how will you know if you're friend is a gay without asking him?

Answer 1

you can't, ask them.

Answer 2

I had a friend that would constantly tell me that she was NOT gay, just because she was afraid of loosing me as a friend, so even asking sometimes does not always give you what you are looking for. Perhaps ask yourself, why would it matter anyway? A friend is a friend and TRUE friends are hard to come by.

Answer 3

You cannot know the color of somebodies eyes if you don't look in them.
That goes too for your friend being gay or not:just ask him,if he is dating any one .
And Bob is your uncle.
I mean:if he wants to answer that question at all.
Why do you want to know btw?
Have the hots for him?
Or are you dismissing him as your friend if he happens to be gay?
He will still be the same person you know.
Greetings:Rob.xxxxx

Answer 4

If you have been gay for a while, consult your gaydar. If you are straight, you'll have no clue, you'll just have to ask him or you'll be assuming something that may be totally wrong.

Answer 5

it's true that in most cases you can't tell. it's not true that touching a lot means gay. that has more to do with culture and relaxedness than sexuality. unless you want to be lovers, or unless someone you know wants to be lovers with your friend, why would you even care? if you are interested romantically, regardless of whether the relationship would be hetero or homo, do more looking and listening and intuiting than thinking or theorizing or categorizing, and you will perceive how your friend feels toward you. and let your own feelings show spontaneously and naturally without trying to send contrived or stereotypical messages. if you're not interested romantically, just act friendly and ignore anything but friendliness from your friend, regardless of whether they’re male or female or hetero or homo. if you would like a hetero relationship with someone but think they might be gay, it's the same as if they're hetero but want to be just friends with you. who cares whether anyone is gay? what difference does it make? if you want love, act loving and observe whether you get loving or friendly behavior back. if you want friendship, act friendly and ignore anything but friendliness. regardless of whether it would be hetero or homo, you don’t have to tell anyone that you want friendship only, unless they actually ask you or make a pass. 99% of the time they perceive what you want and respect it without being told or ridiculed or ostracized or intimidated. they probably just want to be friends, too. just because someone is hetero doesn‘t mean they want to have sex with everyone they see of the opposite sex. just because someone is homo doesn’t mean they want to have sex with everyone they see of the same sex. most of the time, they just want to be friends. if you aren’t afraid of being seen acting friendly toward a homo, if you aren’t afraid that others will think you might be homo too, and that they might be afraid to be friendly to you too, then just ignore your friends’ sexuality and treat them the same as anyone else, and share all the same things you share with your other nonsexual friends.

why think of someone as “a gay,” noun? why not just as “gay,” adjective? most individuals don’t think of their sexuality as who they are. it’s not their identity. it’s just one of their aspects, like being black or white or right-handed or left-handed. i personally identify as an artist who happens to be latino, right-handed, and gay.

p.s. your = belonging to you. you’re = you are.

© 2006 rustle

Answer 6

if you can't ask him, then ask THEM (his friends, relatives, co-workers, schoolmates, neighbors, etc.). or if you're too afraid to ask, then spy on him. or if youre too lazy to do that, simply do nothing. anyway, you may discover it during his unguarded moments. but you should have clues in mind that would bolster your suspicion. i wont enumerate them anymore since, i presume, that you already know them.

Answer 7

If he (or she) is always eyeing or talking sexually about other boys (or girls), you have a hint. But it still wouldn't be definitive proof. Either he needs to tell you or you need to catch him in the act. And I dont recommend the latter. No other way to tell.

Answer 8

I would know by the way they talk on issues regarding same sex marriage homosexuality etc

Answer 9

he wants to buy a will&grace dvd or offer you a bj

Answer 10

Be subtle. Say something like, "if we went camping, and when you woke up you had pain in your rear end and it was covered with KY Jelly, would you be mad?" If he says, "No," he's gay.