Im left with just enough to live on .I cant even afford to buy my kids any presents .I love my kids and feel that im letting them down because of this.
2006-12-03 04:50:10 · 12 answers · asked by trixy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your not letting ur children down at all...at least ur being man enough to take care of them and send their mothers child support...more than i can say for most...if ur having trouble living after child support is taken out get a second job or talk to their mother to see if u can lower the payment...good luck
2006-12-03 04:55:16 · answer #1 · answered by Michele 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain. This is a bad time of the year to feel that way too. You just have to explain the situation to the kids and let them know what the true meaning of Xmas is. People don't understand that when you are in this situation how hard it can be.
People on here (answers) will say get a pt job or find more hours on the job but that is not always possible. And hope and pray some emergency doesn't come up such as car problems or home repairs. I am getting use to scraping by but it is not a pleasant feeling.
For what it's worth I still wish you a happy holiday's and I hope and pray things get better for you
2006-12-03 13:03:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my kids dad is on a good wage but that is until the csa got him and he came for me big style thinking the £90 a week went straight in my pocket which in fact we only get to keep £10 of it.
he is a good dad but he cant afford to buy anything for them now because of the csa. after paying bills out of his weekly wage he is left with hardly anything.
he still blames me though :-(
2006-12-03 12:58:37 · answer #3 · answered by xxSHORTYxx 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My friend is paying the CSA for his children, then the CSA stopped the direct debit - not once, not twice but three times! He wanted to pay but they kept 'forgetting' to take the money. So now he has an order against earnings so his employer pays direct... and guess what, they still get it wrong!
2006-12-03 13:49:21 · answer #4 · answered by clare b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear this but the CSA is mostly only used when Dad's haven't contributed for a long period of time.
I put a claim in three years ago and have still not received a penny, my son will be 6 after Xmas and his Dad has given me £200 in all those years.
2006-12-03 12:53:37 · answer #5 · answered by horsegal 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
you may want to get them presents but I'm sure they benefit more from the csa payments which buy them food and clothes. why should their mother be left struggling to look after them on a pittance from the state? why should the state pay for your kids at all? you must have known children were expensive when you had them, so tough luck
2006-12-03 12:57:35 · answer #6 · answered by monkeynuts 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ive been paying it for 14 years its hard at the start but overtime my job has got better and i now enjoy a good life style,my daughter has just started uni and ime happy paying for her to have a better start in life than i had,get youself a little cash job at weekends and dont tell the csa,or go self employed and pay youself minium wage,chin up mate it does get better
2006-12-03 13:39:08 · answer #7 · answered by peter w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might be a good daddy and it sounds as if you are but my ex is a crap dad i went to CSA as he was violent towards me and never bothers wiv our daughter he complains about csa he only pays £40 a week which in the last 5 mths i have only had it given to me twice CSA are crap! but my ex will not do anything or buy anthing else for our daughter he's never even bought he a 10p bag of sweets cos he says why should he he pays the CSA! he moans all the time he has no money yet he is constantly in the pub! us single mums have to put up with the stress of them giving us hassel about csa and do our best to bring are child up on our own! yet all men have to do is pay peanuts each week and do wot they like when they like they have no stress of been a parent yet moan like hell about having to pay CSA
YOU MIGHT NOT BE LIKE THIS BUT MY EX IS AND IT DRIVES ME MAD HE ONLY TURNS UP WHEN HE FEELS LIKE IT HE HASNT SHOWN 4 LAST 4 WEEKS AS HE WANTS TO BE WITH HIS MATES DOWN THE PUB YET WHEN HE CLICKS HIS FINGERS HE GETS TO SEE OUR DAUGHTER AS I GET TREATENED WITH THE COURTS AND GET TOLD HE HAS RIGHTS!! SORRY I JUST HATE MEN WHO DONT KNOW THEY ARE BORN
2006-12-03 13:10:30 · answer #8 · answered by lillypops 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ur one of the minority who actually pays maintinence my ex is in and out of jobs so much i can't get anything off him,just taking them to the park and spending time with them is enough i would rather my son spend the time with his dad than any amount of money or presents he's only 5 and thats what he wants more than anything keep up the good work
2006-12-03 13:07:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i quite sympathise with you and i hope you dont mind this answer but a few years ago i meat a friend who i haden,t seen since school , ( we are in our late 40,s ) and i joked "how are you married, divorced ,CSA after you etc." and he said to me "NOT ANY MORE , THEY WOULDN,T DARE COME AFTER ME AS I,M A HIGH RISK CASE " on asking him what he meant he told me that after many years of her keeping on and the bloody CSA knocking on the door he said enough was enough and he stabbed her . of coarse he went to prison for 12 months but now they wont ask him for a bean .. please dont think i,m giving advise but your not alone and in desperate times people do desperate things
2006-12-03 13:08:33 · answer #10 · answered by glyn b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋