i'm kind of shy & not so talkative, so some peopl mistake that for disliking. so how do i overcome this shyness???
2006-12-03 01:44:33 · 8 answers · asked by Sri 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I'm the same way and some people say i come off as stuck up. but im so the opposite of that. What I do is smile at them. not a big huge smile that'll creep them out, just a little one showing no teeth.
2006-12-03 02:29:44 · answer #1 · answered by Skyla 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dale Carnegie writes books that lots of salespeople read. He discusses rapport building.
First of all, put all of your fears, discomfort, intimidation, and negative self talk on the back burner. This is not about you. Make it about other people.
Show your interest in others by breaking the ice. Compliments are the best ice breakers, or some positive observation about something you and someone else have been witness to. Follow up with a question or two.
People want to be noticed. They say and do things to be noticed. They dress a certain way, or drive a certain car. Give them recognition and approval for it.
Draw people out with your interest. Ask what thet think, what they would do, ask for advice, ask their opinion, and ask if they like something.
Use someone's name a few times in conversation.
Avoid injecting your opinion or peosonal thoughts into a conversation unless someone asks. Do not judge people or criticize them.
If you're shy, you look aloof and indifferent. Your fear may come off as unfriendliness, and people will think you are judging them harshly.
Share your time, your attention, admiration, and your respect. Give freely without exception or conditions. It will come back to you, as you will feel good inside because you made someone's day. You will feel more popular and welcome. When you make others feel good around you, they will want you around.
2006-12-03 10:56:07 · answer #2 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply try to keep a friendly smile on your lips and even if you are not talkative you can listen with proper attention while others are talking and chip in when needed. I hope this will help you to overcome your shyness.all the best.
2006-12-03 11:54:09 · answer #3 · answered by ANANYA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can easily make friends
jus smile at them often... and then after a few days say a hello! and ssup!
then u could slowly build up a conversation.. u may not do it in one day it will take time until u bcom a expert in doin git!
then u should talk abt ur interests and hobbies.. see if u two have anything in common! and talk abt tht!
u could also jus help people and gain them as friends!
All the best in friend makin
2006-12-03 09:50:08 · answer #4 · answered by kk kk kk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be open, Naipaul the Nobel laurette gives the simplest formula, never entertain politics or prejudice when you meet and talk with some one. This is the time tested method for building long lasting relationships and friendships.
2006-12-03 12:44:55 · answer #5 · answered by Mathew C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it step by step, start striking a conversation with people around you the next time you go out.
2006-12-03 12:48:38 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can try this book:
How to win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie.
it helped me. it should help you too.
2006-12-03 09:52:56 · answer #7 · answered by Dore 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well add me ...dear friend ...i can help you out
2006-12-03 09:53:12 · answer #8 · answered by greatmangentletrue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋