2006-12-02 20:26:54 · 8 answers · asked by Direktor 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
my father verbally abused me, but it hurt and helped me... now if people verbally abuse me, it bounces right off, it cant hurt more than my own fathers abuse, but i think it also made me afraid to commit becuz, he's my father, u kno?? so maybe ima afraid to stick around with this girl becuz she might turn her bak on me, u kno... but im workin on it... he'll make me a better father than he wuz
2006-12-02 20:30:26 · answer #1 · answered by bigguu254 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have been verbally abused, I think it "helped" turn me into a pretty bitter woman. For some people, if you are abused at an early age, you feel like you are stuck, I felt stuck for many years. I used abuse as an excuse to withdraw from life. For the most part, I'm over it, but it's something I'll never forget, and sometimes I can still hear it.
2006-12-02 20:39:12 · answer #2 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never truly been verbally abused. If I have, I don't recall, but if someone says something rude, racist, or ignorant, then I definitely let them know how much of a jackoff they're being. I'm not afraid to confront them. One of the worst things nowadays for me is when someone says something racist (not directed at me) in general. I report those idiots. The worst thing ever, though, is the prevalence of the phrase, "That's so gay." I *HATE* that sh*t. There's nothing wrong with being gay. I love hot gay guys... they're my friends, and they're so sweet. To add such a derogatory connotation to it is absolutely unnecessary. They're the ignorant losers whom I know will be working and serving me my fries and tacos in the future. The one word I wish were never created is the F word, though. For me, it's a step above the N word. I just want to punch those people...
Oh, and before you call me a hypocrite for cussing, I just want to say that yes, I do cuss. However, I never use anything of the racist variety or target minority groups. I just use the general expletives... lol
2006-12-02 20:38:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all have at some point. It stays with you, if you let it. It becomes a negative voice in your head, putting you down. You start to believe it. You start to say it to yourself...
I was picked on during adolescence & it's stayed with me to this day. Even after being a model, even after having thousands of compliments from strangers & men hitting on me etc it couldn't undo what those bullies did to me at age 13. I look in the mirror & I still see an ugly 13 year old girl (what they called me), but I'm learning to see the beautiful woman that I've become (& the beautiful girl that I was even back then.) I know that kids are insecure & just need a scapegoat & will pick on someone vulnerable. I know looking back that there was nothing wrong with me (hell, the guys that picked on me were uglier than I was!) but it hurts & it never really leaves completely. The insecurity stays.
Verbal abuse is very destructive. If you take it, if you listen to it & believe it, it's very damaging. I could never do that to someone. Cruelty is the one unforgiveable thing as far as I'm concerned. I wish I could tell those bullies off now! I wish I could tell them to shove it, they're just jealous because I'm smarter & more talented than them. They're just afraid because I'm precious & vulnerable & I remind them of their own weaknesses & they have to pretend to be strong & superior.
Oh well, I always loved the story of the ugly duckling. I guess it's not so bad having been picked on for being different, being the ugly duckling that becomes a swan. I'd rather be extraordinary than ordinary.
Anyone who verbally abuses someone else feels insecure about themself & is trying to boost their own self-esteem by putting someone else down. Don't ever let someone put you down. Don't believe them. Feel sorry for them. Bullies are the biggest cowards of all.
2006-12-02 21:22:18 · answer #4 · answered by amp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been verbally abused in my life! but it only hurts me when it comes from someone who means something to me.
2006-12-02 20:37:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of my childhood(from 5-15 yrs of age) My father referred to me as either "White n!gg3r" or "pansy". Today I have to ask the important people in my life regularly "exactly how important am I to you." I ask that in a variety of ways(never straight out ofcourse), but none-the-less I do ask.
I have come to understand that a pansy is a flower(which flowers are not appreciated by men very often) but I have never understood what a n!gg3r was entirely. I am still in search of what that word really means.
2006-12-02 20:35:18 · answer #6 · answered by Red Winged Bandit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I still to this day am not real comfy talking to the farmer that did this to me. He is MUCH bigger then I am and I thought he was going to hit me!!
I am not all that big of a women....
2006-12-02 20:29:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. it really made me feel bad and I really feel like giving that fellow one tight slap.
2006-12-02 22:23:39 · answer #8 · answered by Forgettable 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋