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Question

So on a different question i wrote about me liking a kid in 8th grade named Chris! I am in 6th grade. So i told him i liked him and he said that he wanted to br friends for now! a few weeks ago i saw him in the mall and we didnt talk to each other, just glanced to each other...but yesterday i saw him in the mall again and he stopped and we chatted for a minute. My sister says he likes me so today i called him and talked to him about it! he said that he liked me alot but he had a gf....i dont know what to do...I still like him so much and im positive he likes me, but he doesnt want to break up with his gf now! How can i handle this without trying to move my feelings to someone else??

plz only answer if you Really really want to help me! some ppl are so nice about some of my questions and I'm happy because all of these small stupid answers will not get Best answer! Your answer has to come from the heart!

Answer 1

If he's not willing to break up with his girlfriend for you, it means he likes his girlfriend more (which is fair enough).

It's not as if you need to stop liking him. Crushes are fine. Remember that there's a lot of mental and physical differences between an 11/12 year old girl and a 13/14 year old guy. At his age, he's only got one thing on his mind - and it's not school work.

You've told him you like him twice. The first time he said he just wanted to be friends. Then the second time, you talked to him about it and he said he has a girlfriend. Leave it at that, if you tell him you like him any more times he'll start to feel like you're demanding something from him and that you're annoying. You and him can still be friends; it doesn't have to turn into a relationship just yet.

Like I said, you don't need to "move your feelings". It's okay to keep liking him, even if he's not returning those feelings (he might not like you in that way at all, he could just be saying he does to make you happy.... there's no real way to tell just how honest he's being).

In the mean time, keep acting like yourself. Don't feel like you need to change just to please him. For example, don't pierce your ears if he says he likes hoop earrings; don't straighten your hair if he says he likes girls hair that way. You shouldn't have to try to impress him, because if he genuinely likes you, it'll be for your personality, not how you look.

He's happy with the girl he's got. Keep living your life, have fun with your friends, get your work done, have different crushes or maybe even date another guy. Don't be too caught up on him, from experience I can tell you that it drains a lot of fun out of life if you waste your time on one certain boy. If he's available later and he still likes you, leave it to him to make the moves - you don't need to try hard to have him, it's just a waste of your time.

Keep smilin

-Astrid :)

Answer 2

Truthfully?

From the heart?

Okay.

You're a kid. You probably won't even remember this guy's name once you're married. You're too young for a serious relationship! And besides, if he's not willing to like you enough to break up with his girlfriend, then:

he doesn't want you.

you don't need a guy anyway, and he's probably a little too old for you.

so.

6th grade is all about the eating chocolate, your first boy-girl party, screaming madly in the hallways. don't waste it on a guy.
keep the crush.
lose the idea.
enjoy your childhood.

=)

Answer 3

Sit back, relax and enjoy the ride.

This is such a huge part of adolescent life! Prime time for us to learn about relationships and feelings.

Honestly, just enjoy his friendship. If he is really into you, you will know.
There may be a time where he starts thinking about you non-stop, gets butterflies when he sees you, and cant get you off his mind. But it has to be his step. his decision.
This actually happened to me when I was in High school. I did everything I could to keep the guys attention and in the end we did get together, but just a few short weeks later, he said he felt like I pressured him and he went back to his ex-girlfriend
So right now, be a good friend to him. Talk to him, show him your interest in him and maybe, just maybe the ball will be in your court.

Answer 4

If the guy really did like you more then his girlfriend, he would of broken up with her a long time ago.

He is probably just going out with her because she is closer to his age.

Besides, your only in 6th grade. Have fun with friends, not boyfriends.

Good luck.

Answer 5

It might be best to just move on. He's older than you plus you're pretty young for a serious relationship. Maybe give it a little time and if he doesn't decide to be with you, move on. You can find someone just as good.

Answer 6

I can tell you like him. When you read some of these answers they might say its best to move on but it's not. I can tell u from past experience its hard. Just try and wait it out while ur doing this get another crush but make sure ur old crush kinda gets u still like him. or if he really likesr u make him jealosue .

Answer 7

I think he's already told you -- in words and actions -- that he isn't interested in you as a girlfriend at this time. Maybe something will develop later, but not now.

Go about you life, hang with friends, meet other people, and move on.

If it happens later, you'll see how you feel about it then.

Answer 8

Ask him weather he wants to have you as a GF or not. If he says yes tell him to break up with his old GF. If he refuses just forget about him. He probably isn't right for you if he doesn't want to break up with his old GF

Answer 9

daa. wait 4 a while if he doesnt break up or he proposes to u then fine.
if not means jus leave him n do 4 another guy who u think is better than him.

Answer 10

just be friends with him right now and when they break up then maybe you and him could hook up. but dont try to break them up because he might get mad about that. good luck.