My boyfriend and I broke up yesterday after 3 years together. It was a clean break, we talked and both agreed it was time to move on for various reasons. Is it normal to feel a huge void in my life this morning? I feel a part of me is missing. He was my first love.
2006-12-03 00:54:28 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is a kind of loss of a loved one.
You realize that you must get on with your life. Give yourself a good cry to get it out of your system, then start again. You will find another
2006-12-03 00:59:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Darlin Girl my heart breaks for you. What a time to break-up! Statistics show that "this is the Peak season for break-ups" you know why, you just can't go through the "motions" any more! The only Cure now for you is Time... and it will take some time, unless you are very lucky and someone new comes along that fills the void. But don't go for anyone, OK? Fill the empty moments with "outside" activity, no matter the weather, A good brisk Walk, can do it every time. Look at Life, Stop and Smell the Roses, Fill your Life with Beauty and Good Sounds. Music,Nice Family. Go ON.. your a Woman, you have Strengths you haven't even "tapped" yet. I know, millions of Women, around the world, survive what just happen to you. And Remember, the Less you Talk about it, the Faster it is to get over it. This lst will be with you till the day you die, darlin, I know, I am on my way there and I have Never Forgotten my Very First! Not his name,his smell,his hair,and where he would be today, everything - it happens to us ALL. Good Luck, and a very Merry Christmas...
2006-12-03 01:03:03 · answer #2 · answered by peaches 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've gone through a similiar situation except mine was 2 and a half years. We broke up in August and it is now December. He'll always be a part of your life no question and it will take time to get over him but you will. It's not the end of the world. Their are plenty of fishes in the sea as my grandpa always said. There's a guy out there for you whose just for you. Just concentrate on yourself right now and do what you want to do. Don't think about the past. Sure special days like the holidays or anniversary stuff will get to you, and you may even try to contact him but don't expect him to just come running back. Life isn't a movie as I have found out. Only true love could bring my ex back to me and thats not happening because she's already seeing someone else. That just tells me, she really was meant for me and she really didn't love me. If you love someone enough you will compromise and stay strong in one another. If you're not willingly to do that, then you just simply like somebody period. Never say I love you to another guy until you get an engagement ring. That's my philosophy from here on. Good luck to you in your healing, and just a side note God always helps too.
2006-12-03 01:03:49 · answer #3 · answered by Glen B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes of course its normal to feel a huge void. Three yrs together is a long time together and him being your first love makes it worse. Being that you both broke up on mutual terms and not because of something bad that hes done to you,,,should make it alittle easier though. Staying friends with him, and hoping the best for him should make you feel good. You will never forget eachother being first loves. Time will heal you and you will be just fine.
2006-12-03 01:00:45 · answer #4 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are going to feel a huge void in you life for a while and belive me he will also.I just broke up with my boyfriend(one month ago) after 2 yrs and we also had a clean break and I still miss him very dearly.turns out that we want diffrent things in life and I was deeply hurt and angry.but I'm taking it one day at a time.we have not talk to each other since the break up,and I still think about him,miss him,and wonder if he thinks about me dose he miss me as much as I miss him?A part of me is still missing but life moves on,and the hurt will go away soon.
2006-12-03 01:15:14 · answer #5 · answered by gigi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, you poor baby. Let me give you a hug. This always hurts. I am sorry. But, you did it the right way. And it was the only thing to do. So yes, you will feel a void, an empty place inside, and you will cry. But this is how you start to heal. And in time you will start to feel lighter, more open and free. You will smile again and soon some new man will walk by and........
2006-12-03 00:58:41 · answer #6 · answered by Isis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes for sure....You just changed your life....you will feel a void for a while, however it will get better. You should feel lucky to have had that relationship with your boyfriend....and you able to come out of it with out too much grief by the sound of it.....
Look at this as a learning experience and move on.....it will take some time...you can do it...
Good Luck to you....
2006-12-03 01:00:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to feel this way even if you agreed that parting was for the best.
It doesn't mean you made a mistake. You have experienced a loss, and you are going to go through a grieving process. Give yourself time. Pamper yourself, go out with friends. Be proud of yourself for being able to walk away from something that wasn't working anymore.
Good luck to you.
2006-12-03 00:59:55 · answer #8 · answered by Firespider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, what you're feeling is NORMAL! Busy yourself today, and try not to think about it. In a few days, it will hurt less. Get out of the house if possible today, and go visit friends. Good Luck!
2006-12-03 01:15:18 · answer #9 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep doing the life things. Take a shower, eat, work, go to bed. Eventually you'll feel better than things will fall into place. Really there is no alternative.
2006-12-03 00:56:58 · answer #10 · answered by tabby90 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋