I'm going through a divorce and I have had my new boyfriend for about 6 months now. He is awesome in bed, but I am having a horrible time climaxing. He's doing everything that would have made me go in the past, but I am not going. i started taking Wellbutrine to help me relax since i am going through a divorce, but am worried about it now. My boyfriend is GREAT, but I feel so NOT great since I can't go for myself and for him. Even when I try to do myself, it is taking a VERY long time....I might have awesome stamina, but this is getting ridiculious. Please help?
2006-12-03 01:22:54 · 10 answers · asked by ANGELA 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
taking any kind of anti-depressant can have an effect on your sex life. Think about it--mood changing drugs take the edge off, the good and bad edge.
2006-12-03 01:25:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes you need to relax, stay off the drug. In the back of your head you are still concerned about your divorce. Going through a D is not easy because of the issue you left. You have been with your B/F for six months, is this the first person you have been with since the start of your D? if so there could be some issues there as well from the past haunting you, again its a matter of realizing you are not married anymore, relaxing, take a "calgon" bath and enjoy the moments with your man and soon you will be on your way to the Big O.
2006-12-03 01:42:21 · answer #2 · answered by Been real 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's the problem. Wellbutrin has effected my wife in the same way. But not to be gross or anything but my jaw and tongue are allot stronger if you know what I mean. She ended up going to something like xanax. But while she was taking that stuff I had to not only use my mouth but we had to incorporate toys as well. Also look at it this way if your EX, was doing, he needs to come up with a new way of pleasing you. But yeah that will kill allot of emotions. You might not notice it but he probably thinks you are like a zombie right now. It took my like two months to get my wife to realize it. After getting off that stuff she is back to her old self again. Really quick my wife became a Passion Party consultant and that helped allot as well.
2006-12-03 01:33:19 · answer #3 · answered by mongo3434 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Can the Wellbutrin! When that's out of your system, maybe you'll be able to appreciate what your b/f has to offer and you won't want or need it anyway. (It'll help you pack some lbs on too - not worth it as I see it)
Good Luck - Here's to future Big O's
2006-12-03 01:29:48 · answer #4 · answered by cat lady 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The best thing I can think of is for you to stop focusing on getting to the orgasm. Just relax and enjoy the sex. Sex can be enjoyable without ending with an orgasm. Try to relax, focus on being with your guy and stop worrying.
You'll be fine.
2006-12-03 01:27:31 · answer #5 · answered by heathboy27 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its either the med or the stress.... remind yourself that you are only making it worse by worrying about it. i am sure he understands and maybe right now you need not focus on it. help yourself deal with other important things in your life until they are out of the way, then you can focus on getting your sex life back.
2006-12-03 01:28:17 · answer #6 · answered by Btieti 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk with your gyno.
2006-12-03 01:32:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
quit worrying and let it come.
2006-12-03 02:29:57 · answer #8 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps one of these:
http://www.benwa.com/clitor_critters.htm
2006-12-03 01:27:07 · answer #9 · answered by Joe Rockhead 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk with your gynae
2006-12-03 01:53:53 · answer #10 · answered by jasmine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋