Well i m living lonely with no friends in my locality where i live. I m feeling bored n loosing hope.Also i hav som friends in college but they r too busy in their life n do not talk often.Also i m doing chartered accountancy studies n just waitin for exams to come.But till then i hav nothing to do except chat online.Pls suggest me ways i can keep myself good and can mature with world.Also how do i make new friends except online.I want friends with i whom i can talk n meet n share my problems.I know u r annoyed by reading this problem.But would be kind of u if u help me.
2006-12-02 22:04:27 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I guess the only way to make new friends is to go out and get to know people. How about starting a social group in your local college? I'm sure there are others there feeling the same way as you do. Or maybe you could do some charitable works for the less fortunate in your free time. And exercise will definitely help alleviate stress from your life. You don't need a gym to exercise... all you need is an exercise bench and a set of adjustable dumbbells and you can search the net on various cardiovascular exercises that show a step-by-step approach.
2006-12-02 22:22:13 · answer #1 · answered by xander 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see...you could start with counseling. Then get a hobby OUTSIDE the home that doesn't involve computers. Then there is always the possibility of getting a job. You meet all kinds of people if you get a job in the public eye like retail or food service. Even if you don't NEED the job, get one just to give you something to do and out of the house. Find a walking path at your local park and start walking everyday. Never know who you would meet there. Or join a gym, a church, an organization that helps people such as the Red Cross, American Cancer Society or any kind of group that is a fund raiser for illnesses such as cancer (Relay for Life).
2006-12-02 23:08:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is unbelievable that you have no freinds, or anyone in your locality. There may not be freinds, but you dont make freinds out of freinds, you make freinds from strangers, getting to know them, understanding them, sharing time with them. How are your freinds too busy in life, cos' they have found things to do, right ? How come you do not think of anything that could take up all the free hours you have ? ''Keep myself good and can mature with the world'', ????? now what is that supposed to mean ? You ought to start somewhere. Go to a local cafe/restaurant/library/groups..or wahtever. You'll find loads of people there who may really end up as your good freinds. You haven't looked too far, and you have confined yourself in front of your PC. Get out, and see for yourself. The whole world would be your freind, if you just put in a little effort from your side. You can think of other things too like a part time job, some short-term courses, involving in some club activities...theres so much, and its hard to believe that you have not tried one single thing and post a question here.
I notice you do have some self esteem issues, work on that. No one would be annoyed, after all we got the 2 points we're looking for. Get out of that shell, and get going.
goodluck
2006-12-02 22:15:57 · answer #3 · answered by arya 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The more you stay at home the more you want too.
Exercise is the key.. motivation is what you require...
exercising like going to the gym not only increases your fitness levels.. but it makes you happier and healthier.
Effort with friendship is a 2 way street.. you have to organise outings with your friends even if its just eating, or shopping, talking on the phone.. an they in turn will do the same if they are good friends.
2006-12-02 22:15:36 · answer #4 · answered by xxhordoxx 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a hobby. Something that will get some of your energy out. Or take up a sport. Listen to music. Find part time work, if you don't need the money, do it for passing the time. Besides, this is a great place to learn how to grow up. Go to the hobby section of the library, find something interesting to pick up. Check out the newspapers, for extra curicular activities, like dancing, you will find many people from dif walks of life doing this, and make friends with them.
2006-12-02 23:15:52 · answer #5 · answered by thru a glass darkly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Evaluate yourself what is good for you and things that makes you happy or discover your talent and nurture it until you will success. Or makes yourself pofitable think of good business or find a job as a sales agent, you can sales or promote your product through internet, make your day busy you will discover that time is gold not to waste for being self pity because you have no friends. exploring in business or finding a job as an agents makes you self confident and have so many friends to entertain. Or the very best you to do if you don't like all i've mentioned above is to go to church and attend the youth oganizations explore yourself in religious life i'm sure you will be happy then. One thing i want to tell you, SELF PITTY IS NUMBER ONE ENEMY TO YOURSELF, because it creates negative feelings you can't move on to your life, surely you have that mentally disturbance.
2006-12-02 22:43:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes , u really look mentally distrubed but i can say its in ur hands how friendly u can get with others try 2 talk 2 ur neighbours make friends in college go out witth them try 2 be happy and avoid saying that u r lonely becos this makes u feel alone.
cheer up and make as many friends as u can . Live 2 the fullest
"Kal kare so aaj kar Aaj kare so AB" Best wishes
2006-12-02 22:19:21 · answer #7 · answered by indian beauty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont problem :) tell your husband you purely dont sense comfortable and if he thinks no longer something is incorrect and he will 'leave you' then i wager he's not the right guy,,, :( a husband is meant to make effective you're comfortable and chuffed. tell him that you cant take it anymore and bypass out including your household or a close pal. if he cares he might want to contain you or a minimum of do something about it if he doesnt then he's the right man or woman i wish this helped
2016-11-23 14:07:15 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not annoying to read this, you havent far off described my life! Christmas is coming so you could invite your college mates for some christmas drinks show them how fun you are (but dont go over board trying to impress or they'll think your crazy).
2006-12-02 22:24:50 · answer #9 · answered by truth_and_time_tells_all 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends aren't going to come to you, so you have to go out to them!
Join a course or something you're intrested in.Go out to clubs , get in contact with brothers/sisters/cousins.
2006-12-02 22:46:22 · answer #10 · answered by Janine 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋