She is 34 and we have a two year old son. I caught her having phone sex one night. Since then I have found out that she loves him. She is saying that for years I have ignored her and now that someone else cares I want to be caring and etc. I do love her but she won't stop talking to this guy. How am I supposed to feel . I get upset when he calls and etc. Am I wrong??
2006-12-03 02:51:20 · 13 answers · asked by mtjs06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hmmm....I am very confused....after looking at you other questions....are you not the 18 yearold? And how did her TRIP go with her Husband? Did they cure your Cancer?
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mtjs06. I would like it to be someone older. I'm 18 my gf is 34
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2006-12-03 03:57:35 · answer #1 · answered by oldman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-18 08:44:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not wrong for being upset. If there was a problem she should have talked with you about it. She loves him, even she ought to know better than that, you can't love someone you don't even know, at least not truely. What she probably does love is the attention of a younger man who is saying things to her that her husband is not. Honestly if your going to keep her you made need to step up your game. You might try counseling. You should talk to your wife though and discuss whether or not she is willing to try and make it work or not. If she does discuss your options for help and discuss what it is that you both need out of your relationship. Find a common ground to stand on so that you can both build your relationship up from there.
2006-12-03 03:01:59 · answer #3 · answered by a h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mtjs06,,,
How should you feel??? come on man,, you don’t know how you feel?? Try “hurt”, “betrayed”, “cheated on”, “self-esteem is crushed” etc.. Should you be upset when he calls?? duh,, of course you should!
There are two issues here, You and Her.
It’s probably NOT totally her fault. Have you been ignoring her mental, emotional, physical needs in the relationship? If not,, get off your rear and be a great or at least good husband! She said she “loves him”?? Doubtful,, but what she really loves is: the attention, caring, emotional needs are being fulfilled, physical needs are being fulfilled, etc ! This is the base instincts all women have and use when they “fall in love”. (mental-emotional-physical needs) Non-the-less, she needs to stop her slutty behavior and work with you!
Wifey needs to be honest with You and COMMUNICATE her mental, emotional, physical needs to YOU! You are not a mind reader. NO Man is! If she isn’t receiving what she needs in the relationship it is HER RESPONSIBILITY to let you know !!
There is one general unspoken behavior/condition about Woman in their early-mid-late 30’s,, This decade is when Women hit their sexual peak in life. (hormones-etc, play a huge role) Men on the other hand hit their sexual peak in their late teens, early 20’s. This is not universally but generally true. The issue being,, you are not alone here it’s happened to lots of men.
Sit down and COMMUNICATE with your Wife,, And she HAS TO BE COMPLETELY OPEN AND HONEST WITH YOU. Don’t argue, that won’t solve squat !! Come to an agreement you both at least want to stay married. Then both of you get into marriage Counseling !!!
Long as your love for each other is true/honest/real,, you can work this out so both of you are meeting each others needs-wants-desires!
2006-12-03 03:57:12 · answer #4 · answered by logicalanswer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not wrong but she is very wrong. This is a form of cheating. Its breaking vows. I am so sorry you are dealing with this. Maybe she willing to go through some sort of couples counseling to get your marriage back on track. I hope everything works out for you and you two are able to fix this before it crosses over to a full fledged affair.
2006-12-03 03:11:42 · answer #5 · answered by Issym 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did she met this person in the first place and if this has been going on for years then she is openly committing adultery..so why are you staying in a marriage that she doesnt care to honor..Find a lawyer and get out
2006-12-03 03:06:45 · answer #6 · answered by edward g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go to a marriage councelor....you are too messep up and need help. It sounds like you guys are in a rot, bored of eachother and need some spice. Work on your marriage if you truly love this woman because all this things that you guys are doing are very destructive and will hurt not ony you but your children too.
2006-12-03 02:55:44 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course your going to feel broken and upset, your not wrong. Tell her to put an end to it and its time to consentrate on your relationship. If shes not willing to do that than divorce her and make sure you always have proof of what she's doing otherwise you will get screwed financially. good luck
2006-12-03 02:57:14 · answer #8 · answered by ELW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confront her and talk to her not yelling or screaming ,talk then work out your diffrences then find the 18 year old and read him the riot act remember he is 18 legal age for a beating
2006-12-03 02:57:13 · answer #9 · answered by Fergie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wake up she is sleeping with the 18 yr old
2006-12-03 02:54:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋