Can you still have a happy marriage after many years?

Question

Do you have a happy mariage? Is it even possible because I start having some doubts.

Answer 1

first, ask yourself what your doubts are. what has happened in the past? happy marriages are not without problems... it's complex issues... maybe, you want to elaborate what your doubts are?

Answer 2

Yes, but you have to close your eyes....Remember what drew you to your woman when you first took up with her. Remember how you tried to stay in her favor.

Time and Life and The Kids can really take a toll.

See if you and she can't catch up on some rest. Do an all weekend pajama party, kids, too if you've got them. Watch TV, rest, eat when you want, hell, order in....and go back to bed. Exhaustion forces people into survival mode, and it's hard to see your partner when all you want to do is sleep. A lot of partners interpret this as neglect. Sometimes, you're just tired.

Eat nutritious meals, and ask your doctor if a multi vitamin would be ok to start.

Both of you go for a walk around the block. Let the conversation be about nothing. Remember when you guys Didn't talk about money, and the house repairs, car repairs, insurance, and stuff.
This is quiet time for you to just observe the woman. How she's dressed, her hair, how she walks....what did you admire about her in the beginning? What do you admire about her now? Tell her this. "Hon, you know what I admire about you, always have......? .....How your hair absorbs the sunlight......I always thought that was pretty...."

When was the last time you guys admired each other?

Ask her every day if there is anything you can do for her. Indicate that somewhere in your day you thought of her. She picks up the habit. It is nice.

If there is fidelity and trust and respect between you then you guys have got it made. Take another look at who your woman is, and has become.....a partner, a best friend, a support through all the Stuff.

Then go buy the wine and candles.

Answer 3

Life is hard these days for a couple to remain happy after years of marriage but it is possible. Sometimes you just get into a rut and can't get out of it. I stayed for 17 years before I finally gave up but now I am very happy but still single. Before you make any decision you must try to make your marriage work. After all you did give your vows to each other with good intentions. Maybe marriage counseling could help. Good Luck to you.

wow, I just read some of the other answers above and 17 years seems to be the magic number so don't give up just yet

Answer 4

Of course. But the thing to remember is that marriage is difficult and a lot of hard work. Are you the same person you were 10 years ago? As when you were a teenager? No. You both change, which makes being together difficult. But you need to work through it. Talk as much as possible. Fight knowing that you're working on a conflict, not on changing the other person. And never take the other person for granted. Tell them why you love them every day. Hug and kiss each other every day. And never go to bed angry. Good luck...I hope it works out for you!

Answer 5

ABSOLUTELY! My other half and I have been together since we were 18. Now 43, married 17 years, three wonderful kids. Sex is better, we are so comfortable with each other - talking about everything. There are always hurdles. Two individual people with their own thoughts and likes - that is what you don't change, you respect the difference. e.g. he likes fishing, great, he can go and I will help make sure he has everything packed. I would prefer the movies or a girl's night out - we are both happy. Summary - respect each others individuality, communicate with each other no matter what, explore great sex together and never let money rule your life. All the very best.

Answer 6

Of course it is possible! We have been happily married over 17 years. There have been extremely tough times - financially, health issues, etc. - but we have worked hard to keep our relationship wonderful. That is what many people need to do, realize that a marriage is work - happy and great, but work nonetheless.

Answer 7

My wife and I have been happily married for 28 years, and it's based on 4 principles that don't need explaining - Honesty, trust, 50/50 and work (at the marriage). I am now 68, my wife is 57 and we still have hilarious moments trying to get our clothes off fast enough!!

Answer 8

Yes you can, Marriage is what you make it,Theres alot of ups and downs and wondering on some days if your marriage will make it..All marriages go thru a rocky stage,But its up to you and your spouse on what to do about it..I am not a quitter for one, so i always look for ways to make it better or to spice it up..Personally our marriage has never been better..We actually at one point were separted, Wake-up call for us both..We have been married 17 years,Right now as i said its at its best its ever been..

Answer 9

There's 3 parts to any relationship between lovers. Communication, Friendship, and Sex. At teh beginning, there's not much Friendship, some communication or none, not much much, after the initial part, there's alot of sex, communication, but the frienship is still lacking... as the relationship continues on and on, the friendship part overtakes the sex part and the communication part. If you can accept this, then you'll be happy. If you can't, then you need a new relationship.

Answer 10

We have been together for 12 years and its been rough at times and we have had some close calls. You just need to keep your marriage exciting we are both reinventing ourselves now. We are both exploring each over sexuality too. We are trying new things and keeping each other aroused physically and mentally

Answer 11

it is probably possible, but mine did not work. after 17 years we just separated. my husband was verbally and physically abusive and he did not want to work on it. he was very selfish. the key is to keep communicating and we did not. good luck and hope you can stay happy.