Been together 8 yrs now and feel quite fed up.... However, how can I be sure that leaving is the right thing to do or am I just fed up and it will all be ok again eventually?
2006-12-02 23:42:32 · 19 answers · asked by Stephanie C 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
all long term marry couples tell me that in every marrigae you go through a point were you fall out of love. the trick is to stay together until you fall back in love. if there is no abuse them it is your vow to stay with him. being fed up is not a good reason to divorce.
2006-12-02 23:47:51 · answer #1 · answered by autumnbrookblue 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
When U Know It's Time 2 Move On From a Relationship!
After ending a tough and straining marriage & realizing that you can't lose what you never had ..... I thought I would share some signs of when to end your relationship(s). Hope You Like Them....(Can You Guess Which Ones I Didn't Make UP?)
These are a few Signs of when you know to End a Relationship!
1.) When you rather (Men) Be Playing Video Games or (Women) Be Eating a BIG BOWL of your favorite Ice Cream than Having Sex with your Spouse or Mate!
2.) When you Seek Voluntary Services to do rather than come home to your Spouse or Mate.
3.) When you always prefer "Doggy-Style" in order not to see the face of your Spouse or Mate.
4.) When someone's name you are attracted to becomes known as "FRIEND" when stated in front of your Spouse or Mate.
5.) When you stop reminiscing of the "Night Before" , while away at Work or while driving on the way Home!
6.) When your Spouse's or Mate's Underwear/ Panties starts to look like Para-Chutes or Glad -Lock Trash Bags! Image
7.) When your Spouse or Mate Tells you "I see Darkness!"
8.) When your Spouse or Mate Tells you " I've been thinking alot lateley...."
9.) When your Spouse or Mate starts singing " I'm 2 Sexy for a Shirt" while showering!
10.) When your Spouse or Mate EITHER/ OR Drinks all the DAYUM Kool-Aid without making some more or They Eat ALL your Lucky Charms/ Frosted Flakes/ Capn' Crunch or Fruit Loops!
Holla'!
2006-12-03 09:12:11 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life changes when you go for a Divorce. You have to sell your house. The transfer of the house into a single name can only be with the banks agreement. Your income intake will change dramatically. Children? Until the age of 18 you will need to ensure you can communicate with your former partner, also you can not move away from your former partner without the permission of the Court. The kids become angry and confused about where they fit into the family. Can you not talk to each other? There are community services out there - mediation with Centacare or Life Line. Why are you fed up? Do you work? No, what about a partime job. Yes, and he doesn't help around the house? Let him do all the house work for one day. Bored cause you don't go out? Look on the internet, there are parks for picnics etc. Best of Luck on a very major decision.
2006-12-03 07:55:37 · answer #3 · answered by fritzy64 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK now what I am about to say is not necessarily what you should do but here was my situation. I was very happy in my marriage for the first ten years. After that I was so afraid to leave that I made alot of mistakes for the next six years (still married). I didn't think I could make it on my own. Once I made the decision to leave and filed for divorce it seemed everything was so much better for me. You may want to get counseling first - with your spouse and also just for you. I wish you the very best on your decision. Just remember - if you feel this way now it more than likely will not get better. If you have kids you must consider them first and foremost. Again Good Luck with this.
2006-12-03 08:27:45 · answer #4 · answered by Maggie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're feeling fed up after 8 years? If that's all the better it is now, why do you think it would be better if you do more time? You don't mention any reason for your feelings, but I'm thinking that since you're feeling the way you do and it bothers you enough to put your question out on the Internet to complete strangers, you're done!
2006-12-03 07:47:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you guys have been together for 8 yrs and you're "fed up", then it's time to take a break! If you guys break up and you both have not regret for doing so then move on.
2006-12-03 07:44:57 · answer #6 · answered by tonja20770 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it's time to move on when you BOTH have exhausted all means of reconciliation... no one should stay in a relationship that's unhealthy.. mentally, physically, or psychologically damaging. But doing nothing, solves nothing. communicate your feelings - talk it over. maybe your partner feels the same way... you are not the only one in the relationship.. if you can't resolve this together, seek help.
2006-12-03 07:45:52 · answer #7 · answered by tampico 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Now if u ready to leave u would not have any doubt in your mind and u jus know that u're doing the right thing....you know that funny feeling that u gets some times and also u will feel confident about it.....
2006-12-03 07:49:35 · answer #8 · answered by tutsie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If after 8 years it is not good then chances are slim it will. Probably better to move on and start having some fun. Sex is good with other people and it would be nice to start doing that. If you prolong it you just get older and more unhappy. Thats not good.
2006-12-03 07:45:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well if you think that you will REGRET after you`ve left him, then you are not giving enough time in your relationship. If you are giving time and then it`s not working out then it`s better to LEAVE HIM !
Pleasure to HELP !
Salik
2006-12-03 07:45:54 · answer #10 · answered by Salik K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋