which could assist you to out with this occasion? In a concern like this, soliciting for financial help from family could no longer quite be something to be embarrassed approximately. additionally, what approximately adoption? Abortion of course isn't ideal for you, and you recognize it. you may in no way bypass get an abortion in case you're no longer comfortable with it. you're ideal, you will could stay with besides the fact that determination you're making for something of your existence. you're at a crossroad, and besides the fact that decision you're making is going to electrify you for something of your existence. i'm speaking as a results of fact i've got had an abortion. i'm plenty youthful than you however. yet I knew it replaced into what i had to do. i understand you may in no way do something except you choose to do it, and could in no way basically bypass with what human beings choose. there are a number of single mothers available who make it ensue. in case you choose to maintain the toddler this badly, all I could say is you will stumble on a manner. quite some single mothers available stumble on a manner a approach or the different. you will probable could take up a 2d activity or replace your existence in some way of course, on account that your earnings now's no longer sturdy. Idk. Like I pronounced, no longer plenty to declare. i'm sorry you have ended up in this occasion. issues basically ensue on occasion however, ya understand? i did no longer plan on getting pregnant the two as quickly as I did. don't get the abortion in case you do no longer choose to. And if this guy does not choose to be a element of it, you relatively shouldn't stress him. it quite is basically gunna make it extra stressful on you in the long term. basically enable him bypass and do what he needs. you're a reliable lady. you're a reliable person. you will stumble on a manner, all and sundry does. it quite is not the top of the worldwide. I want you success. Sorry i did no longer have something extra constructive to declare.
2016-10-17 15:51:47 · answer #5 · answered by johannah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well find the girl ask her how she met him and all and what happened and see if it was his fault or hers, Or maybe she doesn't even know it so she can help you to get over it and she will get over him to,sometimes you have to let love go through a new journey. If your a student obviously your kinda young,you dont need something like this to stress you out,your young and smart go have fun wiht your child at parks.Do things to get your mind off of him and it should help to get over it...
2006-12-03 05:06:01 · answer #6 · answered by Shawn 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Find a way out. You have yourself in a position in which you will alllow it to go on, hurt you if you don't get out.
There are plenty of agencies out there that will help you.
If you were close I'd come help you. I care about younger people and babies in need. But seek your local assistance programs.
2006-12-03 05:05:40 · answer #7 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What should you do? This is a joke question, right????? if not, hey, get on the bc pill, and go back to your country to be with your family.
2006-12-03 10:42:02 · answer #8 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you already know you want to move on, so just do what you need to do to make you and your baby feel good. don't worry about what he's doing and don't talk to him. he did this to himself. get child support. it's hard but you will forget eventually.
2006-12-03 05:05:22 · answer #9 · answered by pikachu 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Divorce him and make him pay child support. What a looser he is. He not only cheated he created a life. This is not acceptable behavior, be strong. You will overcome this. Good luck and God bless****
2006-12-03 05:05:07 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋