My wife attitude has changed.?

Question

The last couple months, her attitude has changed. Always demanding, angry and complaining. She tells me that she doesn't care about me and doesn't love me like that way she used to?? She doesnt clean after herself, her clothing scattered on the bed even, the restroom is not clean. I feel like, Im the one who's holding this relationship together, just dont like the way she treats me. All she does, talk on the phone with her gf's and go online...God knows what she's up to. I start to think, Do I really deserve this girl? I really want someone new. She doesn't appreciate me, I really love her and do whatever she wants. Im just tired of her drama but dunno how to leave her. Any ideas how to leave her and/ or end this relationship?? If so, where do I start from..

Answer 1

Maybe she is depressed.

Answer 2

Well if you tried talking to her about it before, do it again. And if nothing changes, you gotta do what you gotta. I guess it all depends on you and what you'll put up with. If your not happy and feel you deserve better, then you'll have to move on. It's pretty obvious that your wife isn't happy either and she may feel the same way you do. So, you can try talking to her (again) and if that doesn't work, you can make arrangements to go to friends or family 'til you get another place. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, so by you leaving and that time and space may make her realize some things. She may change. But you'll never know unless you make that move. Sorry to hear that - you are not alone - alot of people go through that. Some stick around - others don't. It's all on you and what you want; how you feel and want to feel. It has nothing to do with love - but if two people aren't happy -- then there is definately a problem. And problems don't go away by itself. Good luck to you.

Answer 3

you have probably heard this a million times but here it goes again. sit down and talk to your wife. tell her you don't mind her talking with her friends or on the computor . but that your tired of coming home to a messy home. and a person whos not cleaning up after herself try going to a marriage counsler. and tell her if things don't change. that you can no longer stay there. and leave. hopefully she'll miss you long enough to get her act togehter if not then divorce you had tried everything that you can. its not your fault I'm pretty sure there is alot of other women out there that would love to have you. good luck. I know its hard to leave someone that you love. but it takes two to make a marriage work and it just seems to me the only one that is trying is you.

Answer 4

U start by realising that ur wife is a ***** and she doesn't love u at all..... she is treatin u like dirt and has prob met someone online and is bein like this in the hopes u will leave.... then u need to get urself a divorce lawyer and get ur *** out of the marraige... it isn't a matter of u deservin her it is a matter of she doesn't deserve to have u in her life.... so if u have friends or family u can stay with then do it.. then get ur lawyer and don't give her an inch wen it comes to splittin anythin m8 she doen't deserve the consideration... u can only try so much but then u have to realise it isn't goin to work... i know it will hurt no matter wat she has done but u deserve better and it does get easier as time goes on....

Answer 5

Have you tried sitting down and talking to your wife. Trying to find out the problem. Maybe go see a marriage counsellor. Its sounds really bad that you are willing to throw away your marriage and ignore your vows after a couple of bad months.

It sounds like your wife is going through something and I think she needs to talk to someone. I don't know how old your wife is but if she is an older lady maybe she is going through the change!! Otherwise its something else and you need to get to the root of it before you just walk away from her!!

Babe, if you love your wife, you will do whatever it takes to keep it together!!

Answer 6

Just talk to her. You won't find a more mature way to deal with relationship problemz than to just sit and talk. You really need & deserve to know "why" she changed & "what" caused it BEFORE you can give urself the green lite & get a divorce. From what u said, I got a feelin' ur a younge person whom recently got married..If I'm right, keep in mind, marraige waz NEVER a bed of rozez, u'll go through upz n'downz with ur mate.. that'z normal.. coz life waz never perfect ...
Ask urself, do I "still" feel the same for my wife? Do I love her az much az I used to or did alot of thingz happen that are just making the relationship too hard to deal with. Another good idea iz to give urself a break from all the problemz, go somewhere with a friend, take a break from her & her mood swingz to think everything throughly with a clear & focused mind,, so it'z never the right thing to make seriouse decissionz while ur under alota' stress..If I were u, & my huzband did whatz ur wife iz doing, I'd probably just talk to him first, ask him whatz wrong, why iz our marraige heading the wrong direction & try to fix thingz up...But ur wife goez online alot n'stayz on the phone alot .. so I dunno.. maybe she really iz doin' something... If the sex life iz barely there, there must be somethin' goin' on.. but she'll alwayz be innocent till proven guilty,, so just talk to her,,, what if she'z goin' through a rough time? what if she realized marraige waz a seriouse deal that she needz time till she can cope with it .. U never know.. so look for a time when shez in a good mood & talk to ur wife ... I'm sure after this talk, U'll know the right thing to do.Plus, she said she doezn't love you.. so'I duno.. just talk to her 1st ,, n'ask her why she said that ..

Good Luck.

Answer 7

Are you newly-weds? have you tried talking to her first about the problem? because if you haven't, I think that should come first. her irritation could be due to hormones or something serious thats really bothering her for all you know. i suggested talking first because if you really feel in your heart that she doesn't love you and if you really want to end that relationship, then you shouldn't be wasting time asking the people here about this. You should be on your way out the door.

Answer 8

I personally don't believe in divorces so why not try to work it out by going to marriage counseling and if that doesn't work consider a divorce, but don't give up on marriage so easily, she might be going through a really tough time right now, but it could get better.

Answer 9

Start by talking to her... all relationships should have open communication. Tell her how you feel. People sometimes get so involved in themselves, they don't see the effect they have on those around them. Talking is the first step to opening her eyes (and heart) to your feelings.

Answer 10

well my friend, i was in a marriage like yours. i thought i had so much love for the both of us (wrong) he didn't care if i live or die, and i would have, because i love him just that much. but i mad it back to the real world. it took time, a lot of time. advise from out side rs didn't help only time. and you will look back and my god i wasted so much time on this person, when their is someone out there that needs someone like me- you can't get the waisted time back, like years but time heals fm someone who have been there> more if you want to hear"

Answer 11

sounds like you are really in love with your wife.but once you question yourself about the relationship there is two options ONE fight for it and make it better TWO it's time to move on.and belive me once you get tired of keeping it together and you decide it's time to move on that is when that person relize they had it good and sometimes it's too late for that person. Good luck on what ever you decide to do.