Several months ago i took my neighbour's child out and while out at the mall I cut her hair in a style the parents did not like. They are now threatening a lawsuit for $18,000 stating they were planning to cut the child's hair in India in March 2007 at a religious ceremony and what I did was a"Huge mistake" as they are going to India in Dec and March and i need to pay for the trips etc.
I tried to apology and sent a letter and now I am going to the SIHK temple to get a formal prayer and letter from the Temple stating I did this and do not disrespect their religion ,but Icannot pay $18,000 for their trips to India to have prayers and special oil done to remove the "spell " I put on the child etc. The parents are not willing to accept any APOLOGIES OF ANY SORT I THINK. They want me to bow to them and make me feel bad about the situation . I will not pay their expenses for their trips!!
Can you see any other solutions?? What is the real issue now???
2006-12-03 04:45:12 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Whoa, hold on a minute. Although you may have displayed "poor judgement" by having someone cut their child's hair, there's no reason for you to have to pay $18,000!
I don't know anything about their religion but I don't believe you had any intention of "disrespecting" it. It sounds to me like the parents are just trying to "shake you down" for some money! There is no reason for you to "pay their expenses" for their trips.
I think it would be wise for you to stop all communication with these people. If they pursue legal action, at that time you may have to get an attorney. They may find that they have no "legal recourse" and drop this entire thing.
I am not an attorney and I do not pretend to know what your rights are but I think you need to make sure you find out before you have any further communication with these people. They sound like a couple "nuts" to me!
Good luck.
2006-12-03 04:55:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, you should read up on Indian history and culture to understand what you've done. I don't know if there is such a ceremony but I would make it my point to find out.
Secondly, until you receive some sort of legal notice, you've really done all that you can. I don't think that they can compel you to pay their expenses and I'm not sure how their request would hold up in court. If you're that concerned about it, contact an attorney or a legal aid office in your community.
The real issue is that you made a horrendous mistake and they're unwilling to accept your apology. I don't know if they're trying to coerce you into paying their expenses or not.
I'm sure you understand this now, but never, ever take it upon yourself to do something to someones child without the parent's consent, no matter how well-intended you are.
2006-12-03 13:00:50 · answer #2 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good attorney will cost you alot less than $18,000. I would tell those freaks to go ahead and sue me because it sounds like they are too far out there to reason with anyway. If you go to court, the judge will see that you didn't purposely and malicously have the child's hair cut and will at best award them a small amount in damages. I wouldn't even get an attorney until I needed one. You should stay away from people who aren't in their right minds.
2006-12-03 13:01:42 · answer #3 · answered by zeropulse047 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it! Yes, you did use poor judgement by cutting her hair without the parents permission. But it does not give them right to make you pay money like that for your mistake. With your apologies I believe if it did go to court you would not be held liable to pay money. At least not that much. I agree stop communication with these people. More than likely they will just get over it. It is up to you whether you feel like you need to talk to a lawyer or not. They may just threaten court hoping you would be to scared to go and pay them off.
2006-12-03 13:08:56 · answer #4 · answered by a h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know most likely your intentions were good and most people would appreciate it. I don't think you knew these people as well as you thought you did. I think if they were going to have her hair cut in a ceremony in India, they would have said something about it and i am sure you would not have had the child's hair cut. I think they are taking advantage of you. I would take my chances in court. Don't give into them. I think that could be considered blackmail and even if you paid the $1,800.00 what would stop them from coming back for more.
2006-12-03 16:58:53 · answer #5 · answered by shyone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What in the H-E-L-L were you thinking? Are you out of your g*ddamned mind? I would have you arrested if I could. Keep your filthy hands off my child and her hair!! Geezus! What incredible gall you have, doing something so stupid.
Still, it sounds like they are taking advantage. An apology and money for a new haircut done in the style they were planning seems appropriate. Not a free trip to India for the whole family.
From now on, just worry about your hair, not your neighbor's kid's hair! Incredibly stupid move. Have your own kid and f*ck around with her hair. Otherwise, confine your style opinions to your own scalp. (Watch the movie "Spanglish" to see how others see you - you are the Tea Leoni character.)
2006-12-03 12:57:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
first of all this was not up to you to do. as I'm sure you know by now. also there are several religious beliefs, and these people that believe in them. to be honest with you,if these people decide to they can take you to court for this money and guess what they will get it.the system knows not to go against people beliefs. so if they want you to bow to them. i suggest you do so.
2006-12-03 12:59:12 · answer #7 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋