days a go I bout this car from this guy. ... the day I supposed to get the car title. he was late so I have to cal his office. all of the Sedan his assistants answer. .... I asked him if the manager there he said hes on the way. .. I notice his voice was familiar to me. I asked him. I think I heard ur voice a before his said yes. me too. then in moment I realize That I was talking to my first fiance who dispersed 3 years ago. for no reason.I was like.. is that u. he said oh my god. salma.. where are u now. I said I am in this city . he was oh I am coming now. I was Like WHY... he said because I miss u. I said its over a long time a go. and .......I was like why did u go. he said I don't know. I asked him why did u leave me. when I needed u... u know I was so Young. that time I didn't know what I was doing u should have know batter them . if u loved me... u wouldn't go anywhere. u will be still here. he stop talking then he asked me for my family I was like WHY... he said I want to a
2006-12-03 01:49:49 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he said I want to apology's to them. told him there are fine .he asked for my my #. I told him I can give u my home phone so if u want to talk to my parents........ then he was like I miss u can I see u now. I said .. no Iam busy I ll talk to u letter.... that's it... he calls yesterday my parents talk to him and they invited him to my house.... I don't answer his phone calls..... because I have nothing to tell him....... I m seeing someone now and there is no way Iam ganna take him back ..... its over 3 years ago... I told him it never will be the same.... never..... do u guys think I did the right think... I still have I good felling about him. I don't hate him I don't love him ether.... and Iam not willing to take him back... no-matter what... because I believe if he loved me he will be here for me in til now......
in 3 years so many things could happend.. people change. I change..
by the way when we ge engage.. I was 18 and he was 21.......
2006-12-03 01:50:39 · update #1
I have a BF that I love .. he been there for me... he lovesma. and he stand a reall man when I need it... I told him about the story... we dont liey to eachother.... I told him evrything .. he said ... dont woory about it.. he can be freind with my family but to stay aways from me... the problem my family dasent know about my BF.... I was just waitting for the right time... and want to make sure that hes the right parson.....
2006-12-03 01:53:11 · update #2
u did the right think
2006-12-03 02:00:01 · answer #1 · answered by I_belong_to_me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOw this is really heart tearing I am so sorry this happened to you. I don't know if he needed to become more mature but at least he could have let you know what happened. If you want to close off with knowing what happened you might decide to have coffee or get together and find out what exactly did happen then you can achieve closure instead of always wondering.
If you have a close relationship with the person you are with right now talk to him about it first before meeting up with the other guy. Tell him reassure him that you have no interest but really want to know what set all the things in motion and want to know why he ran away.
Don't know for certain what his reasons were and there is really no explaination that would satisfy me either.
To think that he didn't have enough courage to tell you in the first place was rather lame.
Be happy that you didn't end up married and then he ran away. You had good luck on your side
Best of luck in this matter I hope it all works out for you
2006-12-03 09:57:23 · answer #2 · answered by Spirit_Rain_3-SunShineAries 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doing the right thing...
He has hopefully apologized to your parents, which he should..
You do not need an explanation why he left......You have moved on in your life and should continue to do so...
You can't go back... it is not healthy for you...
There are too many wounds when someone abandons you....
You should not hook up , even to talk, cause he will try to get together with you again...
Don't even start talking to him.... it will lead to nowhere..
You shouldn't accept his phone calls and you should tell your parents how you feel, so they will understand and not push you....
Do not look back, go forward with your life. you sound like a very smart and mature person.......
2006-12-03 09:56:25 · answer #3 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing is to talk to your exboyfriend and tell him that you have no interest in him and that you have a new one now that you care for alot. and if you don't want to do it alone then ask your boyfriend now to be there. I would tell your parents if they like your old boyfriend thats find but stop trying to put you two back together. because you found a great guy and you are happy with him. I'm happy that you found a great man stay with him and tell the old sorry your lost and his gain.
2006-12-03 09:59:09 · answer #4 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is totally up to you, what he did was bad but he may have grown up in the last few years. If you ever decide to start taking his calls I would start off with a totally platonic relationship, and take it slow. Make it clear that it will take quite a while before you can trust him again.
2006-12-03 09:57:17 · answer #5 · answered by Mad Maxine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever his reason, he left you disrespectfully, and although you might be able to forgive him, you certainly should never forget. You have done the right thing by not taking him back. You have moved on with you life, and you shouldn't go backwards just to ease his guilt.
2006-12-03 09:56:27 · answer #6 · answered by T Time 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you must and that too with open arms. First love cannot be forgotten easily and such opportunities don't strike so often. If you are sure that he loves you, if you are sure that he has matured as a man - don't miss this chance.
2006-12-03 09:53:32 · answer #7 · answered by keyman_o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u know u may love ur bf but r u sure that its really love? i mean u may love ur first fiance unknowingly. i really think that ur first fiance really loves u and its after u broke that he realised it. he's the right guy 4 u- he loves u and ur parents like him, so wat do u want more? i dont think he'll leave u again now coz i think he realised his mistake. trust ur heart and let it decide 4 u.
2006-12-03 10:13:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Salma: Believe in your instincts, intuition and conscience. That's all.
2006-12-03 10:03:17 · answer #9 · answered by Charles Sobhraj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him see where his head and heart is at- give it a try because you still love this guy
2006-12-03 09:53:14 · answer #10 · answered by lex1979x 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋