3 days a go I bout this car from this guy. ... the day I supposed to get the car title. he was late so I have to cal his office. all of the Sedan his assistants answer. .... I asked him if the manager there he said hes on the way. .. I notice his voice was familiar to me. I asked him. I think I heard ur voice a before his said yes. me too. then in moment I realize That I was talking to my first fiance who dispersed 3 years ago. for no reason.I was like.. is that u. he said oh my god. salma.. where are u now. I said I am in this city . he was oh I am coming now. I was Like WHY... he said because I miss u. I said its over a long time a go. and .......I was like why did u go. he said I don't know. I asked him why did u leave me. when I needed u... u know I was so Young. that time I didn't know what I was doing u should have know batter them . if u loved me... u wouldn't go anywhere. u will be still here. he stop talking then he asked me for my family I was like WHY... he said I want to a
2006-12-03 00:27:25 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he said I want to apology's to them. told him there are fine .he asked for my my #. I told him I can give u my home phone so if u want to talk to my parents........ then he was like I miss u can I see u now. I said .. no Iam busy I ll talk to u letter.... that's it... he calls yesterday my parents talk to him and they invited him to my house.... I don't answer his phone calls..... because I have nothing to tell him....... I m seeing someone now and there is no way Iam ganna take him back ..... its over 3 years ago... I told him it never will be the same.... never..... do u guys think I did the right think... I still have I good felling about him. I don't hate him I don't love him ether.... and Iam not willing to take him back... no-matter what... because I believe if he loved me he will be here for me in til now......
in 3 years so many things could happend.. people change. I change..
by the way when we ge engage.. I was 18 and he was 21......
2006-12-03 00:29:13 · update #1
I have BF now that I love...
2006-12-03 00:38:30 · update #2
I think u did the right think.. dont take him back if u dont love him anymore
2006-12-03 00:38:16 · answer #1 · answered by I_belong_to_me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very interesting question. I can tell that your heart is torn between both of these people that you obviously have strong feelings for. I have tried to be in a relationship with two people at once in the past (I had a fiance living up north and had a relationship with someone else in the south where i went to college). I found, however, that after a while (after the initial infatuation phase) with the new individual it will become clear which person you desire the most. Whoever starts giving you the "tummy tickles" (be it the ex or the new person) is the one you need to go after. In my opinion it is perfectly cool to love both of them at the same time (believe me there are FAR worse crimes than tossing out a little extra love) until it becomes apparent which one captures your heart. If you play the "game" the way society (and your current love) expects you to by breaking up with one person before going after another you very well might find yourself a lonely and unhappy old man. I've become emotionally callous to so called "cheating" a long time ago and have a clear understanding now that you need to basically go by the rule that "everything is fair in love and war" and find your true love. If I had not acted as stated above, I would not be happily married with a new baby (a miracle in my eyes) now. I hope you trust I am a good person because I speak from my heart. It is time for you my friend to listen to your heart right now. Do whatever you need to do to give both people a chance at capturing your heart. It is a noble cause and worth any guilt you may encounter during the process. Your heart and your soul will thank you for the sacrifice. True happiness awaits, but like all good things it comes with a price. Pay it in full and the guiding light of love will lead your heart to it's rightful owner.
2006-12-03 09:07:34 · answer #2 · answered by Bumbo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I personally think you should learn from what he did in the past and just be friends but not in another relationship with him. You said he left you in a time of need. Actions speak louder than words my dear and you should take his past actions to heart. Sure he was excited to hear from you, he's probably between g/f right now & is lonely. Be careful, this guy walked right out of your life with no explanation and he could possibly do it again. You've been down that road, don't waste your time doing it again. You deserve to be treated better.
2006-12-03 10:52:02 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love could fade if it is not taken care by the one who we then loved..In your case you have no hate but you have also no love for him,thats because he leaves you without saying why..You somehow hanged in the middle, not knowing if you will hate him or just forgetting the things he did to you.Right now youre having your new life, new love because of him,because he leaves you.Then I believe if he choses to leave you because of some unreasonable thing - he said he's just young that time - then he is not worthy for your love.Love never think of age and capacity, you just love because you love that person and thats all that matters.He just proved that he can never fight for you.Just tell him that past cannot bring back once more,he chose his path then so be it, he have no right to enter your life again, after all he didnt think your feelings when he walked away out in your life.Talk to him straight, dont be afraid to talk to him this is your chance to ask everything that you wanted to ask from him in last 3 years, grab the opportunity so you could leave that past peacefully.I envy you for that because somehow in my life theres a part where I didnt have the opportunity to talk to the person face to face who breaks my heart last 3 years ago...Right now im having a new love but still somehow the past is not cleared to me, if I could only talk to that person then maybe I could understand it now and leave it without having questions in my mind.Hope I helped you thats all.
2006-12-03 09:09:33 · answer #4 · answered by missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just forgive him for what he did in the past. It's his fault for missing out on you. Just let him know you moved on and it will never work out if he wants you back because theirs some one Else in your life. But at leased you know what hes all about. If you were to take him back he might just do the same thing he did before.
2006-12-03 08:59:39 · answer #5 · answered by Casper77mc 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why should you take him back after the callus way he up and left you. Forget him. If your parents want to be friends, they can be friends with whomever they like, just tell them that you do not want anything to do with this guy after what he did. Stick with your new love. Don't look back.
2006-12-03 08:40:43 · answer #6 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋