To me i looked at this as betraying me her husband. 2 days before thanksgiving we reunite our love and stay together in our favoriate motel, and make love and talk about communication and being honest because because that was the only way it could work.
So i ask my wife what she was doing on thanksgiving, and she told me nothing, so i figured finaly after almost 3 years we could spend it together( we allways since our separation seen eachother and been intimate with eachother and atleast i know i have been totaly faithful to my wife, but i feel different about my spouse after signals i have been recieving. so we have a wonderful nite and i didnt hear from here the next morning even though we live only about 3 miles away from eachother. About 7 pm. i recieved (not in person or by phone conversation), a phone text message from my wife saying that she is taking her children to elcentro to go spend thanksgiving with her ex-spouses family. and stayed in their house for 4 days
2006-12-03 03:34:13 · 10 answers · asked by brian k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The answer is that she took the CHILDREN to their GRANDPARENT'S home for the holiday and not that she went alone to spend time with them. Plans like these when children are involved are made well in advance. You should have asked her sooner. She text messaged you and told you at least. She didn't have to tell you at all. I don't think you would have been comfortable staying at a motel while she stayed with her children. It would have been inappropriate for you to stay at the x's. However, there isn't any reason why you couldn't have enjoyed the meal with them. Don't let your jealousy fuel your imagination. It is time for you 2 to decide whether to stay together or divorce so that you both can be unified at holiday times especially.
2006-12-03 03:45:55 · answer #1 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That wasn't right of her at all. Sounds like she is trying to have her cake and eat it too...she's using you and by the sound of it...you're falling for her. She looks at you and you fall for her immediately. I know you're in love, but she's going to continue to do this to you because she doesn't know what she wants.
I think that Thanksgiving was a clue that she is not willing to be 100% invested in you.
Personally, as hard as it is when you're in love, you need to pull away from her some....she will probably pick up on it and try to get you back in her grip, but you need to be strong and step away.
You need to find your peice of mind and you won't get that with her. There are so many other lovely ladies out there that you can meet.
Best wishes.
2006-12-03 03:40:50 · answer #2 · answered by tikizgirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats bad
She should have had the guts and honesty to tell you, and maybe even invite you there too. We get pulled in different directions sometimes by our past and current feelings. If we stay honest about it, we don't shake things up in such bad ways and we just kinda land where we belong. Good people can usually at least tolerate each other.
2006-12-03 03:39:23 · answer #3 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like she's doing this for the children. Just because you hooked up a few days before doesn't immediately put you on the top of the list. If you want to make it work, take it slow.
2006-12-03 03:46:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry that happened.
I guess it goes to show where her consideration and loyalty is.
It's not with you.
She clearly has unfinished business with her ex.
She is giving your children a bad message.
Why are you wasting yout time with her? Don't say "for the kids" and use them as an excuse to not make a move. It's better for them to come from a broken home than to live in one.
2006-12-03 03:50:09 · answer #5 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely her ex-spouse was there and she is spending 4 days there. You should ask her to her face and if you fell like something is not right you should break it off with her, or at least till you found out the truth.
2006-12-03 03:41:51 · answer #6 · answered by lil_mama69smokie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see a question, but it looks like your wife wants to have her cake and eat it too. Unfortunately it also looks like you are the poor fool who is going to let her do this as well. Think about the morals she is teaching her children, (I noticed you said hers and not 'ours'). They are going to grow up thinking it is ok to use people to get whatever they want. Find a woman worth the effort you are willing to put into the relationship.
2006-12-03 03:40:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste your life, cut the cord and find some gal that will appreciate you. Seems as though she has other "things" on her mind and you are not one of them.
2006-12-03 03:51:46 · answer #8 · answered by J.M.C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is a flake sorry to put it so bluntly. She could have informated you of this. Dump her for good..
2006-12-03 03:40:05 · answer #9 · answered by flowre16 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
its very complicated but maybe she did it for the kids....thats all
2006-12-03 03:40:39 · answer #10 · answered by acierman2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋