My girlfriend cheated on me with this guy, i think it was her ex-boyfriend... I dont know what to do... she lives in vermont...i live in RI... was it doomed from the beginning? being a LDR? or was it just her? She said to her best friend who im friends with that she took what she loved and threw it away... and she told me it was a huge mistake and that it made her realize how much she cared for me... I dont know what to do.. help?
2006-12-02 19:32:29 · 13 answers · asked by Chef Shortie 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
we did set parameters... she said she would see none else, and I said the same, so it is monogomous
2006-12-02 19:57:20 · update #1
This is a hard one because I almost fit into your gf's seat.
I didn't quite go the whole way, but I got snuggly with someone else. Although it isn't the excuse, and I did want to do more, I don't ever want to cheat on my girlfriend. I was honest with her and told her my thoughts and what went on.
We have always said that if one of us ever cheats, that is the end of the relationship. My gf chose not to get rid of me, much to my relief, but it has certainly made me rethink my feelings for her.
I am all the more dedicated to her and am so grateful that her love is strong enough to love me even with my mistake.
I know I will never allow myself to get into a position like that again, and can now see my future with my girl for many more years to come.
Whilst I am not condoning your gf's actions, she may very well be serious when she says it has made her realise her feelings for you. She knows she has hurt you and it is killing her, knowing how stupid it was for what she did, this is why she says she 'threw it away'. It is her guilt.
I hope for your sake she doesn't do it to you again.
Best wishes.
2006-12-03 01:08:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-06 01:20:14 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LDRs are just an excuse for a relatioship failing. People are people LDRs or not! You have to think about yourself and your own happiness. Sometimes it is better to cut your losses, protect yourself from being hurt by that particular person and move on. Which would be easy enoug to do if you're in RI and she is in Vermont. However in some ways she has been clever in talking to your mutual friend as she has now sowen the seeds of doubt in your resolution. She knew that it would get back to you. You can take it one of two ways, either she is being extremely manipulative and you should steer well clear or she is genuinely reying to communicate with you and (dependant on how you feel) you should give her a second chance. Unfortunately that call is yours to make. The main thing to remember is to think of yourself and your own future happiness! Good luck!
2006-12-02 19:49:08 · answer #3 · answered by waggy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid I don't know what LDR means, but I can at least tell you this much - being a lesbian does not protect you from a cheating mate - its human nature in some humans, including lesbians. Perhaps you should move on to somebody who really loves you, or accept your lover's infidelity... whatever would make you the happiest seems to make the most sense. Good luck to you.
2006-12-02 19:37:01 · answer #4 · answered by Paul H 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i've had like 3 LDRs and they have all failed--- if you trully want to be with this person I would just move where she's at... but if RI is where u have to be then try inviting her there. All my ldrs lasted like 6 months top. Wish u the best.
2006-12-02 19:35:45 · answer #5 · answered by erotikos_stratiotis 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure she cheated on you? Did you verbally set the boundaries of what you both expected from this relationship you had with her -- or did you just assume that all romantic relationships must be monogamous?
Oh, okay. Talk to her then, not to us. We don't know what is motivating this girl. You should. Ring her up. Now.
2006-12-02 19:54:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've had long distance relationships one of which we would see each other every so often but they are very difficult to maintain firstly.
Secondly, if she cheated on you don't just drop her like a dead fish and try to find someone who lives closer to you and is going to remain faithful.
2006-12-03 05:29:29 · answer #7 · answered by Scully 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It shouldn't take her being with someone else to know or realize how much she cares about you.
Even if it was an isolated incident.
Maybe it is harder cuz of the distance thing.
Do you trust her?
2006-12-02 19:56:24 · answer #8 · answered by Namaste 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
E.. e easy... ge get a ano another girl girl friend... and and fo forge forget the other one.... you you ddo not de de deserve a pro problem problematic girl li like ththat...
Mer merry x-mas....
2006-12-02 19:37:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
cheaters always cheat.... get away while you still can! cheating is one rule you never ever break in a relationship! all cheaters should be put on an island
2006-12-02 20:26:06 · answer #10 · answered by Masta N8 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋