2006-12-02 21:16:37 · 19 answers · asked by prosper 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Ooo, yuck. What a nasty situation. And it's not necessarily a bad thing to tell your friend, and I highly doubt that your friend is going to rush out and file for a divorce just because she found out her husband has a roaming eye. If you were straight with the husband, told him you were not interested, the best thing to do would be to let her know that situation occurred. Just use some sensitivity about it; don't just slap her upside the head with it. And don't pass judgment either--the husband could be going through some thangs that made him behave that way. If I thought every friend's boyfriend/husband that "hit up" on me was a jerk worthy of being dumped, I'd have a lot of single unhappy girlfriends. Give him the benefit of the doubt, but do inform your friend in a sensitive way. Let her know you rebuffed him, but not in a way to make it seem like you were beating him off with a stick (which I'm sure you weren't, right?). Try to see if she wants to talk about it with you and certainly encourage her to have an intimate discussion with her husband. As a friend, you owe her the loyalty of letting her know what happened. As a friend, you owe her the decency of believing in and supporting her choices--and one of them was marrying this man.
2006-12-02 21:26:13 · answer #1 · answered by dangerouspoet 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are a real friend, as you say, you should not come between your friend and her husband. The attraction (could it be mutual??) between the friend's husband and you could have been averted if you didnt entertain the notion, nor given him much attention. Your statements are vague, or meant to be, thus hard to decipher. Please dont break the marriage.... especially as she is your friend.
2006-12-02 21:37:06 · answer #2 · answered by edith i 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell your friends husband to back off; you're flattered, but not interested in more than friendship, so back off. You needn't tell the wife about the conversation. You will have taken care of the problem.
2006-12-02 21:21:56 · answer #3 · answered by Hank Hill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's touchy.i don't know if i'd tell"friend"or not.i know you probably think you should...and technically,that's right,but often that will backfire and "friend"will call you a liar and not believe what you have to say.idon't know....however,it sounds like their marriage is already due to be broken up,since husband is wanting wife's friend.if he's"on the prowl",it will be someone else he'll pounce on since you aren't interested.
2006-12-03 09:46:51 · answer #4 · answered by backlashwarrior 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your in a difficult place. if you tell her marriage will break up which maybe its better if it does since he is hitting on his wife's best friend.
2006-12-02 21:19:57 · answer #5 · answered by nikogal2006 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I suggest u tell her right away , and have some proof .
she will think u are tryin to ruin her marriage or so
she's your friend and she will listen to you
Good Luck!
2006-12-02 21:21:58 · answer #6 · answered by Holly wood 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
girl you need to say something because if you don't it could get worse. by keeping it a secret you are keeping together a unbalanced marriage and you must secretly want him too because you are keeping this secret from your friend..
what kind of friend are you rachel..
2006-12-02 21:20:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are her true friend you would tell her, she deserves to know what her husband is doing, he could be doing it to other females, you might not be the other one! Warn her.... Immediately.
2006-12-02 21:24:26 · answer #8 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
her marriage isn't that great if he wants you sorry to say this but you need to tell her she will hate you if you don't and respect you if you do she might be in denial for awhile but it will sink in and you don't want her to be with that kind of man do u
2006-12-02 21:22:20 · answer #9 · answered by tracemiss 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋