I consider myself a very kind person but find all my friends never quite value the friendship like I do, they are constantly letting me down when arranged to go out - i know they have their own lives but arent friends supposed to be important? whereas I go out of my way to help them out give them advice! i just seem too find really odd friends! Even a best friend I had years ago we went everywhere together if she never had any money I paid for her to go out etc and then when I started to rent a flat she just never bothered to phone me again! I told her that she could stay in the flat whenever she wanted etc and that was the thanks I got! what is it about me?
2006-12-03 04:18:54 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
A true friend is there for you. They don't talk about you behind your back. I have a friend who I trust completely. I have lots of friends, but only one true friend. A friendship should be give and take, you seem to be giving all the time. Step back a bit and see, if they only want you for what they can get out of you, they are not your 'friends'. Don't let this get you down, you seem such a lovely person, they don't deserve you. And you don't deserve them!
2006-12-03 04:29:29 · answer #1 · answered by chutney 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A freind of mine has the same problem. I think the reason is that she is quite an insecure person and hates being alone, so when anyone is nice to her (or appears to be) then she thinks she's met a genuine new friend. She doesnt think before she makes "so called" friends, because she really wants to believe that this time she's got it right and this new person will be the best friend that she is looking for! I dont know if this applies to yourself as I dont know you. She is, like yourself, kind and wouldnt do anyone a bad turn. But, through no fault of her own, does too much to help people and trusts them totally, then gets let down. Keep being the great friend that you obviously are!!!! Just be careful with people and be there for them, but also take care in your choice of friends. They are the ones with the problem! They are honoured to have you as a friend! Good luck mate!
2006-12-03 05:26:10 · answer #2 · answered by enigma64 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Got the same probs myself and it hurts and isn't very nice. Everyone used to tell me I'm just too nice!! You must have to be a heartless b---h these days to have friends. It's ok everyone saying go out and find new friends but when your confidence is so battered time and time again, there doesn't seem any point in trying, besides girls can't exactly go and sit in pubs/clubs on their own, can they? Wish I could say it gets better but for me it hasn't. There are a lot of cruel, unkind selfish people out there. Good luck anyway. xx
2006-12-03 06:15:24 · answer #3 · answered by RUTH M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you not know what it really is, when people act they way you describe. Jealousy pure and simple.
I have found this to be true, especially towards someone as kind hearted and generous as yourself.
These people are ignorant and shallow.
I believe you should be more wary of so called friends, wait to see if they are worthy of YOUR friendship. You have a lot to offer as a friend and only deserve the best kind of people, to share your time with.
Good Luck
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2006-12-03 06:16:09 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People like that are not friends, you must wise up a little more and don,t let them use you, I think that most people have been let down by so called friends at some point in life, try not to take it to heart.
2006-12-06 08:15:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes when someone is "too nice" they get treated like a doormat. And then since you r a nice person u just continue to get walked on. you need to seek out other nice good hearted people to be friends with, wouldn't it be nice to have someone do nice things for you as well?
2006-12-03 04:22:37 · answer #6 · answered by frostytink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry nothing is wrong with you. Something is wrong with your friends. From your description that you give about yourself, you sound like a kind person. You dont need friends like that, i would get new friends. Good luck :)
2006-12-03 09:07:03 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not you at all; it's your bad choice of friends who doesn't appreciate a wonderful, caring person like yourself. They're not your friends. Friends are there for you regardless...You have to put your foot down (sometimes in their ***) to get your message across. Do not let them use you like a doormat -- it's time to pull the "welcome mat" from under them.
2006-12-03 04:26:28 · answer #8 · answered by motherkc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont think its you, sounds like you mix with not very nice people. Be careful who you call friends. I know lots of people who are like that, there not my friends though. I can count on two fingers who I count as real friends.
2006-12-03 04:21:29 · answer #9 · answered by simon m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi!
erm well maybe these "friends" are using you...
theres nothing wrong with you, just the fact that people nowadays dont really understand how to be a friend. Your doing a good job.
just smile.
x
2006-12-03 07:37:36 · answer #10 · answered by no 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋