......out to dinner with some trashy looking lady. The husband saw my co-worker, and immediately gave an excuse, and didn't introduce the trashy lady.
The co-worker has been friends with his wife for about 14 years, and has done some real-estate business with the husband, so she knows them both pretty well.
But she refuses to tell her friend what she saw. The trashy lady was of a different race, which her friend is completely against. My co-worker says that she's been in a similar situation, and lost a friend after telling her what was going on, and doesn't want to get involved.
Is she a bad friend? Or is she right in minding her own business?
2006-12-02 20:29:34 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If I were the co-worker who saw it, and I was best friends with the wife...I would know whether it would upset my friend or not, or if it might be something my friend was worried about, or wanted to know in the first place. I would care about my friend enough to either; 1. Keep it to myself if she never brought up any worries in that regard. 2. Tell her if I knew she was the kind of person who wanted to know. Some people think you are just trying to ruin there relationship or something like that by telling them something, which you know the spouse would probably deny anyways. Why ruin a friendship, if you're friend doesn't really want to know, or doesn't have any worries about her relationship? I would wait and see if the topic arises and proceed accordingly, and cautiously.
2006-12-02 20:59:01 · answer #1 · answered by Little Jeannie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's really bothering her send an anonomous note to the wife. Telling wife the details and date and time. This way it lets her know and it takes the pressure off of your co-worker.
She is not being a bad friend she just doesn't want to lose any friend over this situation. She lost them in the past because as long as the wife isn't willing to leave the husband the truthteller is always the one to be kicked out.
2006-12-02 22:26:31 · answer #2 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what one does in the dark will eventually come to the light. Give it time, he might just walk into his wife one day. The co-worker could be overreacting. Is he obligated to introduce her? The co-worker is not his wife, he owes her no explanation.
2006-12-02 20:33:52 · answer #3 · answered by lovelife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 14:02:46 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with her. I went through the samething, I just couldn't believe what I was hearing, but deep down in my heart I knew. I lost some good friends who tried to help me by telling.
2006-12-02 20:32:53 · answer #5 · answered by Fruit Cake Lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was me I'd tell my friend the FACTS of what I saw , no more no less ~ because if it was my husband that a friend of mine saw- I'd also want them to tell me .
2006-12-02 20:51:50 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure sure, it's always the womens friends catching the guys in the act while the poor ol women are home cooking and cleaning right?? women do it all the time too
2006-12-02 20:57:29 · answer #7 · answered by godzillasagoodman 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She doesn't know it was an affair but she could ask thew husband and watch him squirm.
2006-12-02 20:35:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's none of your business, your friend should tell, not you.
2006-12-02 20:33:02 · answer #9 · answered by ~*~Tessa~*~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's best to stay out of it.
2006-12-02 21:05:44 · answer #10 · answered by bad_bob_69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋