i feel so sad?

Question

i feel so sad, i just want to talk to someone, im ugly, fat and no matter what i do i cant lose wait, im dum,cant spell, my perants think im stupid, i have 5 brothers all of them are succesfull, but me, im 24 im a virgin, never had a girlfriend, im to nervous and shy t ever get 1, or even see a prostitute, i have a crap job, people think im stupid, i cant catch a train or bus because i have panic attacks, my hole life just sucks, if only i had something, like a person close to me, or maybe if i was smart, but i dont have anything, i cant talk to people because im not smart enough, i want to end my life, because i dont want to live like this anymore, people always say dont do it, but i cant live another 50 or 60 years like this, i just cant do it, not that long, im the won who has to do the time,,, it might sound like winging, but i only want to talk to someone, i jus want to have contact with someone.

Answer 1

are you male or female,??

Answer 2

When you are depressed you *know* that life is not worth living, even when you can remember times when you were not depressed when you thought the opposite. Depression takes the worst of everything, and prevents you from seeing the best.

All the things you mention can be changed, even the panic attacks. It just needs you to summon up the effort to make the changes in your life. No, you can't live another 50 years like this, so what you have to do is to change things.

You don't sound stupid from your posting; you can't spell, but it's only a matter of degree - most people are pretty bad at spelling.

Suicide is never an option. One of the reasons being that many people botch it, and end up in a worse position than they were before. Rather than thinking about ending your life you should be thinking about improving it.

One thing you *can* do is communicate your feelings in writing, so that is a skill you have. Try keeping a diary, and use it to see how things are changing for you.

Another thing you can do is try a virtual world like www.secondlife.com. In Second Life you can choose your own avatar, and people won't judge you on your appearance. You will be able to talk to people without the social pressures of real life. There is a bit of a steep learning curve; don't be put off by that, you will get it within a couple of weeks, and you might find that it adds another dimension to your life.

Best of luck, anyway, and I hope that you are able to make things start to improve for you.

Answer 3

DO NOT END IT ok? Your life sounds horrible, way more horrible then mine even if I lived my life how I do when Im depressed its worse. You can always talk to me ok? [e-mail]

It sounds easier than it is I know but you need to refresh your life.

You say your ugly, why are you ugly? get your hair done if you need to. Shave your face, try something new, ask people what you can do to look better.

You say your fat, Are you eating ANY sweets? I dont eat an ounce of sweets ever, I dont use flavor on what I eat (which isnt neccicarily the right thing to do). I dont use hto sauce on my eggs because I worry about the sodium. Im a health freak. Im on a strict bodybuilding diet and workout plan. You need to eliminate all sweets in your life if you want to lose weight and you need to be doing at least 30 minutes of cardio workout a day. Eat the smae amount of food but spread out over the day. If you dont eat often or enough your body will think it has to store more fat so if you dont get enough food it will eat the fat. Talk to me more on this subject later.

You say your dumb, you cant spell, and your parents think your stupid. If your 24 Im sure this doesnt sound appealing but maybe take some education courses. Emerge your self in daily life and learn from whatever happens. By some programs or videos to learn talents or launguages if you want.

You say your a virgin, Im 15 and Ive lost mine but I thin kit would have been better if I didnt. I went through a life refreshing time and I have the girl of my dreams now and I dont want to go very far with her so its not as bad as it sounds. I dont think you should even consider hookers. If you started changing yourself in all the things listed above your likely to be a lot less nervous. Girls may not be pooring over you but they ar emore likely to find osmehting in you, you cant just expect to get a girlfriend unless theres somehting liekable about you but theres nothing even you like about yourself.

Some natural anit-depressants are spicey food, sunlight, exercise, (I think techno music is), and love. Also smiling sends messages to your brain that make it happier but that can be harder to do if your unhappy. Keep these in mind and maybe next meal add some spice to it. I want you to talk to me more and I want you to change your life. Imagine yourself handsome, a healthy size, smart, happilly in a relationship that may be leading to a sexual relationship if thats what your after, confident, with a job you love and are proud of. Take this image, it is your goal. Obstacles are just those scary things that you see if you take your eyes off your goal. Good luck and email me!

Answer 4

Life will get better mate. Talk to people on here about loosing weight if you want advice. Don't worry about not having a girlfriend yet, loads of people are virgins at your age. I doubt whether you are that stupid either, spelling isn't all it's cracked up to be, especially with spell checkers on computers. Just keep on going and keep trying to make things better for yourself, sometimes it can take a long time but as long as you don't give up you'll make it better.

I don't know which country you are in but try a helpline like the Samaritans (if you are in the UK) they can offer help. Or try going to your local church, even if you are not a believer (I'm not for example) they are great centres for community and will welcome anyone who wants to spend time with them. There is probably a local charity who could do with some help near you. They are always looking for volunteers and that will give you a group of people to be with and feel useful for. It's also very satisfying to think you are helping others.

I wish you well and hope things turn a corner for you soon, all the best,

Taraman

Answer 5

Boy, you know what everyone feels like that sometimes, the only difference with you is that you have ACCEPTED all these wrong things about yourself. You know i'm not preaching, but the devil exsists and he's playing with ur mind, telling you LIES.
Just take 5 minutes and take an honest, non-judgemental look at
yourself, look for all the good things about yourself. Who created you? is it God, well if you believe so, then accept yourself for those goodthings about you. God has not only accepted you,he has also made you special and wonderful. Am not being just nice, in this world honey, you have to strive even with yourself to be what you are. Did your bros and sis's get where they are by just floating in self pity, I don't think so.
Look at yourself and FOR yourself when you find him love him and others will. I care, if you want to talk more like you say, then say so and i will give my email address.

Answer 6

Nooooo. There's nothing wrong with what you're doing but everything is wrong with how you perceive it. I am in this same hole myself, or I have been for the entire last year. I thought about suicide all day yesterday, just couldn't stand the thought of the pain continuing. I had a massive realization really late last night and I got it into my head that it's all about the way I see the situation. Thinking thoughts like all of yours above is called 'Catastrophizing', and 'All or nothing thinking' and it's all just fictional. You can change the thinking and eliminate almost all of the feelings described above. Check out Cognitive Behavioural Therapy if you want to, but if not, just know that it's not about how you are or what you do, it's how you see it. You can change it.

Answer 7

You have to learn to accept and appreciate yourself. Forget about how good others are, instead find out what you are good at and work on it. Comparison will only make you feel inadequate cos there will always be someone who is better than you . You live life only once, why do you want to destroy it ? Everyone goes through bad batches in life but how you overcome this very much depends on yourself. If you think you can , you can ! It is all in your mind

Answer 8

Calm down. Its ok. people always have low times. And there are always people worse off than you.
if you are unhappy with body image just try to diet a bit. This doesnt even have to be extreme.
Like on your way back from work dont eat a chocolate bar, have an apple instead. Eat healther and you will feel FAR better in no ime at all.
If you envy your siblings success ask them how to iprove. They are your family so they will help you. In no time at all you will be happier and more confident with life.

--Loz

Answer 9

all the negativity people are telling they have power on you because you believe in them and not becasue they are true. If you say you can't lose then won't lose weight but if you say "I can lose weight" you will do your best to lose weight.
There's nothing wrong with being 24 and virgin. And you don't need something or someone to be better you. You need to love yourself, work hard to better yourself. God loves you just the way you are and he believes in you and I believe you can be even more successful than your brothers. Send me email if u want more advice.
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Answer 10

start jogging tomorrow, wake up at six and jog, you'll loose weight. you are shy and you don't have a girlfriend, fine, maybe you just haven't met the right girl yet and try to open up, be positive, be friendly and treat others sincerely. you got a crap job, so what??? don't forget you still get paid for it. if you want to get a better pay job, then take some courses and upgrade yourself, don't expect things change overnight, take life as a game, sometimes results are not important but the process of us achieving things are.

Answer 11

what you need is some self esteem lessons. before anyone can love you, you have to love yourself and at the moment you seem pretty down on yourself. start thinking positively and join some activites you like doing and who knows who you will meet. even try doing some self esteem courses to boost yourself up a bit, you will notice the difference and it will help you a lot. only you can take the first step.