my ex has been awful to me and our daughter, we own a house together but he's going to take us to court to get us out! i can't get rehoused and will have to move out of the area and in to a hostel its 25 min drive to my daughters school and my wrk we have to move away from family aswell do u think this is fair? i am the only one paying the mortage and keeping up to it but cos we are not married i have to get out! plus for past 18mths i have paid everything and he still gets half!!! has this happened to everyone and do you think its fair on my 3 yaer old daughter! it shows he doesnt care much doesnt it
2006-12-03 04:08:57 · 12 answers · asked by lillypops 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he moved out last year as he used to be violent towards me
2006-12-03 04:09:31 · update #1
i do have a solicitor but he just says yes its a new law and he has the right to kick me and our daughter out of the house!
2006-12-03 04:18:34 · update #2
some1 said report him for violence i did and thats why he had to move out it did go to court and he did get found gulity
2006-12-03 04:19:40 · update #3
martini19.. why am i an emarresment to women?? i am trying to keep a roof over my daughters head!! i do the best for her and i am very proud of the way i bring her up! i am studying at collage working and a mum thats nothing to be ashamed of
2006-12-03 04:35:49 · update #4
i know this is going to sound harsh but start a fresh with your daughter forget this as...h...e your daughter is more important than bricks and mortar dont mean to be hard but think how proud you could feel by telling him to stick it where the sun dont shine i know it will be hard but you really can do it for yourself and your daughter jerk doest deserve either of you cant stand violant idiots
2006-12-07 03:29:21 · answer #1 · answered by rabbit18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were in your position I would take him to court over his violent behavior. If you can win an abuse case against him it might give you better grounds for your situation with the house; but if it doesn't help there you may be able to get some money out of him for reparations or even get him to do some time.
I would also recommend you see a lawyer about your housing situation, if you're not married and only his name is on the mortgage you don't have much of a chance of staying there, but at the very least you should be able to make him pay back all of the money you have been investing in the mortgage, in which case you could use it to better your predicament.
Lastly, if you haven't done so already, you should get moving on trying to get full custody of your daughter; from the way this man sounds I wouldn't be surprised if he would do the same just to hurt you more, and being the mother you have a much stronger case, especially if you bring it against him first and if you can prove he is violent.
I'm very sorry for your situation but I hope one or two of these suggestions help. Don't be a victim, you have obviously invested a lot and deserve to get something back
2006-12-03 12:18:03 · answer #2 · answered by Caity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People above are absolutely right ... this is a case for a judge. You must seek immediate legal advice, if not already done so and if you have and you are not happy, get a second opinion. It seems that the have equal if not more rights than your ex so he has not automatic entitlement to the house unless you agree to be bought out. I don't think being married should be a problem here. But don't expect any favours or graces from your ex .... deal through a solicitor at all times. Remember, the most important party here is the child as far as welfare goes ... that should help you as far as security of tenure.
2006-12-03 12:23:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that at times in our life, we have be really strong, atleast for our children!
1. Get above your emotion, as the other person involved is without emotion!
2. The biggest thing in your life is your 3 year old daughter. Think what is best for her and that is what should decide your life now!
3. Relationship is like a bank account! you just cannot make withdrawals without making deposit! Your Ex has made enough and the account is now empty! so, better close the accoutn once for all!
Life is bigger than your Ex. your daughter is the most important person for you right now! you can decide form here
2006-12-03 12:52:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to court and let the judge decide if your ex can put you and your and your daughter out if anything they will make him buy you out and give you time , he needs to get you notice(make sure you take any court papers showing his abuse, take all payment receipts to court, but go file papers right away and don't move without a proper notice. Good Luck
2006-12-03 12:19:04 · answer #5 · answered by elizabeth_davis28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three bits of advice:
1 Go see a solicitor
2 Go see a solicitor
3 Go see a solicitor
2006-12-03 12:19:17 · answer #6 · answered by simon m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you own the house together, can't he be made to sell it and split the proceeds? It all seems very unfair to you. Best of luck with your studies and with everything else.
2006-12-03 12:41:22 · answer #7 · answered by F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a question for a judge.
Get some help from a womens center, they'll have all sorts of resources for you.
Best wishes.
2006-12-03 12:11:57 · answer #8 · answered by heart o' gold 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he as not got a leg to stand on love plus there is a child involved he would be the one kicked out 1st trust me.
2006-12-03 12:17:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are entitled to stay in that house if you both own it until your daughter is 18 or before if she leaves home
2006-12-07 07:43:31 · answer #10 · answered by boo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋