For me it is definately having a child, Im pregnant at present. It was a goal in life I really wanted along with a good career. Do some off you just want a good marriage and if so would you rather have you husband/wife or children if you had to choose and are you a man or a woman?
thanks
2006-12-02 21:07:09 · 18 answers · asked by oceanwaves 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Im facinated by the answers so far, seems men like the marriage thing and women children. Interesting, now as woman are earning our own money and a lot of men are reluctant about marrying, makes me wonder if men are redundant?
For the men, I was going to get married and got pregnant just before the wedding day. He freaked out at the responsibility,(even though we were in our 30s and it was planned), I am delighted at being pregnant and finding out what my ex was like, before marriage, and even though he would like to embark again on our relationship there seems on point. I don't need him.
2006-12-02 21:24:52 · update #1
PLEASE IT IS NOT WHAT ORDER IM ASKING IT IS A CHOICE ONE OR THE OTHER! TO ALL THE CHILDREN, WHO HAVE NEVER BEEN BEEN KATIE AND THE ONE AFTER!
2006-12-02 21:43:26 · update #2
i would rather have my children because there is a guaranteed bond and connection there for life and is also a continuation of your family and although many people will say they would rather a husband/wife ther is no certainty for a marriage or even a relationship. a marriage could end tomorrow but children are for life
2006-12-02 21:19:43 · answer #1 · answered by ag 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage...a good life partner is much more important to me than children. And, no offense, but, hopefully the day will come again when people get married first, then have their children. Children deserve to have 2 parents when possible. I wish you luck with your baby and am not putting you down with the above comment. I was talking about society in general. It doesn't seem like marriage is as important as it used to be and I hope family values will become the "hip" thing again at some point in our world.
2006-12-03 07:54:51 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you only want a simple answer: it is getting married than.
Actually I am againt marriage. But in your question I made q decision between a lover and a child. You can always have a child or adopt one (what I think that is better. there are lots of children crying for help. why to bring a new one yourself just to satisfy your ego?), but you cannot always find the right man to love you...
2006-12-03 07:57:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a child to me is the most important. I am a woman. If I were going to have a child and was not married I dont think it would matter. per say.
However I would like the child to have both parents be on good terms married or not.
( I am married by the way..)
2006-12-03 05:12:08 · answer #4 · answered by nikogal2006 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a hefty commitment true, but having a baby together (and I emphasise the together) is a much bigger one.
What could show your love for him more than being willing to suffer the body changes that go with pregnancy, the pain that goes with labour and the twenty or so years of anxiety afterwards....
I have done it twice and I am considering a third!
2006-12-03 05:24:46 · answer #5 · answered by lothlorien_priestess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd agree with you. Id rather have a offspring. They'll never leave you and show you the most love. Marriages can fail family most of the time doesn't. Along with your good career. Im with ya 100%
2006-12-03 05:11:56 · answer #6 · answered by Mike Hunt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if i could only do one or the other i would have a child...
the bond between husband and wife is broken often...half of marriages end in divorce. But when you have a child, it's for life. You never stop being a mother and you never stop loving your kids. I guess I would prefer that sort of unconditional love...
2006-12-03 05:13:44 · answer #7 · answered by el nombre 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
i want marriage more than children at the minute!!
Once i am married i will start to think about having children but i dont think that children should just be brought into the world for their parents not to be together!!
a solid marriage first then children!!!!!!
2006-12-03 05:39:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is NOT a choice, unless you decide to make it either/or
Having a child just because YOU want one is rather selfish, don't you think?
Why should a child be just the goal of my life and not the result of a loving rfelationship in which we both want to bring up children.
Pity you waited until you were pregnant to ask, wasn't it.
You have already made your decision
2006-12-03 05:17:28 · answer #9 · answered by alan h 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i was going to marry my boy friend and found out i was pregnant. he was not happy and wanted me to get rid of the baby and i said no so we split up and i had a little boy. i have to more children now and are not married i would put having my children before getting married every time.
2006-12-03 05:21:58 · answer #10 · answered by debbie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋