Don't you think women look better before marriage because men are so draining we have no time to ourselves?

Question

men seem to complain about this, wanting perfection, like working having kids, tea on the table and look beautiful. Something has to give men. I always notice women look great after separation or divorce (totally transformed into beauties). I also notice men look better when in a relationship. Do men take our beauty away, by being so self centred and demanding?

Answer 1

Marriage I think on the whole is more demanding on women than men. Especially for career women and mothers. They still carry the bulk of the housework as well as keeping finances straight. School meetings, daycare runs, etc.

It's very tiring. Pregnancy can also take a hit on a woman's body. Men just don't seem to either get any of that, or just don't care. Not sure which.

And usually when marriages breakdown, you're right. I find most women tend to bounce back to looking better because they're less drained trying to keep everything perfect at home.

Men on the other hand, tend to take less care of themselves after marital breakdowns. I find guys more attractive that have never married and trying to find a woman, than those that are divorced or separated. Married guys seem to come off looking ok to, but probably because their woman in behind that.

Just an observation.

Answer 2

I think it really depends on the person. If your husband doesn't help out around the house and you are left to do everything then yes in a way I think they do take the beauty away. With that being said I also think that sometimes women just get comfortable in their situation and tend to let themselves go a little bit. Maybe it is because it just isn't as important as it once was. I fall into this category I have really let things go because it just didn't seem important, there were so many other things to worry about. I discovered that you can't take care of others as well as you can when you are also taking care of yourself.

Answer 3

i agree Marti...yes were all beautiful in the eyes of the beholder but juggling kids and house and jobs does get in the way of beautifying ourselves....and yes it's true that they do make an effort after divorce because they don't have to take the pressure of their spouses telling them that they need to shape up and men do look good when they have a good woman to take care of them...i don't think men take the beauty away...i just think they expect too much and should be grateful with what they have....we women work hard to keep our families together and forget about ourselves sometimes

Answer 4

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Answer 5

That could be a possibility! I've kept myself up with this marriage unlike when I was married before. My kids were young then and now they are almost grown. More time - that is the thing. Women are such multitaskers - its hard to keep atop everything. A man comes home (usually) and sits - does nothing, a woman comes home, she has another job at hand. It never ends!

Answer 6

Men don't take away "beauty" from a woman in marriage.
Women have used their tools to catch their husband, then get lazy after the marriage.
This is why you see divorced or separated women suddenly slimming down after their marriage is on the rocks so they can catch another guy.
I've seen guys get lazy and let themselves go, too, so it's a 2-way street.
Man & women need to take care of themselves for their spouses.

Answer 7

I think you hit the nail on the head. Men take more energy than they are worth sometimes.
Another reason though, is that many women "relax" after they "hook" a man and no longer care. When you're single and looking, you tend to take greater pains to have the "look". So it's both, I guess.

Answer 8

bottom line..... "its me or the house, i don't have time to make us both look good!!"

hahahaha.....

i do think this argument holds some weight, but at the same time i think you have to prioritize.... there is no one saying that you can't get up a bit earlier or take the first half hour of the day to get yourself taken care of before you start the slaving for the house and kids and man.

i do agree that women often look great after divorce, but i guess that is true of any weight that gets lifted.... i don't think that means that all marriages are opressive in this manner.

Answer 9

not sure about this but I looked pretty bad when I was married, & yes it has something to do with kids, housework etc. You also have to make a bit more of an effort when you are single. Don't agree with you that men in relationships look better, they get a bit fat & boring don't they! Only joking guys, ha ha

Answer 10

I think both men and women change after marriage, or just after a long time together. We all put on a "dating" face, for better or for worse, and it has to slip eventually. Men do expect a lot but that's because as Mothers women coddle them.