my parents want me to marry a job worker whom, who might earn 5000 per month. do u think i will be able to adjust as i belong to a nice family, i m only of 20 yr, i m studying bca. infact i m ready to get married but i want my husband to be richer than me and educated. do u think i m wrong, what should i do help me please
2006-12-02 21:14:23 · 36 answers · asked by shreya 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
YOU ARE VERY RIGHT! I don't know what these guys are saying. Its all rubbish. From where love comes into picture when it's an arranged marriage.In an arranged marriage, one has to consider everything from earning to education to family status.
The responses from other people are true if he is your lover but not otherwise. You are still very young and not of right age to get married. Finish your studies, get a good job and settle down. Think of a marriage not before you are 26. I assure you that you will get a far better match for you. This guy is not for you. So oppose the marriage strongly and don't go for it under any circumstances.
Have faith in me. I am your well-wisher and don't want you to spoil your life.
GET BACK TO ME IF YOU ARE STILL HAVING DOUBTS.
2006-12-03 00:12:10 · answer #1 · answered by praveen_silicon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself following:
1. What is your own socioeconomic status?
2. What is your family's current Income?
3. Which City you live in & where does your hubby to be chosen by your family lives?
4. Apart from the person's current income, what is his education, what is his furthur chance of growth?
5. Will he allow you to be a working woman if you wan to be?
6. If you are a working woman how much would be able to earn?
7. What are your practical aspiration for future lifestyle?
8. Your age is 20 now. Can your family wait for next five years so that you can pursue higher education.
9. What should be your dream hubby's income & how far is this fellow from him?
10. Are you ready to revolt & stay alone on your own?
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2006-12-02 22:37:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Things to consider:
a) your still very, very wet behind the ears... this is much to soon to be considering
b) Marrying for money makes this a one-dimensional relationship... can you live with this alone?
3) Parents, while well intentioned, should live their lives and you live yours. Always do what is best for you
4) never be fooled by the adage: "we marry for love". Love is only one aspect of it. People who marry only for love typically divorce. You need to looking at other factors- do we complement each other, is he/she spiritual, will we be able to make it finacially, if he's an MD or lawyer or other busy profession- will I ever see him, where will we live and will I be happy there, how many kids will have and do we agree on this, etc.. Essentially, love is 1 dimension, but not the only one.
Good luck
2006-12-02 22:14:35 · answer #3 · answered by Wisdom??? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey ,if u both like or love each other than i think u should marry becoz than ur understanding will be good and u can adjust,but if u both meet 1st time than no way wait ask ur parents to find a boy of rich class or ask that boy to try another jobs.if u think boy is not happy hearted(means lazy and not of ur nature)then refuse him.but if he loves u than plz u should except him becoz then he will do any thing to make u happy.lastly i am of 11class and not yet having a job so i cant say that i am right or wrong this u have to decide.best of luck for ur life baby.bye
2006-12-02 22:02:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you are ready to get married then, work on "How you people can improve your income". You can encourage him to get a high paid job, job change, may study after job hours for career enhancement or promotion.
Since you are studying bca, you are technically skiller person, you are not a dumb. You can make your career and support your family, if you like that.
Best of Luck
2006-12-02 21:41:02 · answer #5 · answered by Sunlight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can marry a Guy who earns 500 a month on year and 20000 the next it is not money you should be chasing. It is when the times are tough something else will pull you through...like commitment love and admiration for each other.
2006-12-02 21:20:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of what your parents want, it is your life. I think that you should feel deep love, admiration and attachment to someone before marrying. It does not really matter if he earns more or less than you do. Education is not a guarantee, either, although I think it helps if you are both educated.
2006-12-02 21:20:44 · answer #7 · answered by seek_fulfill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u decide whether u want to marry a man or money? finance is not a problem once ur bca is complete and u get a job. u should have maturity and understanding beheaviour. Whom ever u get married, if u donot co-operate, comitt to him and understand....ur marriage would not be success. see a person...not money....
All the best.
2006-12-03 16:08:41 · answer #8 · answered by SureshkumarYVS from hyderabad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no ,u deserve best dear ...u r only 20 do ur bca 1st....then think about marriage .....u can get a good guy in future this is not ur age of marriage do ur mba too after that do marriage...say ur parents that u want 2 finish ur study st they will understand...
ony 5000 per month is not enough 2 spend life dear....u deserve a boy who earns 50,000pre month....ask ur parents about this ,u will finish ur study then will get married .....good luck...
2006-12-03 07:38:41 · answer #9 · answered by jagrati 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u are marrying him for the money , or because of your parents .
Don't marry him at all u will not be happy , well u will be but not for long . Just think is this what you really want
2006-12-02 21:19:37 · answer #10 · answered by Holly wood 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋