What's the BEST WAY to move on?

Question

I was in a relationship for 4 years with a guy who was great. We did everything together and then I got pregnant. He said we would do this together and not to worry about a thing. I continued to work and he found a better job that was 2 hours outside of where we live(we live in seperate houses but the same city). He was by my side throughout my pregnancy,bought her clothes and everything. But after she was born, a rift between us began to grow. He started to spend more time at work, while I took care of our baby. He eventually moved in an apartment in the city 2 hours away from us and started to visit less frequently. Then around a month ago, he stopped calling. Our last conversation was bittersweet but actions speak so much louder than words. Last night was the last straw. I called "block" and his female best friend answered the phone saying he wasn't around. When I called back later, the phone was cut off. It doesn't take a genius to recognize game. Now I just want to move on. HELP!

Answer 1

First remember your Daughter comes first. As you know better than us all a single Mom is the hardest job in the world..but your doing the right thing in acknowledging you got to move on...the pain of your hurt in time can heal and time will heal it..!
Let your family and friends know that you'll need help for a while
and perhaps one day you'll meet a real man..one who does not desert his flesh and blood..its not going to be easy but remember every day is the first day of the rest of your life..Good luck !

Answer 2

!st of all u need to make sure your baby is taken care of. Is there an order for child support in place or do you guys just handle it between each other? U need to have it in writing and in the system. I know this seems crass but to move on u really need to get some action. i was in a relationship that ended abruptly, and i was broken, i'm not usually one to sleep around but i went out with some friends and hooked up with this guy i had a crush on in high school, it was very empowering. I felt very sexy, and that i didn't need that other guy i could get someone better. i was still hurt but it made me feel better that i didn't have to be alone.

Answer 3

As someone who has done some pretty unpleasant things in my past to a number of serious girlfriends, i can tell you with certainty that the only thing to do is limit his sway over you by not caring. Either he really doesnt care and then wont make an effort, making it easier on you, or he will miss you and come around. Be strong. He will have no choice but to respect that.

Answer 4

I attend a 10 week seminar on rebuilding after your relationship ends it helped me make sense of so many things and really helped me to finally move on http://www.rebuilding.org/index.htm. if you cant attend the seminar at least read the book i think is is a valuable tool for anyone who is going through a divorce or break down of a long term relationship

Answer 5

Do not loose your head! Try talking about child support payments and what your plans are for the baby.

Answer 6

Girl forget about him he is no good for you or your child. Just stay fouces on that baby. This road you about to walk is going to be long and hard, but just keep your head up!

Answer 7

Take it one day at a time.....(Time Heals All Wounds) !! Good Luck

Answer 8

get in your bed, cry for like, 15 minutes, then get out and make yourself a peanut butter sandwhich, and then go on to YA, and ask why you've gained 20 pounds.

Answer 9

Just do it! Move on - He apparently has. Good luck!

Answer 10

It takes time, and everyone is different,