i feel that my friend is attracted to me...whenever we go out she holds my hand and she's very touchy with me..when i sleep over by her she always wants to sleep next to me and she told me several times people will think of us as lesbians...
2006-12-03 01:18:53 · 11 answers · asked by breeze 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I want to know if that's normal between female friends or is she a lesbian....I had several friends before and nobody treated me in that way.. we never touched, hugged, kissed eachother so that's kinda awkward to me
2006-12-03 01:27:32 · update #1
you had better not assume things. there are many affectionate people out there. for example, is this behaviour out of the ordinary for her? the best thing to do would be to ask her.
2006-12-03 01:27:01 · answer #1 · answered by flying peanuts 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So what's the question? What do you want to know? I had this happen to me when I was in High School...many many many years ago. There was one occasion - Difference was she was Known around school as a lesbian to everyone but me...shoot me an email and we can discuss it further if you'd like. Just click on the hyperlink by the email symbol on my profile or just elaborate more on your question. I will put this question on my watch-list and come back
Re: your additional comment about wanting to know if that's normal between female friends or is she a lesbian...I agree with the other post "you had better not assume things. there are many affectionate people out there. for example, is this behavior out of the ordinary for her? " Is she only this way with you because she feels comfortable enough with you? Another occasion - I had a friend in High School, always flirting with the boys, really beautiful young woman, but she was very touchy with me...come to find out she was curious. Needless to say, we had some very LONG talks...You MUST tell her if it is making you feel awkward!
2006-12-03 09:24:35 · answer #2 · answered by Nuttie Nettie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time she mentions you look like lesbians, tell her that you don't swing that way, simple as that. If she continues to make you feel uncomfortable, tell her. If she's a real friend, she'll respect you and back off a bit.
2006-12-03 09:21:16 · answer #3 · answered by Mac181 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might just be overly friendly. If her actions are worrying you, tell her! I've had female friends where we've stayed at each others homes and shared beds - but never cuddled up together. I have a friend who is gay and another who's bi. They both know I'm straight and therefore have never tried to convert me (unless of course, they aren't attracted to me). You must tell her - if she thinks her behaviour is acceptable to you, it might encourage her to go further.
2006-12-03 09:40:00 · answer #4 · answered by Agony Aunt 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's time to have a talk with her. In some cultures touching is a lot more common, but she is probably crossing the friend line.
2006-12-04 02:57:31 · answer #5 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Imagine it were a guy, would that be ok? You need to chat with her and if you are not experiencing the same feelings, you need to tell her it makes you uncomfortable. That as a friend, you find her to be great, but nothing more. It should end. She sounds sweet.
2006-12-03 09:21:35 · answer #6 · answered by donewiththismess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. Sounds pretty obvious to me. So what is the problem? You either dig it or you don't. If you do, respond for goodness sake. If you don't, be kind and treat her like the good friend she is.
2006-12-03 09:22:28 · answer #7 · answered by Isis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's very fond of you, however, it doesn't prove she wants to have sex with you. Some people are just more affectionate than others.
2006-12-03 09:21:24 · answer #8 · answered by mstrywmn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is not lesbain then she wants to portray the two of you as lesbian lovers.
2006-12-03 09:21:23 · answer #9 · answered by Shawna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's trying to convert you.
2006-12-03 09:21:38 · answer #10 · answered by soulguy85 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋