i am a girl and is studying in a girls' secondary school. i saw this new girl and didn't take notice of her at first. but the next yr, i find myself loving her really much. she's not that attractive and i don't know what i love her for. but i just simply love her. people tease me, and say that i love her but i tell them i don't. what can i do? should i tell the girl that i love her? am i becoming a lesbian?
2006-12-03 00:45:44 · 10 answers · asked by newcomer14 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You say that you love her and that's beautiful. But what do you mean by it? I love my mother and my daughter....this in no way means I am heterosexual.
I also love a couple of my male friends and do not want to have sexual relations with them.
In short, loving her doesn't mean you are a lesbian, but it doesn't mean you aren't. Are your feelings toward her romantic or sexual at all?
2006-12-03 01:33:48 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh to be young again!
First and foremost I think I should tell you I am a lesbian so my view might be tainted or bais.
Most women go through a time when they have sexual feelings towards another woman. Not all of them turn out gay. You wont know you till you are comfortable enough in your body to admit it to yourself.
I can understand not wanting to be gay, there was times when I was younger that I thought why can't I just be normal! I even went so far as to have a couple of really unsuccessful relationships with men! They best one was a bloke who turned out to be gay himself! But I could not continue doing that to myself and the men I was seeing. Now I have come out (all those many years before) I can grow and develop as a person and finally be have with my partner.
You will know when you are ready to! As for this girl, you can have friends that you love in a platonic (forgive spelling) way!
Hope this helps
2006-12-03 01:44:23 · answer #2 · answered by nevergrowup 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds like you're attracted to her. As long as it doesn't get you kicked out of school or home, let her know that you like her. Se if she's interested too. You could be bisexual or lesbian. Only time will tell. Just take it a day at a time and make the most out of life.
2006-12-03 19:07:43 · answer #3 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something that take time! The felling that you are having at this is Ok! but you are just in secondary school. Things could change in another year or two! No you are not becoming a lesbian.
2006-12-03 01:00:32 · answer #4 · answered by fatulovered 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This may just be a phase, a lot of girls I know go through a phase like this. Don't get scared of it too much. Your sexuality should not be something that you dictate on yourself. Befriend her and see how it goes. Just be mellow and friendly. And when it really gets to intense and you feel like your heart if going to burst (extreme attraction plus raging hormones can actually feel like this) tell her. Tell her how you feel and leave the response to her.
If you are gay, you are going to reach a point in your life where you are absolutely sure that you are gay. If this is your first girl crush don't worry about your sexuality too much. Just celebrate love and embrace it.
2006-12-03 01:01:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask the girl to hang out. And get to know each other. And I am sure you girls will get closer then you could tell her that you love her.
2006-12-03 00:59:44 · answer #6 · answered by babygirl11 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being a lesbian is okay. Talk to her and hang out and get to know her see where it leads.
2006-12-03 03:31:58 · answer #7 · answered by Gail 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i doubt that you are becoming a lesbian--i'm fairly certain that is not exactly how it happens! i am a female-and have had several friends throughout my life that i loved-but not physically-and not in the same way that i love my husband-but-i cared deeply for them and would be beside them whenever they needed me to! i cared for them deeply but not physically-very unsure if i am making sense here-but-good luck!!!!
2006-12-03 00:59:59 · answer #8 · answered by laurie r 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do not fear terms. Do what you think best, and remember that we all suffer confusion sometimes, and guilt at times, but if you do what you believe best for you, it will turn out all right, ultimately. Fear not and believe in yourself.
2006-12-03 03:56:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait another year and see how you feel.
2006-12-03 00:50:53 · answer #10 · answered by D.A. S 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋