My brother in law who is a white skinned moroccan, calls my sisters (who is African American and Caucasian) side of the family ni**ers. I know that sounds strong but thats what he been saying. They have been married for two years now. How can I get her to realize that this is completly unnaceptable?
2006-12-03 00:40:58 · 17 answers · asked by MIKE s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Beat the hell out of him and tell him to shut up
2006-12-03 00:43:41 · answer #1 · answered by Rocky 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Does this fellow NOT know that that is a very offensive term? And that he is slamming his wife as he says it? That is very hateful. Ask her if she thinks he would enjoy his family being called "honkies" "white trash" or any other derogatory slang you would call a Moroccan. This is a difficult situation. It needs to be presented non-emotionally. If she feels she has to pick sides, she will probably pick her husband and stop attending family functions. I was in that postion. My family detested my husband (now ex) and told me I was welcome to join in, but my husband was not. Well, rotten as he was (and still is) I couldn't very well do that and not expect to get a tongue lashing or beating when I got home. Sounds like your sister's self esteem could use some bolstering. Let her know you're there for her 24/7 if she needs to talk or a place to go. I pray the bigot husband see the error of his ways and stop, or your sister sees the light and divorces this creep.
2006-12-03 09:01:34 · answer #2 · answered by girlfriend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh man.....that's just wrong. The First thing you need to do is contact the NAACP , or maybe Jessie Jackson's Rainbow Coalition. While your waiting for that to work, you maybe could wonder why you care what a "white skinned Moroccan" has to say? is your sisters side of the family "Ni**Er's"????
What I'm saying is that if your sister is married to this guy who are you to say what is completely unacceptable?
If this is such a big issue to you. You need to think of how to handle this. Take the high road talk to him one on one. Explain to him the he shouldn't disrespect his wife like that.
Or call him out in front of the whole family, and beat his fu_king a_s.
Just remember that hate breeds hate.
Out of this i wonder what is your sisters take on this? Think about it, she married the guy. Maybe thats just how it is and she OK with it
2006-12-03 09:55:29 · answer #3 · answered by maxxspeedist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is living with a guy from another culture. He has called her siblings the n-word in the most hateful way. We have cautioned her to leave him for her own safety. She didn't listen. Now he has moved her away, she is not allowed to tell us where and can only call us when he is not home. She is his meal ticket, so that is not too often. Let her know how you feel right away while you can. It is very wrong. Try to discourage it now before it gets worse.
2006-12-03 10:04:56 · answer #4 · answered by Deborah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and your sister in regards to this...let him know that not only do you find this completely offensive, but it is also disrespectful to her. If he has any respect for her or her family then he will stop it immediately. If you like him as a person & if he treats her decently and using "that" word is the only thing you don't like about him, tell him that. It's always good to have balance when calling something negative to their attention.
I do have to side with you, though...it is rude, vulgar and uncalled for. I would find it completely offensive as well if I heard this.
2006-12-03 08:59:33 · answer #5 · answered by auntcookie84 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The gays really had good success taking back the words that hurt them, now the sting is gone except for the intent.
Richard Pryer took back the N-word and for a while it lost its power. But now it seems it is more powerful than ever. We all risk getting our accounts banned even being in a conversation about it. Cross your fingers bro.
2006-12-03 09:01:18 · answer #6 · answered by tenbadthings 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot change peoples reactions only your reaction to them.
As in EA games challenege everything. If you belive this to be unaccepatble and your partner does not seem to. challenge your brother in law about his use of language and explain how you find this offensive. You can have an influnenc if you remain unmoved by this maybye he'll stop and understand how opressive he is being he will stop the more you challenge.
2006-12-03 08:54:11 · answer #7 · answered by barbarella 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your sister to speak with him if you haven't already. After that, it's all on. Politely say, immediately after the next time he says it, "Do you realize that word is really offensive? You're a nice guy but when I hear you say that, it makes my skin crawl." See what happens then. And if he continues, punch him in the head.
2006-12-03 08:44:29 · answer #8 · answered by shannonscorpio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is not the problem.
Your brother in law is the problem. Your family needs to address this with him as a whole unit.
The next time he is with all of you, the entire family needs to talk to him as a united front. He will either change the behavior or leave because it will be clear he is not welcome there if he refuses to change his communication with and toward you all.
2006-12-03 08:59:30 · answer #9 · answered by yeller 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have conversation with family members. Agree that whenever that word comes out of his mouth, everyone will correct him. So he says it, and the family goes, " African American." every time.
2006-12-03 08:53:28 · answer #10 · answered by Puresnow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is how he addresses his wife. Well, that is really endearing and loving. What the heck is his problem. I would simply tell him when he does it how rude, insensitive, ignorant, ill-mannered, and stupid he sounds. Perhaps, you should educate him on the use of the word, the history, etc. This is pitiful. Good luck and God bless****
2006-12-03 08:49:51 · answer #11 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋