My husband and I have been married for nearly 2 years. I have already been through one terrible divorce and admit that I have some trust issues. My husband owns his own company and has began to travel alot this past year. He is maybe home only a few days a month. I fly out to see him when it is possible for me to arrange a sitter. I have two children from my previous marriage and he has two from a previous marriage. It is a strain for me to be able to travel so much and he is "married" to this business and very adimant about being successful and has done very well. I quit my career to be able to have the option to travel to see him when it could be arranged. He is obsessing about his business and our marriage is suffering tremendously. I am alone and just feel terribly lonely. I worry that my children are not getting the father figure they so desperately need in their lives because he is away so much. [ My ex-husband is not a good role model and never see's the kids].. What do I do???
2006-12-03 04:42:54 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
While I am not a marriage expert, I would make some time to discuss your concerns with him. Stating that you realize how important his business goals are to him but you have great concern about how it's affecting your marriage. Let him know that you miss the quality time you both deserve in this relationship and how it is affecting the children. Maybe there is an option that he could spend less time away or move closer to his clients or as they showed on Supernanny, installation of a WebCamera to have some Visual Chats each day w/you & the kids. I would come from a very loving place when you talk to him, not nagging and perhaps if he is the man you thought you married, he will try to see if there is a way to bridge the gap. Sometimes Men believe that the best way to show their family they love them is to Work work work, but if you can explain that his presence and his Love is more important than a Paycheck....he might find a way to regain control of his life from being a workaholic. If he does choose work, I would do what you can to get your life in order again to live on your own and know that there is someone else out there for you....or at the very least peace of mind knowing you did all you could. Best of luck, it is a very difficult position to be in.
2006-12-03 04:57:02 · answer #1 · answered by Aphrodite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have no reason to be suspicious, then you should get over that...give your husband and your family a fighting chance...its only been two years, and all though you all are newlyweds you both have children... which creates a whole different scenario
show the support that your husband needs as the provider, and hopefully he will recognize the sacrifices that you are making. If you know the places that he might be working on lets say long projects,send him a card/telegram,etc.,to let him know that you are thinking about him...if he is seeing someone else, you will know, men aren't that smart when it comes to hiding those things...but until then give your marriage a chance!
2006-12-03 05:01:25 · answer #2 · answered by iamhhi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time for you to have a serious discussion with your husband about the marriage. Thats the only way anything is going to get solved is COMMUNICATION. If you dont tell him whats going on or how you feel then he wont know that he needs to be home more often for his family. You need to let him know that he married you not his career.
2006-12-03 04:53:02 · answer #3 · answered by . 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-03-13 01:59:37 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your lifestyle is sending a bad message to your kids. This marriage is all about HIM, not the union of you two.
You are there to serve his ego, babysit his kids, and take care of his home. You are a doormat.
If he is married to his work then his loylaty is not to you or the family.
File for divorce, get alimony, and move on. It is better for kids to come from a broken home than to live in one.
2006-12-03 04:54:06 · answer #5 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds to me like ur only needed when it is convenient for him...that or maybe ur just a babysitter for his children while he is away on his business trips...talk to ur husband and tell him what is wrong with u and the marriage.
2006-12-03 04:50:34 · answer #6 · answered by Michele 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move to be closer to the business.
2006-12-03 04:48:25 · answer #7 · answered by Sunflower 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋