And then come to find out they are actually married, what would you do? End it immediately? Demand that they confess to their spouse and divorce them? Assist them with the proceedings and forgive them?
2006-12-02 20:07:08 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
tricky.... end it immediately and then give them he opportunity to decide what they really want.... if its 2 divorce the original spouse and b with you then help with the divorce... but watch yourself... they may just do the same thing to you later on....
2006-12-02 20:10:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first off, this person lied to you about being married. Two reasons in one short sentence that should have propelled you into ending it immediately. If you don't know what they are, then they are the person (1) LIED to you about being (2) MARRIED. Yeah, I know this drill. If he/she didn't tell you he/she was married, then chances are he/she didn't have any plans to get divorced in the first place. So demanding anything at this point is moot. And obviously if assisting him/her with the divorce proceedings came LAST as one of your questions, then he/she STILL hasn't considered confessing to his/her spouse, much less, AGAIN, considered divorcing him/her. Yeah, I know this drill. It's gonna hurt, but you're gonna have to let this one go. The sooner the better.
2006-12-02 20:16:24 · answer #2 · answered by dangerouspoet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just run, child. She did that because she has no respect for herself or you. Why would you even want to be with someone who betrays you like this? Betrayal does not taste so good. Are you getting a lot of Koko? Where does she finds time to please two of you? Most people don't even have enough time for one. Wow!
If she did that to someone else, she would do it to you also, trust me, I've been there. Some vices don't go away. Some humans are not capable of honesty and faithfulness.
Find another human that can be faithful to you. They're out there.
In the meanwhile, take care of your heart.
2006-12-02 20:41:46 · answer #3 · answered by lili dauphin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be ticked off and then I would probably leave because if they lie and deceive me in such a way I would never trust them again its a diffrence in knowing first hand or just being just plain ole decived I would never forgive and I could never forget so It could never work for me and plus I would feel really sorry for the poor person that took a serious commintment with a liar who was just playing.
2006-12-02 20:14:37 · answer #4 · answered by ant26 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you are going through. I had the same thing happen to me. I even met this persons family and they never gave me a clue.
I told him to confront his wife or I was gone, he did and he moved in with me but I can tell he still cared for her. Then I started thinking, if he did this to her, a woman he married,professed his love to, had a baby with, has been in his life for years. What could he do to someone like me that he supposely fall for and has only known for months?
So I dumped him and you know what, he did it again to her, and again and she's still with him.
I would dump him. If he can do that to her then what do you think he will do to you when a newer model comes along?
2006-12-02 20:52:59 · answer #5 · answered by LC 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like a case for a "never speaking to her again, not even to inform her that I'm never speaking to her again" type of breakup.
Adopt a zero-tolerance policy.
People invest way too much energy trying to 'save' their relationships with assholes when there are plenty of decent people out there they could be with instead.
2006-12-02 20:21:28 · answer #6 · answered by randomstupidhandle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
change your thinking from long term, to thats a long time without being honest. damm. Kick their ***, thats the best assistance you can give at this point.
2006-12-02 20:48:53 · answer #7 · answered by ckgene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it would depend on your morals. If it was me l would definately end it straight away !! I would want to tell their husband / wife myself to make sure that they found out. I would definately tell the cheater how disgusted l was with him / her and never speak to them again !!
2006-12-02 20:16:34 · answer #8 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her or him go immediatly. Cheats never change and if you end up toghether,you can bet your boots the cheating still goes on.
2006-12-02 21:30:52 · answer #9 · answered by BFCP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depend on how deep ur love is for each other and if u think u guys have a future 2gether. Don't demand but ask them wat they want to do about it, then take it from there!
2006-12-02 20:20:45 · answer #10 · answered by wil_stylz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋