please! serious help needed, i'm so depressed... why and how did this happen?

Question

after a fight with a friend (nothing too serious) she decided not to be friends anymore. so... i was like, WTF!?! she explained that i don't give her enough space and that she's beginning to feel that i was starting to like her more than a friend (i was). i admitted this to her and tried to make compromises, but i did this the day after our fight. i told her that if she doesn't answer for a while i'll take it that she really wants to end our friendship. after about 5 days, she answered my question of "can we stay friends?" with "No, sorry it's just getting too awkward and i'm new to relationships."

i don't believe this is happening... we had so much fun together, we got along, we laughed, we had lots in common, we shared problems, we even looked good together. this fight was our first after 3 months knowing each other. did i pressure her in deciding too quickly?

how can i make this right again? i'm only 17 and i'm already stressing about this crap... i don't want to lose a friend.

Answer 1

Depression isn't just bad moods and occasional melancholy. It's not just feeling down or sad, either. These feelings are normal in children, especially during the teen years. Even when major disappointments and setbacks make people feel sad and angry, the negative feelings usually lessen with time. But when a depressive state, or mood, lingers for a long time — weeks, months, or even longer — and limits a child's ability to function normally, it can be diagnosed as depression.

Types of depression include: major depression, dysthymia, adjustment disorder with depressed mood, seasonal affective disorder, and bipolar disorder or manic depression. All of these can affect children.

What Causes Depression?
Depression usually isn't caused by one event or thing; it's typically the result of one or more factors, and its causes vary from child to child. Depression can be caused by lowered levels of neurotransmitters (chemicals that carry signals through the nervous system) in the brain, which limits a person's ability to feel good. Depression can run in families, so a child who has a close relative with depression may be more likely to experience it.

Significant life events such as the death of a loved one, a divorce, a move to a new area, and even a breakup with a girlfriend or boyfriend can bring on symptoms of depression. Stress also can be a factor, and because the teen years can be a time of emotional and social turmoil, things that are difficult for anyone to handle can be devastating to a teen.

Also, chronic illness can contribute to depression, as can the side effects of certain medicines or infections.

Answer 2

Ok, allow me to untangle your yound 17 year old mind my friend.

You want to be around her as much as you can....
You actually make efforts to pace yourself in thinking about her or being around her....
You don't know what it feels like to be number 1 so you dont actually have rejective feelings or you would not be asking this question.
You want this girl to want you and then and only then is when you will totally come to play with the mopre than a friend thing.


Solution: Be rejected. But understand that its obvious she doesnt find you attractive. So move on, and also understand that you really dont want her as a friend, so dont waist your time and energy stressing out over a dead end.
If you feel that you are lacking in some form of charactoristic that is attractive, thats the easy part, your young and you can still focus on creating you , as well as phisical appearance and health, thats just hard work and determination. What you cannot fix easily or at all, is memmories of times where you really didnt belong. You dont want to have to many negative or painfull emotional memmories in life, because it weigjs on your concious. So i say, next time you see her, give her a big kiss, tell her you really enjoy being with her and you would vote that you 2 should be a little more than friends, point out that your vote is pretty much half the vote, look her in the eye and tell her you will see her later as you just take off.

Bada bing bada boom, have fun in life, and everyone else around you will too.
TLF

Answer 3

This happened because you let it happen. You got blind sided by your emotions. You came on too strong, too serious too soon. So she shot you down. It may be difficult to understand now but it's really no big deal. This is just too much to dwell on for just one person. You are not going to make it right again as she has moved on like she is going to do with a lot of others. You need to do the same. So get a grip on yourself and don't take this personally. Look at this as a kind of a test. A right of passage through life. Like you said, you're only seventeen. If you get this bummed out by this adversity what are you going to do when you're faced with more of the same, that is sure to come your way, when you get out in the real world? Just wait. The best is yet to come.

Answer 4

First of all you are 17. Chances are what you think now and what you think in 20 minutes with her around can be very different. You like your friend because you do get along so well. It might be because either 1 or both of you might be trying to be someone that you're not. God did not intend for the same sex to be together! Marriage/ relationships are ment to be governed by 1 MAN and 1 WOMAN. Anything else is CONFUSION sent from the devil himself. GOD does not give us evil thoughts, un holy curiousity, in fact, He sent his Son Jesus Christ, to die for us for falling short. We are all sinners. We have all done something wrong, but the right thing to do is to rebuke the demon of confusion. Anything you know isn't right is very wrong. The only reason why you are depressed now, is because the devil is making you feel that way. It is up to you to choose not to feel bad, and to learn from your mistakes, seek forgiveness, and read the Bible. Please go to church, you would be amazed how God can help if you just seek it!

Answer 5

Relax, and don't pressure her. You're right; you are young. Don't stress about this. Just be friends, take it easy. She may be a good friend, but she might not be interested in dating.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Let her go, and she will come back to you... as your friend. As to her being a girlfriend, you are 17 years old... trust me on this one: there are a lot more girlfriends ahead of you. Move on and enjoy life!

Answer 8

find a new one. There are many fish in the pond.

Answer 9

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