So, you start writing your Christmas cards. You send to everyone on your list, however some people on your list don't send you one back - and never plan on doing it. Do you remove them from the list or keep sending them.
Also, suppose you get a card from someone not on your list, do you suddenly add them?
2006-12-03 01:24:50 · 20 answers · asked by L.A. Scene 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
Christmas Cards started as a way to keep in touch in the holidays, and has evolved into a game of "stay even."
Some years I can't afford to send cards. They are expensive -- even if you just count the postage. I used to design and print my own cards. Alas, no more.
The "polite rules" about Christmas cards are many, and the other answers talk about many of them. "Give them two years." One year I was in China during the pre-Holiday season, and my (now) ex-husband refused to even put the written, addressed, and stamped cards in the mail, because he doesn't believe in them. The next year I was divorced. Oops! No cards from me for two years, Guess I'm off your list.
These days, while cards are beautiful, give them because you love the giving and know people love the receiving. And include an email address, because people are more likely to answer in email.
Good luck figuring it out. I say, Go with your heart.
2006-12-03 01:46:34 · answer #1 · answered by Patricia M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
do you send cards as a christmas greeting or because you expect them back or because you care about them
do you equate your popularity by the number of cards you receive
some people never send cards
do you send cards to people you haven't seen or talked to for many years
people who have had a death in the family that year often do not send cards
do what ever makes you happy
2006-12-03 05:28:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you need a return card as a reason to keep sending cards? Is that what the season's about? (And remember: many people are terrible procrastinators.) Keep sending cards anyway, unless you get a vibe from the person that they don't want you to anymore.
If you get a card from someone not on your list, depends on who they are if you want to add them permanently. Are they your first cousin or someone you can't even remember meeting? If you felt indebted, you could always send a card in return without adding them to the permanent list.
2006-12-03 01:39:42 · answer #3 · answered by flying peanuts 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There are no hard and fast rules. You're supposed to send family and friends cards to wish them a happy christmas because you mean it. You send others out of politeness - business colleagues etc. If I send a card and don't get one back in return, it doesn't stop me from sending one the following year. However, if someone sends me one and I haven't thought of them, I do tend to add them to my list (if it's personal rather than business)
2006-12-03 01:33:59 · answer #4 · answered by Agony Aunt 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am quite sure everyone that gets a Christmas card from you enjoys it and appreciates you thinking of them. On the other hand some people are busy and don't always send cards every year. Continue to be the thoughtful person whether they are on your list or not.
2006-12-03 01:30:36 · answer #5 · answered by Shawna 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
We send Christmas cards to people who are our friends, family, and those who are special to us(mailman, animal vet, doctor, dentist, etc.). If they don't send us a return card for two years we take them off our Christmas card list, unless......... we know they are unable(because they can't afford to do so, are too old, have had a death in their family, etc.) to send out cards. We always send Christmas cards to people unable to send out cards, our family, and to those who are special to us.
If someone, not on our Christmas card list, sends us a card we will put them on our Christmas card list for the next year if they are friends, family, or someone else special to us. Then we treat them like everyone else on our Christmas card list.
2006-12-03 10:45:05 · answer #6 · answered by Sue 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are a few explanations why this may have happened. Did you mail it? If so, it could be "lost in the mail" or they simply haven't gotten it yet! If you gave it to them by hand, THEY may have mailed it back (see explanation above) or they juts haven't gotten to it yet! After all,it's not quite Christmas yet,is it? The person may have forgotten,and replying to a card can be nice,but it's not always necessary. If you feel that you would like a reply, kindly reming the person, not being demanding or harsh, because remember, people forget! Hope you get the reply that you are seeking!
2006-12-03 01:35:14 · answer #7 · answered by Fiona 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If they are a dear friend, give them a ring and have a pleasant chat and then drop the bomb: WHY DIDN'T YOU SEND ME CARD?!?!
But seriously, I'll just send the cards to those naughty never-replies for about 3 Christmases and if they still do not send you a card, then strike them off.
If you have received a card from someone not on your list, feel flattered that they have thought about you and return the gesture by sending them a sincere card!
2006-12-03 01:34:38 · answer #8 · answered by xxon_23 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Today i sent cards to sooo many people, just finished it actually, so it's a bit funny for me to read this question right now. :)
Personally, i want people i care about to know someone's thinking about them, even if they don't consider me to be their greatest friend or smth. I would like to believe it still matters and maybe makes them smile.
Although i am delighted to get a (return) card, it is not why i send ones myself.
If someone that i had forgotten sent me a card i would most certainly add them to my "list"!
Happy first advent!
(I do hope it is said like that in English!)
2006-12-03 01:44:10 · answer #9 · answered by Did i just say something silly? 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My mother said she would always send my biological father Christmas cards...she never got one back and didn't even know what was going on with him. Years later, when I met my father, he showed me all the things she'd sent. Turns out both of them were happy that they'd been sent...and if it were not the case in your situation, does it really matter? If you want to send your greetings, do so!!
2006-12-03 01:58:14 · answer #10 · answered by Nuttie Nettie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋