Marriage vows?

Question

"Till death do us part" is a vow not many people will stick to these days and if they do it is far from uncommon to engage in such things as threesomes, swinging or simply do what modern day therapists call "spicing up your sexlife".

What vow do you think should be kept in marriage or what vow should be added to the existing ones??

Answer 1

horrible horrible question. AND WHY DON'T THEY STICK TO IT. BOG TO ALL THE PEOPLE WHO DON'T like that poor woman who's husband in that other question >>>>>> over there>>>> she came home and caught him in bed with another woman. She seems distraught and has two children........ ITS NOT FUNNY AND ITS NOT CLEVER. DON'T GET MARRIED IF YOU CAN'T love the other person like your supposed to innit LOVE GROWS, it doesn't shrink, your supposed to water it and nurture it, not look at the first bit of fluff that comes along and winks at the ego........ SORRY LONDON BLOKE LOL, not you,,,,,, this is for anyone who keeps their brains in their undergarment down stairs parts.

Bye the way shyns answer made me chortle

Answer 2

I think it would be better if people made their own vows that are unique to them in their relationship. I've never married yet and not sure if I will or not. I sometimes think that marriage vows just cant stand up to modern living as it is these days. People are human and will make mistakes, though when standing at the altar all loved up, they honestly mean every word they are saying! But, sadly life gets in the way and things dont always go the way you had hoped. I must say though, that if you arent the faithful type, get easily bored and chat up anything in a skirt/trousers and that is in your nature, then be honest with yourself and dont get married as you are bound to break the vows that you made.

Answer 3

Well you say that it is not uncommon to engage in threesomes, swinging etc. but one of the marriage vows is 'forsaking all others' which means you don't mess around with any one else than the partner you married. Whatever vow is put in the marriage ceremony would be broken so I am not even going to think about what to change!

Answer 4

Marriage is just a man made thing to keep us women oppressed. If women are earning good money, can have children etc, where is the incentive? Perhaps the pension money, but really that is not enough for us to suffer. 2/3 murders are done by men in marriage and women suffer lots of abuse ususally beginning when they get pregnant.

As for vows I would have once agreed with your conservative attitude, but now realise we are all out for number one. Although I do think sleeping around during marriage is usually instigated by the man, sometimes a control thing is degrade.

I believe marriage should be nothing more than a business proposal which has plenties for the person not adhering to their promises, then you all know where you stand.

Answer 5

I think people should only promise what they are sure they can deliver.

I promised my husband "till death" and that is what I'll give him, whatever happens.

I went to a wedding recently where the couple wrote their own vows. They were heartfelt and romantic, but they didn't promise each other "till death" because they weren't sure they wanted to do that.

I thought it was a very responsible way to start their marriage, instead of promising things then breaking their word later.

Answer 6

"I, (Bride/Groom), take you (Groom/Bride), to be my (wife/husband), to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward until death do us part."

I fail to see in the traditional, generic wedding vows anywhere that we will not consentually "share" each other such as in swinging or polyamory.

My wife and I are swingers, and have a very great relationship. We had a great relationship before we started swinging. We, like most vetern swingers (those that have stayed in the lifestyle, not just dabbled in it) did not get into swinging to "spice-up" our relationship. We did it as a couple to fulfill fantasies we have as a couple.

We are faithful to each other. We don't lie to each other or to others. We don't deceive each other. We don't "cheat" on each other by seeing others without each other's knowledge and consent.

We are loyal to each other. No one comes between us. Everything we do we do as a couple for the couple. There is not selfishness in our relationship.

We respect each other. We respect each other's feelings. Never do we do something that would make the other uncomfortable. We respect each other emotionally and physically.

We cherish each other. We cultivate our relationship with care and affection.

We love each other enough, and are secure enough in ourselves and our value to each other and our relationship that jealousy is not an issue as in many relationships. We don't have to control each other to keep them in our safety zone so that we are not uncomfortable. We allow each other the space in our lives and hearts to be who we are, not who we want each other to be. We are not scared of each other or what each other may do. We bring freedom to each other.

Taking jealousy over sex out of the equation has very clearly defined what makes our relationship and why we love each other and not someone else.

We know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that we are together because we WANT to be together. Not because we got married and now HAVE to be together.

That is a real relationship. Not defined by some vows, but by real love, affection, trust, and honor.

Answer 7

Leave in the love, honor part. Take out the obey part. In a marriage or any other relationship being asked to do something gets you a lot farther than telling.

Answer 8

After 42 years of marriage I think the most important thing is to have, and show, respect for one another.

The vow, I think, should be "I will always put you first"

Answer 9

Vow never to sepirate from your bride.

Answer 10

i think there is only one vow every one should make and that is to be honest with each other,