Different type of Catholic wedding?

Question

I'm planning to marry a Catholic girl and I have no religion myself. I was told that the Catholic church does different style of wedding because one partner is not in the Catholic religion. I was told by my fiancé and it seem unfair to me. Why is there a different type of wedding for a non-catholic partner with a catholic partner wedding VS both partner are Catholic wedding? From what I was told, it is unfair because I thought God treated everyone equal and hate no one, but forgive them. Can we still get marry with the same traditional wedding like everyone else whose are Catholic? Why is it always my way or the highway? I know all religions teachers us to do good to other, but when it come to marriage then there is a wall between two partners. When we have kid/s why does the Catholic religion want them to follow the Catholic religion? Why not let them choose what religion they want to follow if any?

Thank you

Answer 1

I'm sorry for what I posted earlier. I thought better of it and removed it.

Every organization has rules that must be followed, whether it is a club, a company, a country or a religion. Yes, God loves everyone, but it doesn't mean that anyone can do whatever they feel like doing and expect to be equal to everyone else.

I am a Catholic and I don't impose my religion on anyone else. But the thing is, if someone wants the benefit of something related to the Catholic religion or Catholic church (such as a Catholic marriage), one must either be Catholic, become Catholic or abide by the rules.

I take it that everything is ok between you, your family and her family? Mixed religions can take a toll on families.

Hao, Yahoo won't allow me to e-mail you. It says something about your e-mail address not being verified. I'll answer your e-mail here...

For marriages based on love, you can have a civil wedding performed by any justice of the peace or a captain of a ship. For a marriage whose foundation is based on Catholicism, it necessarily requires two Catholics to be joined.

I seems to me, the question here is this:Are your beliefs (non-beliefs) strong enough to prevent you from becoming a Catholic, or are your fiancees' beliefs weak enough for her to renounce tradition and marry outside the religion and her church.

A secondary question is: Are you and your fiancees' love for one another sufficient to endure a lifetime of these fundamental differences. A concrete foundation, if not mixed in the right proportions will crack and under pressure will eventually cause a catastrophic collapse.

And you should also consider that when you marry someone, you also marry their family. I'm not trying to persuade you to do anything one way or another. I'm alerting you to possible dangers you should seriously consider in any decisions you may make.

You sound like a very nice, understanding person. Again, I wish to apologize for my earlier outburst. I wish both of you all the happiness in the world.

Answer 2

I was Baptist whenever I married my Catholic wife seven years ago. I've never heard of the "different" style you are talking of. Whenever you approach the Church to wed, you are asked (at least I was) if you'd like to have a mass performed at the wedding or not. You do not have to have the mass performed and not having it makes your marriage no less significant in the eyes of the Lord or the Church for that matter. Without the mass at the wedding, you're probably going to have a wedding that runs about thirty minutes. With a mass, you're looking at about one and a half to two hours depending on the music, homily, readings, etc.

In my wedding, a mass was performed. The priest allowed me to do everything in the mass that my wife did except take holy communion. This is just a rule that the Church (and God) has applied and I fully respected it. I am now Catholic (not because of my wife, but due to a lot of research, soul-searching, and the RCIA classes that I attended).

It was very hard for me to become Catholic because my parents and the bulk of the rest of my family believe that Catholics are idol worshipping, saint praying fools. Unfortunately for them, they have been misinformed their entire lives. I gave up quite a lot in order to marry my wife and become Catholic. However, I'd do it all over again in a heartbeat. I'm not trying to convert you, just trying to let you know that if you really love your fiance, then nothing should stop you from marrying her.

Good luck.

Answer 3

A Catholic wedding is actually a Catholic Mass in which the Sacrament of Matrimony is performed.

The "different kind" of Catholic wedding that may be talked about is one in which the part of the Mass that includes the consecration of the bread and wine and the Sacrament of Eucharist may be omitted if you are uncomfortable with it. Not, being a Catholic, you are not allowed to participate in this sacrament.

Talk to the priest and see what you guys can work out. Best of wishes to the two of you.

Contact me if you have any further questions.

Answer 4

It has to do with doctrine. Trust me a catholic wedding is usually long and boring be happy you get off easy.

Answer 5

catholic weddings or whatever type of religion it doesn't matter, what's important is the love you had and solemn moment of the wedding... you'll know it when the weddings near.