I have been talking to this girl online secretly for about a month and half now and she wants to come visit me. My wife does not know anything about this. What should I do. Should I tell her to come or tell her to stay away.
2006-12-03 02:42:43 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't want to have sex with the girl that is coming I just want to talk to her.
2006-12-03 02:54:16 · update #1
I am so confused about this topic I want to see her yet I don't. It just tortures me every time I think about it. I like to chat online and meet poeple but past mistakes with my wife makes it hard for me to do that without her thinking I am up to something else. Our relationship got off to the wrong foot and has never been on right one cause of me.
2006-12-03 03:19:27 · update #2
Your playing with fire. Your bound to get bitten in the a** for it. Why don't you try working on your marriage and giving your wife more attention instead of seeking woman online?
2006-12-03 02:49:52 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The key word is SECRET. How would you feel if if the situation was turned around? Do you love your wife? If you do, then I imagine you are good friends right? Ask yourself if you want to be treated this way by a friend. Sometimes we take for granted the things that we are fortunate to have. I'll tell you what....Do what your heart tells you to do. What are your intentions? It is my opinion that you need to re-evaluate your values. Dont disrespect you closest friend is my advice. You will not feel good about it. Integrity and honor. If you are unhappy in your relationship with your wife, I suggest communication. Dont disrespect yourself. Be a stand up man. Honor your friendship and yourself. Aim high my friend.
2006-12-03 03:10:53 · answer #2 · answered by perrin501 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to stay away. Unless you have the balls to tell your wife you've been talking to a friend online that wants to visit. If you love your wife and life than you shouldnt even be talking to this woman at all.
2006-12-03 03:02:39 · answer #3 · answered by ELW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mind and body is wanting her to come but your conscience tells you otherwise.. you know the right decision. what have you been talking that should be kept secret? are you cheating on your marriage on-line? please.... i'm a wife too and my heart bleeds when i read your question. have mercy..
dear tim, i have read your previous question about your wife not having the sexual drive.. you're in denial if you say you are not for sex with this woman.
you were asking for advice and as you find, many are telling you to tell that woman to stay away. the way we see it, you're rationalizing your encounter. the way we see it, you have already answered your question --- you are going to see that woman. it pains me to know another man has succumbed.
dear tim, we are responsible for our acts.. your past must have taught you something. learn from it. no one can do the learning for you. behave yourself IF you intend to keep the marriage.. however, be honest to your wife and yourself IF you intend a divorce.
being honest can be very difficult though.. i believe countless have left this life wrapped in their lies.
2006-12-03 02:50:26 · answer #4 · answered by budi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, clearly this thing you're "up to" with this newest girl is an excellent choice to get your marriage on the right track! Your poor wife!
2006-12-03 03:36:44 · answer #5 · answered by DivaDynamite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While she's here, maybe the two of you can go visit the Divorce Lawyer together......because that's the next thing that has to be done! Don't tell her anything.....have no more contact with her!
2006-12-03 03:16:04 · answer #6 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should knock it off unless you want to lose your wife...what are you thinking????? You are on a slippery slope and your wife deserves better from you....without trust there is nothing in a relationship.....
2006-12-03 02:53:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you stupid or what, you must not respect your wife..why on earth would you ever risk your marriage for someone on line.
You need to be honest or get a divorce on the grounds of ADULTERY.
2006-12-03 02:47:55 · answer #8 · answered by faith m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been doing this "secretly" then you know this is wrong. My suggestion is to leave it alone before the "secret" gets out.
2006-12-03 02:47:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your fantasy is becoming reality, so be sooo very careful !!! It may be best to have her stay away!!
2006-12-03 02:52:03 · answer #10 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋