if u conceived from rape? would u keep it ?

Question

women and men yr views please.
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you can see why i asked

i need serious answers only.

i'm so lost now.

From not knowing if i was actually raped before and suddenly find myself in this situation.

Answer 1

Yes I would. The child doesn't deserve to suffer just because I was raped. And I would love my child no matter if it was concieved by rape or through marriage.

Answer 2

I would keep the baby yes. I couldn't give away something that belonged to me, and I would never have an abortion- I always feel it's not the baby's fault, and they deserve to be loved and cared for. I was raped before, and the hospital asked me if I wanted the morning after pill... I said no. I did not get pregnant from it though, but if I would have, I would have kept the baby. Everyone is different, so you do what you feel in your heart is right.

If you are going to have the baby- if you are indeed pregnant, go to the doctor asap... you really need to get the prenatal care to make sure everything is ok with you and the baby. You should also consider charging this man who did this to you. If you have your underwear still and haven't washed them, they might be able to use that as evidence. You also need to know you can always file a report on him, but end up not charging him.... that's what I did- I was very young at the time, and decided not to tell my parents, and they would have found out if I had charged the man- I know it's stupid of me, but that's what happened. Just keep all of that in mind. One last thing- a book called "Recovering from Rape" really really helped me. The hospital gave me the book, and it took some time to read it, but I did, and so glad I did... it truly helped.

So just try to sit down and think about what you are going to do. It's all up to you. Goodluck, and stay strong. I have a 14 month old son now with my husband, and he's the best thing that's happened to me (along with my husband).

I'm sorry-but for this girl amosunknown to say her situation was worse than yours- that's uncalled for. Anyone who has been raped should be taken seriously, and shouldn't be judged based on whether or not one was worse or the other- it's rape! It shouldn't have happened no matter what! So I think amosunknown is immature saying all of that, don't listen to that-nobody deserves to be raped- NOBODY.

Answer 3

I honestly don't know what I'd do and hopefully I never have to face this problem. What I do want to say is that I think it's wonderful that we live in a day and age where if we chose to abort, we could. We don't have to get our boyfriends to beat the hell out of us so we lose the baby or resort to coat hanger abortions. Never mind the back alley butchers who more times than not, the women would die from the butchery. I have always been pro-choice, always will be. Still doesn't mean that I would or would not have an abortion. And I'm glad that we don't have to prove a rape to have an abortion. Could you imagine how many men would be falsely accused of rape because someone didn't want to be pregnant? Whether you are for or against it, legalizing abortion is a good thing. As for your situation, I honestly can't tell you what I'd do. There are so many factors to consider, there is no right or wrong thing to do. Do what's right for you. Posting here is nice for opinions but none of us can solve your problem It is your decision to make and whatever that is, it will be the right one for you. Take care of yourself, my thoughts are with you.

Answer 4

I would NOT have an abortion. I can't say for sure if I would keep the baby to raise or not. It depends on how traumatic the experience was for me. If it were very traumatic, I would probably give the baby up for adoption or if I were very young and did feel that I could raise the baby and give the child a good life. I feel that abortion is wrong in all circumstances. Even rape. It isn't the child's fault. I realize that if you are young you could experience some teasing and stuff by other people, but in the end, you don't have to answers to those people. You have to answer to God. Think about that moment you stand before God and make sure that you do the right thing......if you are even pregnant. You should go to the doctor. They may be able to tell you if your hymen is in tact , which if it is usually means that you are a virgin. You should also tell you mom. Is it possible that you were given a date rape drug??

Answer 5

Yes. I would keep it. I know I am a guy saying this but if it was my friend, sister etc. I would give them the same advice. While the act in which the child was concieved is violent it isn't the childs fault. I am a father of a beautiful little girl and I just think that she is a gift from above. I see it like this! Being raped is a horrible thing that happend to you but if you choose to get an abortion how will you feel tommorow, next week, or years from now. Maybe the baby will be a good thing to come out of a bad situation. If you are not asking about abortion but maybe adoption then I can give you more support in that. Don't make yourself out to be someone that kills life but gives another family a chance. If you need more advice email me at [e-mail]. I know a few people that would also be willing to adopt your baby if that is what you are thinking of.

May God bless you and give you strenght during these trying times!

Matthew

Answer 6

That's a tough question to answer honestly, considering I've never been in that situation. If I was raped today, and conceived, I would terminate. I am 32, have a 12 and 8 year old and do not want anymore children. But had it been when i was in my mid 20's, I may have kept it. Or at least carried it through and put it up for adoption. But again, since I'm not in that situation, and never have been my answers could very possibly change if it did happen.

Were you raped? Did you conceive? If so, I'm very sorry that happened to you. Get some counseling, and speak to support groups about your options.

Answer 7

That's a very personal decision to make. What are your feelings on it? Are you ready for a child? Do you want to be reminded of the assault through the child? Can you physically have the child? Would you be able to tolerate giving the child up for adoption? Can you handle having an abortion?

I would have an abortion. I would not be able to carry a child conceived of rape, because I cannot mentally tolerate such an act forced upon me.

Answer 8

Abortion is something I could not do. I have always been pro-life. But I have always said there are certain exceptions that I could never judge a person for because it has to do with mental stability that could ruin a person, rape and incests and when the mothers life is in jeopardy. You are the only one that can make this choice. You will probably get about a 50/50 on the peoples opinions here.
I would say first find out if you are in fact pregnant. Then seek counseling because you are truly going to need a sound board to get through this. I wish you all the luck in whatever you choose to do. Remember there are always other choices then abortion.
I hope you find the peace you need through these trying times. My thoughts are with you.
To Mathew above, Reading your post was one of the nicest ones I have read in all the answers thumbs up to you!

Answer 9

rape causes a very deep negative impact on a person's psyche and bearing a child of the person who raped you usually is traumatizing. however, it depends from person to person. if you think u can bring the child into this world and give him a POSITIVE upbringing - keep him away from all the negative & bitter feelings that you might have regarding his father & the conception (which could be difficult at times) - then a child is always a bundle of joy. your age could also be a factor in this decision.. if you are very young then maybe you should not consider children right now

Answer 10

I was molested by a cousin nightly for tree months. He was about 5 years older than me ( i was only 13). He was in a gang and they were out to get him for ratting them out on a robbery. Because of that my family, who lived in the middle of no where, took him in while things cooled off.

I was young and didnt know anything, and thought he was just my cool big cousin. One of his friends came over once, and i heard them talking about pills.

Something like "yeah, ive heard these work great, girls dont remember a damn thing the next day, I could only afford a few". I was a kid and honestly didnt think anything of it.

But there are seriously parts of those months that i cannot remember. Entire days in fact. Events that my parents have said "rememebr that time when" and i totally cant even remember a thing. Except being sick. I remember headahces and nausia for a couple days, and feeling like i was walking around in a dream.

He confessed to my parents that he 'tried' to rape me one day when we got in a fight. He pinned me down in the drive way and wouldtn let me up, starting messing with my clothes.... I got away and locked myself in the bathroom until myparents got home.

Anyway, all that to say, i can really underastand what that girl is discribing. I had nightmares until i got married of things that a virgin girl cannot possibly know. I felt things in my dreams that you honestly cant FEEL unless you've had sex. And i never had. But i couldnt remember anything.

All of that to say, NO. I never in a million years would have ever considered aborting a baby caused from that situation. And mines worse than hers. It was a cousin. But i still couldnt do it. I'd have given it up for adoption if i had to. The child is innocent, i was innocent, but the situation was not. Its not a reason to kill a chid.

Theres no reason to abort a baby. Absolutely none.

Answer 11

Despite the fact that I am against abortion, but unfortunately, I would have to say that I would abort. The reason being that I do not think that I would be able to carry this child in my womb for nine months and feel any attachment to him/her. The purpose of conceiving is because you made a decision to have a child of the person who you love and wanted to make the love between you and him into one person. I have kids and when I see them I see my husband and I do not have any resentments over them or any dreadful memories of how they were conceived but only love, that is what children are about love and that child is not going to have that. God to forgive me but maybe if ever one is to be in the situation things could change.